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My family eats what I cook. It's either that or they can eat cereal for dinner. LOL Seriously, when making my meal plan for each week, I keep their likes and dislikes in mind and try to cook healthy meals the entire family will enjoy. I search the internet and buy cookbooks with family-minded recipes.
I only buy one bag of chips and one other snack per week for my family to munch on. When it's gone, it's gone and they have to resort to healthy snacks. For me, knowing that I am feeding my body healthy and nutritious snacks and meals is priceless. It's all about your mindset and attitude. I can't force my husband to eat healthy, but I always encourage him to eat better. Good luck with your endeavors and I wish you the best!0 -
Wow....I think yours might be a tad bit worse than mine. The only veg mine will eat is lettuce (not in a salad - just lettuce by itself) and green beans....that's all folks. He will eat meat...he loves steaks, ribs, chicken and only catfish....he will not touch tilapia or salmon, etc. His ideal meal is meat, potatoes and green beans, followed by some baked cookies... :sad: But because of his job requires him to be busy, and he is an active sports nut he never gains......This is awful, but my husband is such a bad eater and very, very picky. He will not eat chicken, pork, or fish. He will not eat any veggies except for lettuce, I have never seen him eat a piece of fruit, and he will not eat any two foods mixed together. After 15 years of trying to change the way he eats to no avail, I have moved on. I cook whatever I am going to cook for me and the kids, if he eats great, if not there is always peanut butter. The only important thing about meal time to me is that we sit down and eat together as a family.
Believe me....... it took me a looooonnnngggg time to get to this point with his eating habits!0 -
My solution to picky eaters and different dietary restrictions is for everyone to cook for themselves.
I or my husband make a bit extra of our own meal for our 4 yr old, otherwise everyone makes whatever they want for meals.
I cooked a big dinner almost every single night for many years, and as they got older, I heard more and more..."ewww" and "I don't like X" and "I dont' want that, I'll have a mac & cheese instead", so I quit. Literally, told them all that I QUIT being chief cook and bottle washer. Ya'll just help yourselves!
Hubby and S21 are fine with it. S21 is actually learning to cook interesting dishes (I am more than willing to teach any of them) like Chicken Piccata and Shrimp Scampi. Hubby is on a low sugar, low carb, extremely limited cholesterol diet, so he can't have certain foods the rest of us can. And he hates most veggies...so he's on his own. He also has portion control issues, so I have to be very careful of the snacks I bring into the house.
My D14 is the only one who dislikes this meal plan. She doesn't like anything I cook, but she doesn't want to make her own and she refuses to eat anything that looks even remotely "healthy". No whole grain, low sugar, veggies, or anything else that the rest of us eat. She's been existing on boxed mac & cheese and frozen waffles (full sugar fake syrup required!) and frozen burritos. I'm refusing to buy more than 1 meal (each) per week of that junk, insisting she eat healthier stuff the rest of the time. Talking to her about preservatives, fat, diabetes, heart issues, chemicals, pesticides, etc...falls on deaf ears. She says she doesn't care about all that, as long as it tastes good. You'd think she would be overweight, but she's not. She's actually rather small for her age, probably due to her picky, finicky eating habits.
If you looked in our freezer you'd find lean beef, fish, chicken, shrimp, morningside products, Kashi meals, and a variety of single serving veggies (peas, corn, brussel sprouts, broccoli+chz, green beans). Our fridge has Milk, juice, water, eggs, nitrite free luncheon meats, cheeses, grapes, strawberries, pears, cheese sticks, cottage cheese, sauces and condiments. Pantry has an assortment of pastas, canned soups (MSG free), brown rice, baby potatoes, red onions, cereals (kashi, oatmeal), canned beans and veggies, applesauce, raisins, bananas, apples, oranges, and about a hundred different kinds of spices and seasonings (plus baking goods ie: sugar, whole wheat flour, etc.)
Boy....I babbled on, didn't I? Cooking is fun though, when you only have yourself to please
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We have 2 refrigerators....I don't even need to say anything more. :laugh:
The only true struggle that we have is about Salmon. Yes, Salmon. I eat it probably 3 or more times a week. I love it! Not only will he not eat it but he will follow me around and make this huge production about how it stinks up the house. It doesn't stop me...just open a window dude! Sheesh!0 -
I grew up in a family with 7 children, and even though I am second oldest, you had to learn to fend for yourself. Since we almost always had 2 younger kids in diapers (no disposables, no diaper service, 1 bathroom), my mother was never much in the mood for special requests. Asking her to make something for you to eat usually resulted in a 20 min tirade about how you were lazy and demanding. So I learned to make simple meals for myself--by the time I was 7, I could at least make fried eggs, pancakes and oatmeal (along with the obvious toast and cereal).
I moved out when I was 18 and have always followed more "alternative" eating habits, which require that you do a lot of your own cooking and food prep.
