Why are people telling me to lose more weight?

jeanywren

Sometimes it takes a while for us to get used to the fact that we are no longer "fat". Most doctors are not in favor of more than a pound a week loss after the first initial drop because it tends to come back on later. Maybe listen to them and try to maintain your loss. That will give your body a bit of time to tone up I think. Maintaining is sometimes harder than losing if youj are looking for a challenge!!!

icimani

You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP?

Yep - ^^^^^ THIS!


The amount you've lost in under 5 months is over 3 pounds/week - that's VERY fast. But like some others here, I'm more concerned that you have 3 medical professionals telling you to stop losing weight, but yet you say all you can see is fat. I worry that you're developing an eating disorder and I urge you to see someone about that. Talk to a doctor that you trust about how you feel, and have a realistic talk about how healthy it would be to continue losing weight.

eviltwinkie

Listen to them.

Eat to maintain, work on your muscle, and see how it goes.

All sorts of issues can crop up from rapid weight loss, not that many from slowing it up (at your weight.) They're all about minimizing risk. Give it a few months rest to show them and yourself you're having no ill effects.

You may not have any health issues, but they're the pros and they're paid to be cautious. And there's plenty of health problems that can occur with rapid weight loss - women get fun time hormone issues added in there as well (and I think a greater chance of gall stones.) Hormone issues can be a real #$%$# to recover from (had that happen to me once many years ago when I was hell bent on quick weight loss... not fun trying to even out your cycles when pretty much any birth control gives your nasty migraines. Oh and the uneven cycles do too.)

Anyway, be totally proud of all you've lost! That's AWESOME! But be smart and listen to the pros. They're there to help you be successful in the long term.

kelly_e_montana

You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP? Your doctors aren't telling you that you are too thin, but they are expressing a concern that maybe the manner in which you are losing weight is not the healthiest and that they don't want you to lose too much more. FYI - nearly 50 lbs in a few months is very rapid. Maybe ask for a referral to a nutritionist and focus more on nutrition than on weight loss.

^^^^^^ This.Your medical professionals are much more aware of your situation than we are. Listen to them.

hen1946

check out body dysmorphia

Helloitsdan

Edit. I meant to say not to lose more

I really really dont get it. My bmi is 23.3 so im hardly emaciated. Ive just crept into a normal bmi.

My family have told me to stop losing weight now.
My surgeon during a follow up said " have you lost more weight? Are you doing a crazy extreme diet? I dont want you to lose any more weight. I can see your hip bones sticking out,"
My GP said ive lost weight too quickly (really? 47lbs since mid july isnt an extreme rate)
My other dr said ive lost enough now and she doesnt want me to go too far

Is it because they are used to seeing me fat? (i was 205lbs now 157lbs). All i can see is fat so I still want to lose more.

Im confused. Any thoughts?

skinny fat sucks.
Lift heavy and eat at TDEE to lose the fat...or slightly below TDEE say 10%?

OspreyVista

O.o

SToast

To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
Everyone has a GP
And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

See..that's just it..no one asked you to share ANYTHING. You posted your concerns on the forum..so why the eff are you offended that someone asked a question?

That makes no sense.

These people are trying to help you. If you have a problem with the advice they are offering..or their questions.......deal with it, or go to your doctor(s) for advice next time.

Geez!!!

Agreed! People are just trying to help. Why did you come to strangers with your questions if you don't want to discuss your life with strangers?

sgv0918

To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
Everyone has a GP
And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

amen to this. a question doesnt give u the right to full disclosure. I have also been told to stop losing by friends. I am in a healthy bmi and will be if i lose 10 more pounds which is my goal. If u want to. do it but don't get obsessive and make sure u stay healthy

Laddiegirl

I think because you've had three different medical professionals tell you that you should stop losing weight, are at a healthy BMI for your range and seems like you have some other health issues (that perhaps come into play as to why your doctors think your weight is fine now) that you should listen to them. At least stop for awhile and let the new "you" sink into your brain and eyes. Just like it can take us awhile to see how overweight we've gotten, it can take awhile to see how much you've lost.

lauryn0392

To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
Everyone has a GP
And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

See..that's just it..no one asked you to share ANYTHING. You posted your concerns on the forum..so why the eff are you offended that someone asked a question?

That makes no sense.

These people are trying to help you. If you have a problem with the advice they are offering..or their questions.......deal with it, or go to your doctor(s) for advice next time.

Geez!!!

