Getting hit on at the gym

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  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
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    i must check, i never payed attention
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
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    I'm not gonna lie - I certainly enjoy the show while I'm on the treadmill or stair climber, but when I'm lifting or stretching, I like to be left the hell alone.
  • geekyjock76
    geekyjock76 Posts: 2,720 Member
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    It depends. Many women are rather inapproachable at the gym and make it obvious they don't want to be bothered. All my friends tell me since I work at a gym that I shouldn't have any trouble meeting fit girls, but I do because of the above reason. So, trying to date a girl from a gym, or even initiate a conversation with one, is quite a rare opportunity. It's too bad because I love fit women.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
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    There will always be men looking to find women at the gym.

    Women understand this, and most have on ipods/earpieces to look unapproachable.
  • JustANumber85
    JustANumber85 Posts: 644 Member
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    Im there to get fit not hit on.
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
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    There will always be men looking to find women at the gym.

    Women understand this, and most have on ipods/earpieces to look unapproachable.

    They still do though!
  • shiraLA
    shiraLA Posts: 272 Member
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    I think that it depends on the approach. It's obvious that you two have something in common if you're both there. However, when I go to the gym, I am there to workout. The girls at my gym that get hit on are usually the ones that come in with their hair done, make up on and barely any clothes...that would not be me haha
  • Katbody10
    Katbody10 Posts: 369 Member
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    "Getting hit on at the gym"


    I wish!! LOL or rather .. I hope somebody notices me at some point.. .. :blushing: :blushing:

    okay .. maybe I'm a little shy and don't look directly at anyone out of fear.. so I don't notice -- I do go mainly to work out .. that's what I paid for .. not an escort service :wink:
  • NocturnalGirl
    NocturnalGirl Posts: 1,762
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    I think it's fine to meet like-minded people, however I'm there to workout and don't like to be disturbed. Afterwards it's fine but not during. To avoid getting hit on, it helps to have earphones on and avoid eye contact whatsoever.
  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
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    just an honest question, and then why all girls wonder "where is all the good men" when they try their best not to hold any eye contact EVERYWHERE?!!
  • elprincipito
    elprincipito Posts: 1,200 Member
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    There will always be men looking to find women at the gym.

    Women understand this, and most have on ipods/earpieces to look unapproachable.

    They still do though!
    Definitely not this. I seen girls go all googly eyed over the guys...
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,326 Member
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    i'm fast and flirty so there is NEVER an inappropriate time to flirt, except maybe during that person's wedding :laugh:

    and earpieces arent really a deterrent if a guy wants to talk to you. he'll just wait for you to take them out :laugh:
  • petersonabt
    petersonabt Posts: 518 Member
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    You never know where you could meet your mr. or mrs. right. If I wasn't married and someone started chatting me up at the gym and asked for a date I wouldn't say no just because we meet in a gym.
  • mavrick7
    mavrick7 Posts: 1,607 Member
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    I think that it depends on the approach. It's obvious that you two have something in common if you're both there. However, when I go to the gym, I am there to workout. The girls at my gym that get hit on are usually the ones that come in with their hair done, make up on and barely any clothes...that would not be me haha

    @shiraLA - I totally agree with you, and I guess that I shouldn't be judgemental. Girls that dress up to the gym are a distraction.
  • wolfpack77
    wolfpack77 Posts: 655
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    Obviously people are checking each other out in the gym, its just nature. Some will be open to the approach and others will not. If you're good at reading body language you'll know which ones are "projecting availability". Once you're good at spotting that then you don't need the gym to meet people. They're just about everywhere. :bigsmile:
  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
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    Obviously people are checking each other out in the gym, its just nature. Some will be open to the approach and others will not. If you're good at reading body language you'll know which ones are "projecting availability". Once you're good at spotting that then you don't need the gym to meet people. They're just about everywhere. :bigsmile:

    master,

    please teach me your knowledge XD

    dude , im engaged but that sounded so professional
  • vander7679
    vander7679 Posts: 109 Member
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    I'm in my own world when I'm at the gym...not a social place for me.
  • harlanJEN
    harlanJEN Posts: 1,089 Member
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    Obviously people are checking each other out in the gym, its just nature. Some will be open to the approach and others will not. If you're good at reading body language you'll know which ones are "projecting availability". Once you're good at spotting that then you don't need the gym to meet people. They're just about everywhere. :bigsmile:

    INDEED

    with that said, there is a dude at my gym who wears a tshirt proclaiming : I AM A BEAST. I believe he is trying to project his availability. Prob can't lift anything heavy. I can't bench him, but certainly could leg press him. I can hook you up : )
  • Jonesingmucho
    Jonesingmucho Posts: 4,902 Member
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    So i think this guy hit on me the other day at the gym but im really shy and i didnt really know what to say. Do you have any suggestions on what i could say if i see him again? Something from a guys perspective maybe.

    I'm not sure about a guy's perspective, but he could get to the gym right when you are on your last treadmill mile, so I wouldn't be ready with more than "hi" and a big smile.

    Don't worry about being sweaty. It's a gym! Sweaty means you are kicking it. Just mention how much you enjoyed your workout and are looking forward to your SHOWER and make light, but direct, non-stalker eye contact. He will magically think about you in the SHOWER. He can't help it. All that warm water running down a soapy, slippery, body...
  • RunsOnEspresso
    RunsOnEspresso Posts: 3,218 Member
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    When I worked out at a gym, I always wore my headphones and tried to look unapproachable. I never got hit on but I got lots of guys checking me out. Now when I run outside, I smile and head nod at all the other runners. LOL

    The worse was early one Saturday morning I went to the gym, ran like 5 miles, lifted and had to stop at K-Mart on the way home. I hadn't taken a shower cuz I was gonna run in, grab some face wash & head home. I looked like a mess, not even a hot mess. And some ghetto dude is trying to hit on me while I'm buying face wash. I never went in K-Mart again. I should have worn my headphones in K-Mart.

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