AFFG Awareness, warning signs inside.

celshade

There are some seriously attractive guys that have slimmed down or bulked up on here. Muscles everywhere! Bro, they actually lift! You know what I mean.

Then they go and do something that reveals them as the dreaded AFFG - the Awkward Former Fat Guy.

You can lose the weight, tone the body, and clean the diet, but it's harder still to develop social skills if you came into attractiveness late in life.

Are you an AFFG?

Do you address status updates to "Ladies~~" ?
Do you hit on girls often on MFP unsolicited?
Do you think "Girl what I'd do to you... one night in ecstasy.." is an appropriate message to send to a stranger?

Don't be CREEPY!

"But Ms. Celshade," you might be thinking, "what makes you qualified to talk about this?"

I have been sent far too many suggestive messages by guys and want to raise awareness - I can't even imagine the amount of messages girls that are actually in shape are getting.

WORK ON YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS! With real people! Don't neglect it; your body has come a long way, but it's also a journey of the mind.

djames92

this made my night lol

yesmikan

This is hilarious

axelorate

Am I an Awkward Former Fat Guy if I address people as "Ladies... ?"

celshade

I think we're all a little bit of an AFFG

celshade

Wow... I loooove the AFFG, as you so eloquently put it. They've been through the struggles. They don't expect me to be perfect. They have respect for the work & effort I've put in to look the way I do. They don't judge stretch marks because they might have a few themselves.

See, the AFFG is a work in progress, and they ARE both working and progressing. . :flowerforyou:

A sense of humor was just on Rollback special at Walmart, you must have just missed it.

Jozie_

LOL I'm totally an AFFG, I've nver been fat per se but plenty akward!

But I agree, please stop sending unsolicited creepy messages, its creepy.

missjoci

Hahaha yes, exactly!

nxd10

And don't put mostly naked pictures of yourself up that were taken in a bathroom. EEEWWWW!

So many things are better left to the imagination. Especially in bad lighting.

acm130

:laugh: My friend just met a guy who lost like 60 lbs in 3 mos (a lil rapid if u ask me, but whatevs) she said he kept lifting up his shirt to show his abs a la "the situation" :laugh: I'm laughing @ yr post b/c I realize you're just trying to say in a humerous way what you ended with, essentially, just b/c an AFFG lost the weight doesn't mean they figured out the emotional stuff connected to it and of course the social skills (or lack there of), suggestive messaging? What???? This is MFP not match.com.... Best of luck to all including the AFFG who will someday soon morph into the SSFFG (Sweet, Sensitive Former Fat Guy)

Ocarina

Wow... I loooove the AFFG, as you so eloquently put it. They've been through the struggles. They don't expect me to be perfect. They have respect for the work & effort I've put in to look the way I do. They don't judge stretch marks because they might have a few themselves.

See, the AFFG is a work in progress, and they ARE both working and progressing. You, unfortunately, will always be a b!tch. :flowerforyou:

A sense of humor was just on Rollback special at Walmart, you must have just missed it.

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love it! Well played. Well played.

ChadB74

Wow... I loooove the AFFG, as you so eloquently put it. They've been through the struggles. They don't expect me to be perfect. They have respect for the work & effort I've put in to look the way I do. They don't judge stretch marks because they might have a few themselves.

See, the AFFG is a work in progress, and they ARE both working and progressing. You, unfortunately, will always be a b!tch. :flowerforyou:

A sense of humor was just on Rollback special at Walmart, you must have just missed it.

Former Fatty here now just medium but yes people need a sense of humor, I was athletic way back in high school so i'm not awkward with the ladies, This is not a dating site, so guys should show more courtesy to the ladies and the Walmart line is effin funny, I am going to use it when the right moment arrives LOL

Workinthis1

Funnnny! What about some of these pics people put up? I don't care how toned you are...I don't want to see you in your underwear! I am sure Walmart is having a sale on pants or shorts for that matter! Yes, I know my picture is almost twelve years old, but I have a very pretty dress on and My goal is slip back into it when I finish these 13.5 pounds!

celshade

lifting up his shirt to show his abs a la "the situation"

Exactly! These guys aren't bad guys, they're just jumping too fast into what they feel like "normal" is!

Spend a little time observing the herd before joining in! I, too, look forward to them becoming Sweet, Sensitive Former Fat Guys!