So I don't have a whole lot of patience or sympathy for men who are unwilling or unable to cook for themselves, and I *especially* don't have patience for men who not only won't cook for themselves, but then place demands on those who cook for them.0 -
My girlfriend and I eat the same foods. She does the majority of the cooking and I usually have bigger portions. We also cheat together on the weekends....maybe a little too much but we are getting back on track!0
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My SO is so greedy, the man will eat all day long if he could! He pretty much eats whatever I cook. I usually just have the meat and veggies, skip the carb and drink water. He'll eat a piece of cake or burger right in my face and so "Oh my Bad" lol. But, it's all good.0
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Hubs made the eating switch with me (food swaps, cooking methods, not eating out) but has yet to workout on a regular basis with me. He's very supportive of me, but thats where it stops.0
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Exactley, if you are hungry enough, you will eat it!
I'm not a short order cook!0 -
My husband has never been very overweight, but always had a little extra he wanted to lose. I think when I hit the 50 lb. mark he started to look at himself and he asked me to show him about this "calorie counting" thing that I use. It's pretty easy for him to lose though. He lost about 25 lbs. without putting in nearly the effort that I had to. He started out only going to the gym once a week. Now he goes 2-3 times, and he asked me to show him how to weight train, so he's even started to incorporate that.
He's definitely not very intense about this process (like I am), but that isn't really his personality. He respects that I can't have certain foods in the house, and doesn't bring stuff home.
As far as cooking, I've integrated a few new lower calorie dinner recipes, but mostly I just eat what everyone is having, but a smaller portion, and I usually end up not eating bread or extra carbs. He's decided that he REALLY likes having a thin wife, lol, so it's worth it to him to support me in this.
Something funny....he's a teacher and during the holidays he gets insane amounts of junk food. I guess after a couple of weeks he got tired of having a constant tummy-ache from eating all of it, so he laid it all out on his desk and told his students, "Take it! Take all of it. I can't eat anymore of it, and if I bring it home, my wife will kill me." :laugh:0 -
My boyfriend is pretty much not supportive even though he is full of compliments - he's the one who says "you look great to me, why do you care so much? you are getting obsessed. Here have a bite of this, we won't tell anyone". He also discourages me working out because in the limited free time I do have, he'd rather me hang out with him and he will not go to the gym no matter how often I ask.
He has plenty of weight to lose but doesn't really care. I work longer hours than him so by the time I get home, he usually has already eaten (and often it was Domino's or McDonald's). On the weekends, I work out a lot more to get exercise calories for the meals we eat out or any desserts that end up in the house. I used to just give up and have "cheat weekends" which explains why it is taking me so long to lose weight and stay on track.
I think I am better off when I just don't talk about it to him, which is hard because I do think about it constantly. It's just another challenge to overcome and I am doing well so far.0 -
My hubby won't eat anything either - it was hard to cook for him when I wasn't dieting, so now I pretty much gave up! He doesn't eat veggies, or anything whole grain, or any fish - just meat and potatoes. Pretty much, I eat healthy, and he eats Taco Bell. I wish he wouldn't but I really don't want to nag, so I have to let it be and hope he doesn't turn diabetic.0
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My husband is semi-on board. Most days I cook for everyone but just measure out my portions. If I make something like mashed potatoes or rice I will make enough only for my daughters and scoop it all on their plates so there is no leftovers. My husband is like many others.....you can have just a little bit, you don't have to go to the gym you went yesterday, blah blah which will just cause a relapse on my part.
Tuesday he called and said I got Popeyes Chicken so you don't have to worry about cooking...I already knew that I only had about 400 calories left for the day and I didn't want to spend it on fried chicken. So I complained over and over about how I didn't need it and the first thing he said was you went to the gym this morning so you can have a little more....So I ate a chicken wing and rice....I poured salt all over the biscuit and other chicken and he looked at me like what the hell are you doing....I told him don't bring anymore fried chicken home or I am going to pour milk over everything. It was a bit extreme but he henders me sometimes lol0 -
My solution is you eat what I cook, if you dont like it starve!
Or make your own - I'm with you!
My husband needs to lose weight worse than I do but he isn't motivated. I feel sad about this, but I can't force him. He either wants to do it or not. I'm just hoping that one day he'll see the light and follow my example.0 -
My husband does not work out with me. But he makes it so I can work out early in the morning without having to take the baby into the gym with me.
When it comes to eating. I cook and he eats it. If I cook something he just doesn't want to eat then he will fend for himself. But he usually eats it.0 -
Luckily for me, my very supportive husband never notices that I sneak tofu, extra veggies, etc into his meals.
He loves the fact that I'm trying to lose some weight, because I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry.
Not only does it keep me from eating out of boredom, but it does wonders for my self-esteem...and I've never heard him complain! It's been great for our marriage!0 -
My hubby is very supportive of the changes I have made with meals and what not... He also has no problem with me going to the gym when he gets home from work... that means he is by himself with our two little rugrats He even stopped buying coke for him to take in his lunch to work because I have struggled with giving them up... He didn't want a 12 pack of temptation sitting in our fridge... That was a HUGE help to me...