Agreed! People are just trying to help. Why did you come to strangers with your questions if you don't want to discuss your life with strangers?

Because my weight has nothing to do with seeing those Drs. Fine if it will help I have a brain tumour. Thats why I see 3 drs.

Belinda658

Well have you ASKED them why you shouldn't lose any more?

ladymiseryali

To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
Everyone has a GP
And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

See..that's just it..no one asked you to share ANYTHING. You posted your concerns on the forum..so why the eff are you offended that someone asked a question?

That makes no sense.

These people are trying to help you. If you have a problem with the advice they are offering..or their questions.......deal with it, or go to your doctor(s) for advice next time.

Geez!!!

Agreed! People are just trying to help. Why did you come to strangers with your questions if you don't want to discuss your life with strangers?

Because my weight has nothing to do with seeing those Drs. Fine if it will help I have a brain tumour. Thats why I see 3 drs.

You don't have to get snippy with people just because they want context.

But that said, how tall are you and are you of a medium or large build? The way you carry your weight can make you look thinner than you actually are.

robynrae_1

Your drs and sugen might just be worried about your ablility to recover from an illness or surgery. Weight loss puts alot of stress on the human body, add to that an illness and you might have a very hard time recovering. Also they might be worried that you are not getting the right nutrients to feed you body.

I personally think it would be a good idea for you to start eating maintenace and work on building some strengh and stamina. Obviously you have a long journey a head of you and need to take very good care of yourself.

best of luck to you.

Umeboshi

Because fatphobia.

3911MrsB

In some ways I agree with the comments that say do waht makes you happy. But nearly 50lbs in so little months is a very rapid weight loss. The best way to loose weight and keep it off, whilst remaining healthy is to do it slowly. You have a very healthy BMI and if you continue to loose weight at this speed you will reapidly become under weight and maybe even malutritioned. This can have as many health complications (if not more) as being over weight can. Your Doctors and family are giving you advice in your best interests.

Mads1997

You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP? Your doctors aren't telling you that you are too thin, but they are expressing a concern that maybe the manner in which you are losing weight is not the healthiest and that they don't want you to lose too much more. FYI - nearly 50 lbs in a few months is very rapid. Maybe ask for a referral to a nutritionist and focus more on nutrition than on weight loss.

This^^^ i think you need to listen to your health professionals.

Mexie1

If you need any treatment other than surgery, you may well lose your appetite and lose weight unintentionally. The recovery from surgery can be pretty taxing too. You can cope with treatment better if you keep your weight up a bit.

psychic_atrophy

Ultimately, you have to do what is right for you. Personally, I would listen to medical professionals, they generally know what they are talking about. That being said everyone's body shape is different and weight effects them differently. Maybe your hipbones stick out because you just don't have as much fat there and it is stored elsewhere. You know your health better than anyone. If you feel weak and fatigued, maybe they are on to something. Keep in mind the most important thing in weight loss should be your health, not the number on the scale!

anndelaney67

people are only asking about your personal problems because they feel it may be connected with your weight lose, u have done ever so well to lose the weight u have, congrats,ive lost 56lb its taking a yr and mine is so i can have surgery keep up the good work tone up and family and docs are only telling you 4 your own gd and bmi not always accurate some people have more muscle than fat

Belinda658

Your last thread said no one was noticing your weight loss?

DawnieB1977

Chances are you've lost weight too fast and still have some loose skin, which is why you still see fat? I've lost 51lbs since LAST July!

A BMI of 23 is good. That's what mine used to be, 10 years ago, and I thought I was fat at the time, but when I look at photos I can see that I wasn't at all, in fact my face was a starting to look gaunt. Everyone has different frames. I am now far off looking like I did then and my BMI is just under 27 now. I weigh a lot more than I look like I do. You might be the same.

If I were you i'd work on strength training and toning up.

AntWrig

Because they don't want you to look better than them. They don't want you to rise above the standard of ordinary and become extraordinary. Tell them to go **** themselves and do what you want to do.

Only if the world was that very shallow. New flash, most family actually do care.

Elf_Princess1210

considering that you're already a healthy BMI should be your cue to stop losing weight. If it were just family members telling you to stop losing weight then I'd tell you that it was probably because they're used to you being bigger: however, since a few doctors have told you to stop, then it is time to stop.

ETA: Since you have a brain tumor, they're trying to keep you from getting underweight. If you are going to under go chemotherapy; it is based on body weight and body surface area. Any deviation from the MEDICAL ideal weight is going to cause you complications in your recovery.