Thanksgiving Rants - I'll start

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  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    We're doing a big potluck this year with some friends who are single and away from their families. It should be a nice change.

    I suppose my rant is more when I go home with my dad's family for the holidays. There's always somebody *****ing and moaning about something somebody said 10 years ago. DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA... ugh...
  • mistressfaye
    mistressfaye Posts: 232 Member
    Any inclination to rant I may have is overcome by remembering that my nephew just returned from Afghanistan last night and will be at the Thanksgiving table tomorrow. Y'all have a great holiday ... hope it goes smoothly for everyone. :)

    Please thank him for his service, and I'm happy he is home safe :)

    My only rant would be about figuring calories of what I eat tomorrow. We always eat with hubby's family (I ADORE my in laws). We used to have dinner at my house, but 3 years ago I developed pneumonia 5 days before thanksgiving and there was no way I could get the house in order and cook, so they decided to go out to eat. All the women loved just going to eat without the cooking and cleaning so much that we all decided thats what we'd do from now on. So we go to Cracker Barrel for lunch around 11 am and then go back to my MIL for dessert and to sit around and talk lol No one is tired from cooking, and there is no mess to clean up, its awesome for us. MY problem is, Cracker Barrel doesnt have their nutrition listed (and the few things I've found online and in the MFP database don't cover what I would eat) So......Im going to have to guess at my calories for the meal.

    I'm just really thankful I have family I love spending time with :)
  • junodog1
    junodog1 Posts: 4,792 Member
    Any inclination to rant I may have is overcome by remembering that my nephew just returned from Afghanistan last night and will be at the Thanksgiving table tomorrow. Y'all have a great holiday ... hope it goes smoothly for everyone. :)

    That is awesome!

    That IS awesome. Happy Thanksgiving to your family.
  • beachlover317
    beachlover317 Posts: 2,848 Member
    being nice for one day is hard when an entire family is encouraging divorce the second you are not with the SO

    outside of all the belittling, snickering, and alienating. But even smiley snarky comments are hard on me. I'm an unmedicated bipo. (bipolar) unmedicated do to bad reactions to nearly every medication they put me on.

    its easy to judge a situation your not in. but try to remember, this time of the year is hard on some ppl. and a "suck it up" attitude and lecture is not really going to help.

    Absolutely no judgment intended. I was only commenting on the people who are whining about someone not washing dishes, or helping to clean up or eating and not contributing or drinking too much. I would never encourage anyone to be a part of something that borders on emotional abuse. In that case, I would choose to stay home. So sorry for you situation. :flowerforyou:
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    I get together with my extended family on Saturday. This year, again, we will gather without my oldest sister who passed away in 1998 and without my precious Mom, who passed away at Easter 2 years ago. Both from long battles with cancer. Our family is far from perfect and there are always things that will annoy me about someone. I'm sure I annoy them at times too. BUT, they are also the people I grew up with, played with, cried with, mourned with, snuck out of the house with, ate meals with, looked up to, fought with, took care of and they are the only ones on this Earth that know my history. For just the memories with them, I am thankful. I also hope for a few more years with my 86 year old father. There are so many people who do not have loved ones to celebrate with during the holidays, people without homes, people without jobs. I am thankful for what I do have - no matter how imperfect! :flowerforyou:

    So agree with you Jan!

    My family can drive me crazy - and I'm sure that I'm no peach all the time.

    Yet, these are the people who pick me up when I fall, who hold my hand when I'm sad, who show up when my basement is flooding with water. These people are there to celebrate and mourn with me. They have watched me grow, and I have watched some of them grow. I couldn't imagine a different group of people to spend a special day with.

    We all have our own issues and no family is perfect. But before you start casting stones, think about what your life would be like without your family. And maybe take some ownership for your part in whatever problems exist. And then, think about the people who don't have a family and maybe, just maybe, be a little nicer to yours this Thanksgiving.

    And one more thing - it's one day people. You can be nice for one day of the year. No matter how anyone else acts - I am accountable for how I behave and at the end of the day - I can feel good as I drive the 3 hours back to home!!

    No really, I can't. I'm avoiding the details for personal privacy reasons, but really the family is bat **** crazy and intolerable. Just needed to rant. All is good. Happy Thanksgiving!
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    No really, I can't. I'm avoiding the details for personal privacy reasons, but really the family is bat **** crazy and intolerable. Just needed to rant. All is good. Happy Thanksgiving!