He does however snack.... A LOT!! I make us smaller portions and "lighter" meals... He will eat what I fix, but in an hour or so, he is rummaging in the cupboards to find something to snack on... He eats a lot of cereal :laugh:
Anyway, thankfully, he has been supportive of me... He just likes to EAT :happy:0 -
:laugh:Luckily for me, my very supportive husband never notices that I sneak tofu, extra veggies, etc into his meals.
He loves the fact that I'm trying to lose some weight, because I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry.
Not only does it keep me from eating out of boredom, but it does wonders for my self-esteem...and I've never heard him complain! It's been great for our marriage!
:laugh: :laugh: I may just have to try this the next time I get the munchies!0 -
My boyfriend doesn't keep any food in his house. He eats out on a regular basis and stays slim. We have a long distance relationship, so when I go for the weekend... it's constant restaurants and temptation!!!!! Not to mention, I am away from the gym when I go to his place. THIS IS A TERRIBLE COMBINATION! Maybe that is part of the reason I make him come to visit me more than I go there!!!0
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I second this! We have made our normal meals into healthy ones! Lots of fat free, sugar free, low sodium, reduced fat, whole wheat, vegetables & lean meats in our house! By doing this you feel as if you are not depriving yourself, which is key to making this a habit & lifestyle!
We make "friendly" chicken/turkey lasagna, fajitas, etc., by using fat free cheeses, lean meats, and whole wheat noodles/tortillas. Even the ricotta & sour cream are fat free! Really helps out with calories My husband sees how much happier I am with myself, and how hard I worked, so he tends to makes it a point to let me know that he uses fat free or low cal ingredients when cooking!
My suggestion for you would be to make recipes that are harder to distinguish whether or not "diet" things have been substituted. He'll learn to love em', especially when he sees the mental & physical results! Also, if he has to have something junky, make yourself something separate!I make the same meal for everyone in my house and try to sub in healthy ingredients wherever I can (like whole wheat pasta and tortillas vs. the "white" kind, lots of salads to accompany meals). It feels less like a punishment and I feel less resentful when everyone is eating (and liking, most of the time) the same thing.0 -
Luckily for me, my very supportive husband never notices that I sneak tofu, extra veggies, etc into his meals.
He loves the fact that I'm trying to lose some weight, because I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry.
Not only does it keep me from eating out of boredom, but it does wonders for my self-esteem...and I've never heard him complain! It's been great for our marriage!
OK, now I'm REALLY jealous.
I tried the same strategy with my wife (but, honey it helps resist the urge to eat..) but I didn't get anywhere. ....
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Luckily for me, my very supportive husband never notices that I sneak tofu, extra veggies, etc into his meals.
He loves the fact that I'm trying to lose some weight, because I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry.
Not only does it keep me from eating out of boredom, but it does wonders for my self-esteem...and I've never heard him complain! It's been great for our marriage!
TOO CUTE - I think I may have to steal your idea!0 -
You are hilarious.......Luckily for me, my very supportive husband never notices that I sneak tofu, extra veggies, etc into his meals.
He loves the fact that I'm trying to lose some weight, because I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry.
Not only does it keep me from eating out of boredom, but it does wonders for my self-esteem...and I've never heard him complain! It's been great for our marriage!
OK, now I'm REALLY jealous.
I tried the same strategy with my wife (but, honey it helps resist the urge to eat..) but I didn't get anywhere. ....0 -
I hate that I am laughing this hard....but this post right here made my day.....LMAOWe have 2 refrigerators....I don't even need to say anything more. :laugh:
The only true struggle that we have is about Salmon. Yes, Salmon. I eat it probably 3 or more times a week. I love it! Not only will he not eat it but he will follow me around and make this huge production about how it stinks up the house. It doesn't stop me...just open a window dude! Sheesh!0 -
My hubby is a very picky eater, but he is very supportive of me and my lifestyle change. He has never had a weight problem and has no health problems so he can eat whatever. The only meal I fix by myself is dinner for the both of us. He is very open to trying to healthier foods so I slowly introduced them into the menus. I recently found out that I can't eat red meat because of my digestion issues, he loves steak but he compromised so that I would not have to fix two separate meals each night. We used turkey meat instead of beef and if we go out then he can have beef and I can eat healthier. When it comes to sides I decided to compromise, since he was so supportive, so I fix a side for me(usually veggies) and a separate one for him(usually some kind of potato with butter and cheese). Communication is key and if he is willing to compromise you should be ready to compromise too. You may have to have a healthy main dish and make sure he has his favorite types of food to.
As for being tempted, that just comes down to will power. Just because I can't eat certain foods does not mean he can't and he is alot happier if he gets potatoes!0 -
Go ahead, laugh at our pain.
You are hilarious.......
I tried the same strategy with my wife (but, honey it helps resist the urge to eat..) but I didn't get anywhere. ....,,,I've taken to having sex with him whenever I get the urge to eat when I'm not truly hungry. 0
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