My Friend Died

MsDover

My wonderful mother, who had been widowed at 62 years old, reconnected with the man who, prior to my dad, had been the love of her life. She was in her early 70's, and I remember how her entire demeanor changed when she'd talk about him. In her eyes I saw the school girl she had been when she had first met and adored him! Having just found love again in my own life (I'm 60) it has never been clearer to me that some things never change.... love is love, and it effects us all in pretty much the same way no matter how old or young we are. When my mom's friend passed away she was devastated. I'm sure what you are feeling is pretty close to what she went through. I also know that when our peers pass on we can't help but feel our own mortality, as I'm finding out as I'm getting older and seeing more of it. What you're feeling isn't silly at all! I'm sure that wherever your friend is... I like to think of our lost loved ones as being part of the universe.... he is surrounding you with his arms, hugging you. My thoughts will be with you!

etfan

Very sorry for your loss!

acogg

I am so very sorry. I have said a prayer for you that every post in this thread will help to lighten your heavy heart. When I lost a favorite person a few years back, I remember how angry I was because I wasn't done with him yet. I felt cheated.

amyllu

Thankyou so much for all the kind words and thoughts. I think that having kept my feelings secret over the years has made me feel cheated but the fact is that his ex partner has been one of my best friends for many years and when he then suddenly married his new partner I had to continue to keep my feelings to myself.
Life's a beetch sometimes!!

ErzaScarlet

My dad died when i was 15. I guess that is partly why I'm on this site as I used food to control my life. I am deeply sorry, I too felt my own mortality but live for the present.

jessicaclairel

I am truly sorry.

mandy0688

I am so sorry of your loss. He is in a better place now and at least he got to live his life. I had a friend who died at 22 yrs old. I know the feeling of losing someone you truly care about It will pass. To me it was hard because he had a full life ahead of him but your friend got to live that life.

makemewannadie

I'm sorry that I don't have anything to say that would be of any help, but i'm sending you lots of hugs from the opposite side of England! xo

Hopelessone

I am so sorry for your loss, sending prayers and hugs your way

shinkalork

sorry for your loss

hipbonesthighgap

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish I could make everything better for you.
Sending love and hugs. <3 xxxx

tlp8rb

Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads, there lived a little water nymph in a community of water nymphs. They lived a simple and comfortable life in the pond with few disturbances and interruptions.

Once in a while, sadness would come to the community when one of their fellow nymphs would climb the stem of a lily pad and would never be seen again. They knew when this happened, their friend was dead, gone forever.

Then, one day, one little water nymhf felt an irresistible urge to climb up that stem. However, he was determined that he would not leave forever. He would come back and tell his friends what he had found at the top.

When he reached the top and climbed out of the water onto the surface of the lily pad, he was so tired, and the sun felt so warm, that he decided he must take a nap. As he slept, his body changed and when he woke up, he had turned into a beautiful blue-tailed dragonfly with broad wings and a slender body designed for flying.

So, fly he did! And, as he soared he saw the beauty of a whole new world and a far superior way of life to what he had never known existed.

Then he remembered his nymph friends and how they were thinking by now he was dead. He wanted to go back to tell them, and explain to them that he was now more alive than he had ever been before. His life had been fulfilled rather than ended. But, his new body would not go down into the water. He could not get back to tell his friends the good news. Then he understood that their time would come, when they, too, would know what he now knew. So, he raised his wings and flew off into his joyous new life!

~Author Unknown~

SarahAFerguson

^^^^^^love that story.

Hugs to the OP.

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NewLIFEstyle4ME

You beautiful and sweet dearheart, though I do not know you, your post here touches my very spirit and in a humble and sincere way, as much as I can, I feel the pain you feel via your words and may I say you are loved :flowerforyou: amyllu :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: God bless you and keep you beloved, now and forevermore--Peace, Prayers and Blessings to you dearest one and thank you so much for sharing this with us!


Here's some thoughts to meditate on during this season in your wonderful life:

Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit


Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality.
Emily ****inson


While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil
John Taylor


Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains
Kahlil Gibran


Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
From a headstone in Ireland


No one really understands the grief or joy of another.
Franz Schubert


It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Alfred Lord Tennyson


God is closest to those with broken hearts. Jewish Proverb

Matthew 11:25-30
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.


For death is no more than
a turning of us over from time to eternity.
William Penn


We can allow our griefs to dissolve through releasing them to the healing rain of tears.
Julia Cameron, Transitions


When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Kahlil Gibran


Matthew 5:4
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

{{{{{{ HUGS to you dearest one }}}}}

Nannynute9071

I'm sorry that you are hurting. My heart really goes out to you. Take care. :flowerforyou:

acogg

I am sitting here with tears literally rolling down my face. Partly for the hurt of the OP and partly from the moving, supportive posts.

LosingWeight4Good

x hug x

His memory will be in your heart forever.
I'm thinking of you and hoping your grief eases soon.

rainynight3L33

I'm so sorry. God bless!