    I hear you. I'm very much looking forward to spending time with friends and my husband this year away from the crazies in my family. It's so refreshing to just enjoy the holidays without the drama for once.
  • tuckerrj
    tuckerrj Posts: 1,453 Member
    I will be thousands of miles away from all my family this Thanksgiving.

    :(
    Tough being in Korea. I bet they'll all miss you. Take solace in the fact they'll miss you greatly. Find friends to spend the day with. Then count your blessings and look forward to the day you can be with your family again. God bless you!
  • LuluProteinFueled
    LuluProteinFueled Posts: 261 Member
    I have a rant. I am sick of reading about all the deliciousness all of you up there are about to indulge in!!!!!

    I WANT TURKEY AND STUFFING AND VEGGIES WITH YUMMY SAUCES TOO DAMMIT!!!!! Australia might be the lucky country... but it sure sucks now *pout*

    AND PIE. I WANT PIE!!
  • ellabelle0310
    ellabelle0310 Posts: 92 Member
    Here's my rant: My mom died two years ago, and since then I have seen my siblings maybe 3 times. They don't come visit, even though I am only 45 minutes away from them and used to come up EVERY weekend to take care of mom when they (living literally next door to her) couldn't help. They figure out the details for Thanksgiving every year at my oldest sister's Halloween dinner...I know this because it's been that way for years. You know, she didn't even call me until the other night to see if my little family was coming. I had no idea where it would be, what time, anything, despite trying to call her, my other sister, and my niece for two weeks now. Thus I have already bought my groceries, and will be cooking at home. Because of this little stunt, I doubt I will be going up there for Christmas either.
  • redhousecat
    redhousecat Posts: 584 Member
    Any inclination to rant I may have is overcome by remembering that my nephew just returned from Afghanistan last night and will be at the Thanksgiving table tomorrow. Y'all have a great holiday ... hope it goes smoothly for everyone. :)

    Please offer a salute to your nephew from 2 fellow vets.

    No Thanksgiving rant. My husband and I don't partake in holidays; so we will simply enjoy our time off together. Maybe treat the cat to some canned food.
  • Ivy_leaves
    Ivy_leaves Posts: 103 Member
    No complaints here. I get the delicious food my father makes. And sire I know longer talk to my insane mother, I don't have to deal with any BS.
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    being nice for one day is hard when an entire family is encouraging divorce the second you are not with the SO

    outside of all the belittling, snickering, and alienating. But even smiley snarky comments are hard on me. I'm an unmedicated bipo. (bipolar) unmedicated do to bad reactions to nearly every medication they put me on.

    its easy to judge a situation your not in. but try to remember, this time of the year is hard on some ppl. and a "suck it up" attitude and lecture is not really going to help.

    Absolutely no judgment intended. I was only commenting on the people who are whining about someone not washing dishes, or helping to clean up or eating and not contributing or drinking too much. I would never encourage anyone to be a part of something that borders on emotional abuse. In that case, I would choose to stay home. So sorry for you situation. :flowerforyou:


    :blushing: thanks for your kind words.

    and i wanted to. i kinda hoped i'd get sick, catch the flu, something like that.

    no such luck.

    i'm hoping cupcakes with help me out. outside of that my plan is to hide and read book/play 3ds.
  • TashiaMH
    TashiaMH Posts: 70 Member


    No really, I can't. I'm avoiding the details for personal privacy reasons, but really the family is bat **** crazy and intolerable. Just needed to rant. All is good. Happy Thanksgiving!


    Ha! Yea... that's my husband's side of the family... crazy!

    I pissed off my MIL this week so she cancelled coming to Thanksgiving dinner. It's going to be the best Thanksgiving ever now! :happy:
  • All the family is on the east coast. We used to do big family get together, everyone bring a dish or two to pass, the hostess did the turkey and stuffing. The women cooked, the men cleaned up and washed the dishes. The guys watched football, the kids played outside, and the women chatted.

    I really miss it. When my husband was in grad school, there were other students that we could share meals with. After grad school, we are still the other side of the country, and haven't been back to visit in a few years due to job uncertainties (better to save that vacation time and money for if they cut his job.)

