lets see how long this can go on

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  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    Be you, be real, and you will find like-minded individuals. This site hosts a slew of different members - there's friends out there for ya that are in the same boat, were once in that boat, and there's those that can be a source of inspiration. Taking the negative approach may not win you the support you desire - smile & stay optimistic, take a tour of the success, general, & fitness forums, get one foot in front of the other, and before you know it you'll be posting in the success thread.

    Good luck :bigsmile:



    who ARE you?

    :angry:


    I'm scared...it's like an alternate universe... :indifferent: :huh:



    Skitty, don't tell me this is a black hole sun kind of scenario
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  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
    Be you, be real, and you will find like-minded individuals. This site hosts a slew of different members - there's friends out there for ya that are in the same boat, were once in that boat, and there's those that can be a source of inspiration. Taking the negative approach may not win you the support you desire - smile & stay optimistic, take a tour of the success, general, & fitness forums, get one foot in front of the other, and before you know it you'll be posting in the success thread.

    Good luck :bigsmile:

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  • BritneysStuntDouble
    BritneysStuntDouble Posts: 849 Member
    Skitty, don't tell me this is a black hole sun kind of scenario
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  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    my thought - lighten up cupcake. Do not get your panties in a twist. Be friendly and others will be the same. Being bitter and angry, no one will want you around. Just a mere observation of life.
  • hinzee4
    hinzee4 Posts: 155 Member
    The more you give the more you recieve!! Think about that. And good luck with your weight loss. We are all in this boat together.
  • thedreamhazer
    thedreamhazer Posts: 1,156 Member
    no people replied one woman giggled at me. I know people have lives.

    I looked at the thread. She wasn't giggling at you, she was giggling that somebody would tell you that you can't lose weight with strength training. Any kind of exercise can help you on the way to losing weight, and it's just silly that somebody would tell you otherwise. :flowerforyou:
  • flabbyjay
    flabbyjay Posts: 95 Member
    Generally speaking if you participatein Boobie Fridays or Thong Thursdays you will get a ton of the right kind of friends.. Try it
  • tashjs21
    tashjs21 Posts: 4,584 Member
    You have been here a month....yes, some of us have been friends for years and have formed little "circles of friends".
    It is understandable that it is hard to break in and join one of those.

    Most people aren't actively seeking new friends, they feel they have enough (myself included), but if the RIGHT person comes along that I click with, then there's always room for one more...

    If you go into the "introduction" threads, there are a TON of "I just joined today and I want friends" posts.
    Just go in there, pick a thread, and add people from the whole thread, they will be doing the same, and voila, instant mutual friends who are all fairly new.

    That's one way. Another is to get yourself out there, participate in some of the fun threads, discussions, games, etc. Once you find someone you like, send them a message with a request. People will recognize you. "oh, I've seen that girl on a few threads, sh'e funny/nice/whatever", and they'll be more likely to accept.

    Right now, all you've done is create a conundrum for yourself where people will see you and think, "oh, THAT girl who started the whiny nobody-likes-me-thread....no thanks..."

    Also, seek out people with similar goals. Find a group for people who are looking to lose 100 pounds, or a group for people in their early 20s...and put up a pic where you don't look so mean!

    Best of luck to you. I hope you lose all 100 of those pounds, make a ton of friends, and look back on this and think, "that was real silly of me to start that thread!"


    (also, weight training is SO important. If you stick with only cardio and dieting you will weigh less but you will never look good naked. Strength is where it's at, to get you the body you really want.)

    Robin is so wise.

    I met Robin by us posting the same responses at the same time (Princess Bride quotes) in a thread. Just get out there and find people you think are cool and send them a friend request with a message on why you want to add them.

    It's just like real life, you have to put yourself out there. You can't just walk into a room and expect people to instantly become your friend.

    Good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • cnote91
    cnote91 Posts: 40
    I have actually been using this site since Aug. So I am really not new. And I know that it says I have lost only 5 pounds but I have actually 23 pounds since I started.
  • Noflexing
    Noflexing Posts: 60 Member
    a calorie deficit is when you eat less calories than your body needs for maintenance. 500 calorie deficit a day should net you 1 lb a week lost (should) but not always accurate.

    maintenance is when you eat the amount of calories your body needs to keep everything regular and stable so you wont lost weight or gain weight you'll be right where you like it.

    caloric surplus is the amount needed to gain weight (muscle) or (fat) usually it should be 500 calorie surplus above the maintenance weight.

    if your maintenance calorie is say 1900 then for you to lose weight you eat 1400 calories every day and to gain muscle you would eat 2200 calories everyday along with some kind of weight training. go to google and type in TDEE calculator and you should see a lot that will tell you how many calories you should eat around. if its not working after two weeks lower your calorie intake by 100 calories until you see a change keep it 100 less for a whole 10 days i would say if it doesn't work lower it another 100. you will have to find your magic number yourself cause everyone is different.
  • Earth6Child
    Earth6Child Posts: 6
    Haters are gonna be everyone, sadly. Try not to let the "bad apples" of the site get to you. There are some great peeps on here, not that I have a huge friends list, but they're there. I agree that people on here can be bold with their opinions/suggestions, but they're really just trying to help. Discard the "bad" ones, & keep the "good" ones.
  • cnote91
    cnote91 Posts: 40
    I am sorry I started this post. I really am.

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