Totally agree with everyone that this isn't a dating site or match.com, thanks for classing everything up, Chad!

kimosabe1

Thank u for this post girl! I shake my head every night I witness this crud on this site! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!

marvelprime

I'm laughing because I know that I probably wouldn't know what to do with some of the new attention myself once I got more in shape.

Heck, I was socially awkward in my beanpole days.

Still, I know the difference between being respectable and acting like one of the guys that my female friends complained about.

The AFFG is probably a guy who thinks that they can act like a guy that the girl complains about...and do so right away. But, who am I to assess.

I agree though. Build the mind along with the body.

I know for certain that I'll maintain my values even when I lose my weight again. Then again, I suppose I was super skinny at one point so it might be easier for me.

Pixi_Rex

no.

celshade

I'm laughing because I know that I probably wouldn't know what to do with some of the new attention myself once I got more in shape. Heck, I was socially awkward in my beanpole days.

To be aware of the AFFG is to begin to conquer his existence.

On the real though, I don't think you ever have to worry about this. You're very sweet!

MiloBloom83

There are some seriously attractive guys that have slimmed down or bulked up on here. Muscles everywhere! Bro, they actually lift! You know what I mean.

Then they go and do something that reveals them as the dreaded AFFG - the Awkward Former Fat Guy.

You can lose the weight, tone the body, and clean the diet, but it's harder still to develop social skills if you came into attractiveness late in life.

Are you an AFFG?

Do you address status updates to "Ladies~~" ?
Do you hit on girls often on MFP unsolicited?
Do you think "Girl what I'd do to you... one night in ecstasy.." is an appropriate message to send to a stranger?

Don't be CREEPY!

"But Ms. Celshade," you might be thinking, "what makes you qualified to talk about this?"

I have been sent far too many suggestive messages by guys and want to raise awareness - I can't even imagine the amount of messages girls that are actually in shape are getting.

WORK ON YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS! With real people! Don't neglect it; your body has come a long way, but it's also a journey of the mind.

You have the first word in the term incorrect. It should stand for *kitten* Former Fat Guy. A-holes come in all shapes and sizes. Awesome Former Fat Guys are typically taken and not available for you because they've had to work off of something called "personality" their whole lives, and once they get their physical appearance in order, they aren't available for long, as the smart "ladies" tend to snap them up.
If you continue to attract the "awkward", may i suggest a different profile picture, perhaps a nice landscape or one of those inspirational "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" posters. Your beauty is a curse you are forced to live with. I get it. Thanks for the PSA.

celshade

Every woman attracts the awkward.

RedHeadDevotchka

I think a few things increase the creep factor.....messages at 12 am saying "wow you're hot" and the like, well that really ups the numbers.
Also, when the message contains explicit sexual preferences, it just says "I'm a little too eager".

Thanks for this!

celshade

"Wow your hot" messages always crack me up. What are we supposed to say to this? "Thanks." Then what comes next?

The dreaded:

"So what you up to"
"So what are you into"
"Any plans for the weekend"

Give it up! It's fine to think it, but conversations can NOT be carried or held that stem from that sentence.

Spatialized

I'm just a AFG: Awkward Fat Guy...not former, yet. I've relied on my shining personality, endless cynicism, sarcastic snarky mouth; lucky for me my lovely wife saw through that and still married me. Maybe we should rename it MMFP - Meat Market Fitness Pal?

marvelprime

To be aware of the AFFG is to begin to conquer his existence.

Heh, I've seen way too much of what my friends went through with "bad boys", so that helps.

On the real though, I don't think you ever have to worry about this. You're very sweet!

Awww :happy: Thank ya! :flowerforyou:

jennifer_417

I have gotten one seriously creeptastic friend request. However, I've noticed more of the ladies on this site throwing themselves at the men, even when one or both parties are married.

tommygirl15

I'm still waiting for my AFFG message

Keiko385

I'm still waiting for my AFFG message

All it took for me to get my 1st creepy AFFG was a single post in chit-chat and the worms all come crawling out of their holes

tommygirl15

LOL

kwest_4_fitness

Thank you for sharing this important public service announcement. We can all do with a little less AFFG. However, we all need to remember to have some compassion for AFFG's during their rehabilitation.