    But, we will skype with family, have a good meal, maybe go for a walk. Not the same as being with loving family though.
  • gabmoody
    gabmoody Posts: 10 Member
    Thank goodness I am Australian, no Thanksgiving here - sound like a nightmare!
  • SarahAFerguson
    SarahAFerguson Posts: 250 Member
    Being in Canada we already had our Thanksgiving, but I could rant about various things. This year I found a way to solve all problems with undesirable behaviour from certain parties. I invited a couple of single friends who no one else really knew. Everyone was on their best behaviour. My fam and inlaws are decent people but the holidays stress different people out and there's are sometimes "behaviours" to deal with. I'm glad to find that my little scheme worked out in mitigating this. I'm sure it would not work in all families.
  • Nikki31104
    Nikki31104 Posts: 816 Member
    Any inclination to rant I may have is overcome by remembering that my nephew just returned from Afghanistan last night and will be at the Thanksgiving table tomorrow. Y'all have a great holiday ... hope it goes smoothly for everyone. :)

    This will be such a special holiday!!!! Please tell him thank you for all he has done for his country.
  • ChristinaG100
    ChristinaG100 Posts: 41 Member
    MIL is a big food pusher, constantly filling people's plates with food they don't like. She still hasn't learned her 49 y/o son hates veggies (she saved his untouched cauliflower and carrots from last night). Thanksgiving isn't about having every root veggie Newfoundland can grow or a *kitten*-ton of food in general.

    I have to act like a ninja to get my food, otherwise it's a knife fight to keep the GD veggies I hate off my plate. They also have this fascination with serving me corn because I'm from Iowa. They think I have to have corn with every meal. Also, they think I need to have 2 Thanksgiving meals because I'm American. Canada has theirs in October. I'm fine with one Thanksgiving; granted it's weird to have it before Halloween, but that's me.

    And they never have pumpkin pie. WTF? :huh: Though the Beothics may not have had pumpkins, they sure as hell didn't have tiramisu! I bought a pumpkin pie this year for Canadian Thanksgiving and guess what? IT VANISHED. Even the non-dessert eaters ate pumpkin pie.

    Just so this isn't all IL hate, my maternal grandmother enjoyed picking on what I ate. Her picking got so bad I got my food and hid in the car to eat from then on. Then her mantra became "How is Zyxst so fat? I never see her eat?" I'm glad that b*tch is dead.

    YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!!! I am laughing my aXX off!!
  • lj4n
    lj4n Posts: 8 Member
    Yup, already had our Thanksgiving in Canada AND we do have pumpkin pie every year even with whip cream!!! Seems weird to me to have Thanksgiving so close to Christmas. I have had the occasion more than once to be doing all the cooking & clean up for big turkey dinners alone but as I listened to some of the conversations, to put it politely coming from the 'other' room I was glad not to be part of it. No complaints from me!
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    I like food.
  • basslinewild
    basslinewild Posts: 294 Member
    My only rant is the gym being closed. :(
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    No rants here. I've finally gotten to the place where I claim the holidays for my own family to celebrate as we please. No more crazy relatives, drama, or stress.
    We visited with the in-laws (love them!) on Tuesday because hubby will be working 7a-7p tomorrow. Thanksgiving Day will be just the children and myself. We will bake all our favorites--in our jammies, if we wish!--make "what I'm thankful for" crafts, and listen to Arlo Guthrie sing "Alice's Restaurant". Our own little traditions!
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    Not a rant, but a little sad that my son won't be joining us for Thanksgiving. He's in college at Georgia Tech and the break is too short to justify flying him home. He's just about my favorite person in the whole world.
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member
    I miss my mom (it has been 4 years) and my MIL (10 years now), and the debates over whose house we have dinner! I'm sorry my kids don't have a "grandma's house" to go to.

    Now there's no debate. I cook for whomever wants to come - this year we're 17, with folks coming from both sides of the family. So excited that m 12 year old daughter wants to get up early and help cook, like I did with my mom years ago. The circle of life!!
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member

    And they never have pumpkin pie. WTF? :huh: Though the Beothics may not have had pumpkins, they sure as hell didn't have tiramisu! I bought a pumpkin pie this year for Canadian Thanksgiving and guess what? IT VANISHED. Even the non-dessert eaters ate pumpkin pie.

    No pumpkin pie is unacceptable! We have back-ups in case our pie bringers don't bring enough!!
  • cmajeff
    cmajeff Posts: 504 Member
    It seems that no matter where we go there is drama. I have had it. Time to define our town traditions.
  • cappri
    cappri Posts: 1,089 Member
    My only rant is that since it was just my own little family for Thanksgiving I had no one to send leftovers home with!