Why are people telling me to lose more weight?

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  • hpsNcrvs
    hpsNcrvs Posts: 74
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    To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

    Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
    Everyone has a GP
    And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

    I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.


    See..that's just it..no one asked you to share ANYTHING. You posted your concerns on the forum..so why the eff are you offended that someone asked a question?

    That makes no sense.

    These people are trying to help you. If you have a problem with the advice they are offering..or their questions.......deal with it, or go to your doctor(s) for advice next time.

    Geez!!!
  • vytamindi
    vytamindi Posts: 845 Member
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    I was just wondering that....

    I'd listen to your gaggle of health professionals. Not saying any doctor is completely unbiased or anything, but you're shooting 3/3 here.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    Yes she did Sherry. Either way...if not 1...not 2..but 3 different doctors...3 different MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS tell me what they've been telling you..I'd listen.

    You ask "why?".....Maybe talk to them and get their reasoning for what they've said so that you understand where they are coming from. But if a GP, a specialist and a surgeon all say the same comment...I'd listen in a heart beat.
  • Lns25
    Lns25 Posts: 130 Member
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    Without a photo of what you actually look like OP, none of us can speculate to whether you are too skinny, still have weight to lose or just right.

    Really prominent hip bones isn't really an attractive look.... so perhaps you are too thin?
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
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    You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP? Your doctors aren't telling you that you are too thin, but they are expressing a concern that maybe the manner in which you are losing weight is not the healthiest and that they don't want you to lose too much more. FYI - nearly 50 lbs in a few months is very rapid. Maybe ask for a referral to a nutritionist and focus more on nutrition than on weight loss.

    I agree with this!

    Yes.
  • msshiraz
    msshiraz Posts: 327 Member
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    You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP? Your doctors aren't telling you that you are too thin, but they are expressing a concern that maybe the manner in which you are losing weight is not the healthiest and that they don't want you to lose too much more. FYI - nearly 50 lbs in a few months is very rapid. Maybe ask for a referral to a nutritionist and focus more on nutrition than on weight loss.

    I agree with this!

    Yes- this- my first thought- 50 lbs in a few months is very fast- how did you lose it? Were you on meds or was in natural?
    What is your goal weight?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    And to add...

    The reason someone might ask what the surgery is for.... is perhaps they or someone they know has gone through the same surgery and can give you a few theories/insight.

    But, as I said earlier, I'd ask the doctors straight out and get it from them.
  • Mighty_Rabite
    Mighty_Rabite Posts: 581 Member
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    A body mass index in the 23 range is pretty good I would say, though not really the best indicator of general health/fitness in some individuals.

    Losing 47 pounds since July is hardly what I would call "extreme," but that is a pretty decent rate! Good job, and as far as my own recommendation.. if you like what you see in the mirror and you like how you feel.. stick with that.
  • ubermensch13
    ubermensch13 Posts: 824 Member
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    To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

    Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
    Everyone has a GP
    And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

    I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

    Yet you are posting your concerns about your weight loss, your dr's opinions of said weight loss and asking our opinion about this on a public message board.....hmmm, not sure why people would ask for more details?!
  • hiker359
    hiker359 Posts: 577 Member
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    Because they don't want you to look better than them. They don't want you to rise above the standard of ordinary and become extraordinary. Tell them to go **** themselves and do what you want to do.

    Yes, I'm sure that's why her 3 DOCTORS are telling her to stop losing weight.

    Oops, guess that will teach me to read the *entire* post before replying. Doctors are one thing, and the fact that all the OP can see is fat, then there's a psychological component here that certainly needs to be addressed.

    Losing too much too quickly does jeopardize muscle mass, which can lead to a metabolic slow down that can ultimately lead to a weight gain. It wouldn't hurt to slow things down a little bit....Keep measuring your body fat and make sure that you're not sacrificing LBM.

    ETA: You should talk to my friend, Staci. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
  • jeanywren
    jeanywren Posts: 72 Member
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    Sometimes it takes a while for us to get used to the fact that we are no longer "fat". Most doctors are not in favor of more than a pound a week loss after the first initial drop because it tends to come back on later. Maybe listen to them and try to maintain your loss. That will give your body a bit of time to tone up I think. Maintaining is sometimes harder than losing if youj are looking for a challenge!!!
  • icimani
    icimani Posts: 1,454 Member
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    You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP?

    Yep - ^^^^^ THIS!


