Afraid?

LosingWeightKate
LosingWeightKate Posts: 39 Member
in Motivation and Support
Does anyone else feel mildly afraid of losing weight? While I was working out tonight, I was daydreaming about my future fit body and I started to get scared. I tried to reason with my brain and tell myself that that was just silly. I've always wanted to have a fitter body and actually be comfortable in my own skin.

But there's this part of me that is terrified that when I get there I won't have any excuses to hide behind. I won't have my weight to blame for not being liked by guys, or why a certain job didn't hire me, or any number of reasons. It's silly, I know. And while I'm still going to continue on this journey, I feel nervous about how the future is going to be.

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

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  • TooMuchMe88
    TooMuchMe88 Posts: 7
    Hey there!
    I'm so happy I found your post. I thought I was alone in this. I am terrified. I don't know who I am without the weight - like you said there is nothing to hide behind About two years ago I had lost about 25 lbs and I got really scared. To the point where I unfortunately gained the weight back (and then some).
    It's hard to change if you don't know what is ahead. At least it is for me. But this time at least I know to expect the fear and I'm ready for it because my desire for a long healthy life is stronger than my fear.

    Keep up the good work !! :)
  • winterswish
    winterswish Posts: 162
    Been there!
    Four years ago I lost about 40 pounds (from 252-210'ish). I've been over a size 18 since my junior year in high school and I'm in my 30's now. I remember putting a shirt on that I purchased thinking "This will never fit right." and it did. I cried. Not happy tears...completely freaked out tears. I didn't recognize myself in that shirt. It was form fitting and I had a waist.

    I slowly put back on all but 10 pounds and I'm just now starting to eat right and exercise again. I don't have a real plan for dealing with the anxiety that comes along with, but I know I need to do this for my health.

    Also...something not too many people talk about: When I lost the weight (and not even all I had wanted to lose) my body underneath my clothes did NOT look better. It looked saggy and wrinkly. I was getting compliments from friends about how healthy I looked and all I could think was "You can't see what is under the clothes." I wasn't a better body, it was just a different kind of uncomfortable.

    I know there are positives to losing the weight and I'm ready to find them. I just have to breathe through the fear.
  • Restybaby2012
    Restybaby2012 Posts: 568 Member
    Fear is such an ugly thing some times.

    I fear that even when I do lose the weight nothing will change.......I wont feel or look any different. What if I cant breathe any better? What if I cant get around any better? What if I dont FEEL any better or different? What if NO one notices? What If I cant SEE or FEEL any different or better or whatever?

    I gotta hold to SOME THING and Im choosing to hold tough that these things wont happen or I wont care on some level because I'll know its not accurate and it's something my mind has made up

    GAK..........WTF do I know..its like 2am.

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  • knight76306
    knight76306 Posts: 233 Member
    Yep, I can relate. I lost over 100 lbs and kept most of it off for about 3 years. It does change the way you look and feel. Divorce threw me for a loop and I've put about 45 lbs back on. I weweighed over 250 lbs for 15+ years. You get used to hiding behind the weight. I'm at the point you are now. Afraid. This new for me, was marred 23 years, so kind feel like a fish out of water. I know I use the weight to hide behind, so gotta get this off. I know that if I succeed, I will...... feel better, no hearburn, can breath easier, stress is less (especially if I'm consistent at the gym). My attitude is better too.

    I know from before that no matter the fears it is all worth it!

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