    The amount you've lost in under 5 months is over 3 pounds/week - that's VERY fast. But like some others here, I'm more concerned that you have 3 medical professionals telling you to stop losing weight, but yet you say all you can see is fat. I worry that you're developing an eating disorder and I urge you to see someone about that. Talk to a doctor that you trust about how you feel, and have a realistic talk about how healthy it would be to continue losing weight.
  • eviltwinkie
    eviltwinkie Posts: 153
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    Listen to them.

    Eat to maintain, work on your muscle, and see how it goes.

    All sorts of issues can crop up from rapid weight loss, not that many from slowing it up (at your weight.) They're all about minimizing risk. Give it a few months rest to show them and yourself you're having no ill effects.

    You may not have any health issues, but they're the pros and they're paid to be cautious. And there's plenty of health problems that can occur with rapid weight loss - women get fun time hormone issues added in there as well (and I think a greater chance of gall stones.) Hormone issues can be a real #$%$# to recover from (had that happen to me once many years ago when I was hell bent on quick weight loss... not fun trying to even out your cycles when pretty much any birth control gives your nasty migraines. Oh and the uneven cycles do too.)

    Anyway, be totally proud of all you've lost! That's AWESOME! But be smart and listen to the pros. They're there to help you be successful in the long term.
  • kelly_e_montana
    kelly_e_montana Posts: 1,999 Member
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    You've had three medical professionals give you their opinion. Do you honestly think you'll get better advice from a bunch of us nitwits on MFP? Your doctors aren't telling you that you are too thin, but they are expressing a concern that maybe the manner in which you are losing weight is not the healthiest and that they don't want you to lose too much more. FYI - nearly 50 lbs in a few months is very rapid. Maybe ask for a referral to a nutritionist and focus more on nutrition than on weight loss.

    ^^^^^^ This.Your medical professionals are much more aware of your situation than we are. Listen to them.
  • hen1946
    hen1946 Posts: 62 Member
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    check out body dysmorphia
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
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    Edit. I meant to say not to lose more

    I really really dont get it. My bmi is 23.3 so im hardly emaciated. Ive just crept into a normal bmi.

    My family have told me to stop losing weight now.
    My surgeon during a follow up said " have you lost more weight? Are you doing a crazy extreme diet? I dont want you to lose any more weight. I can see your hip bones sticking out,"
    My GP said ive lost weight too quickly (really? 47lbs since mid july isnt an extreme rate)
    My other dr said ive lost enough now and she doesnt want me to go too far

    Is it because they are used to seeing me fat? (i was 205lbs now 157lbs). All i can see is fat so I still want to lose more.

    Im confused. Any thoughts?

    skinny fat sucks.
    Lift heavy and eat at TDEE to lose the fat...or slightly below TDEE say 10%?
  • OspreyVista
    OspreyVista Posts: 464 Member
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    O.o
  • SToast
    SToast Posts: 255 Member
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    To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

    Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
    Everyone has a GP
    And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

    I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.


    See..that's just it..no one asked you to share ANYTHING. You posted your concerns on the forum..so why the eff are you offended that someone asked a question?

    That makes no sense.

    These people are trying to help you. If you have a problem with the advice they are offering..or their questions.......deal with it, or go to your doctor(s) for advice next time.

    Geez!!!

    Agreed! People are just trying to help. Why did you come to strangers with your questions if you don't want to discuss your life with strangers?
  • sgv0918
    sgv0918 Posts: 851 Member
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    To the person/people who asked why i see a surgeon and two other drs...

    Isnt that obvious? When people have surgery they generally need a surgeon...
    Everyone has a GP
    And I see a specialist Dr for a health reason.

    I dont se why I need to share my private health problems with strangers.

    amen to this. a question doesnt give u the right to full disclosure. I have also been told to stop losing by friends. I am in a healthy bmi and will be if i lose 10 more pounds which is my goal. If u want to. do it but don't get obsessive and make sure u stay healthy
  • Laddiegirl
    Laddiegirl Posts: 382 Member
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    I think because you've had three different medical professionals tell you that you should stop losing weight, are at a healthy BMI for your range and seems like you have some other health issues (that perhaps come into play as to why your doctors think your weight is fine now) that you should listen to them. At least stop for awhile and let the new "you" sink into your brain and eyes. Just like it can take us awhile to see how overweight we've gotten, it can take awhile to see how much you've lost.

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