People who are Debbie Downers on new lifestyle???
ethieman
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Venting here: Why is it that some people feel the need to inform me of their hatred of running/swimming/weight lifting/insert form of exercise here???
Literally, these things will be said as I am heading out the door or just returned from said exercise. Anyone share this experience? Any good witty remarks to use as a response? I've been just shrugging them off and keeping on with keepin on, but I don't feel like "taking it" anymore!
The same can be said for diet..if I'm eating something that is perceived as more healthful, a negative comment about how much they hate grilled fish, steamed veggies, chicken, insert food here...
Literally, these things will be said as I am heading out the door or just returned from said exercise. Anyone share this experience? Any good witty remarks to use as a response? I've been just shrugging them off and keeping on with keepin on, but I don't feel like "taking it" anymore!
The same can be said for diet..if I'm eating something that is perceived as more healthful, a negative comment about how much they hate grilled fish, steamed veggies, chicken, insert food here...
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Sorry, no witty comment, but they sound ignorant. Where have they been the last 30 years?0
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Venting here: Why is it that some people feel the need to inform me of their hatred of running/swimming/weight lifting/insert form of exercise here???
Literally, these things will be said as I am heading out the door or just returned from said exercise. Anyone share this experience? Any good witty remarks to use as a response? I've been just shrugging them off and keeping on with keepin on, but I don't feel like "taking it" anymore!
The same can be said for diet..if I'm eating something that is perceived as more healthful, a negative comment about how much they hate grilled fish, steamed veggies, chicken, insert food here...
they're just trying to make small talk. some people are "glass half full" and some people are "glass half empty". it's just their personalities.
just smile back and say, "well, you've got to find some exercise you enjoy to keep you fit." you can say something similar with food.0 -
Who knows why really? It's pretty funny to me. Just keep smiling while the fat melts and the muscles swell!0
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My boyfriend hates everything I eat.
Okay, so that's a slight exaggeration - but only slightly. He has a rotation of perhaps 20 foods that he eats, so in most instances, he will scowl, frown, or make a comment about whatever it is that *I* am eating.
I just tease him that he's the world's pickiest eater. And then he backs off.0 -
It's frustrating, one of my housemates doesn't understand why I track my food on this site, I said to help me lose weight, he then ranted about how people over complicate things and should just eat healthy.
I use the site to eat healthy goddamit0 -
See they lucky they don't know ME. I'm the type that is you said that i would cook you a dinner of the foods you say you hate but make it taste good in order for you to surrender to me lol.Venting here: Why is it that some people feel the need to inform me of their hatred of running/swimming/weight lifting/insert form of exercise here???
Literally, these things will be said as I am heading out the door or just returned from said exercise. Anyone share this experience? Any good witty remarks to use as a response? I've been just shrugging them off and keeping on with keepin on, but I don't feel like "taking it" anymore!
The same can be said for diet..if I'm eating something that is perceived as more healthful, a negative comment about how much they hate grilled fish, steamed veggies, chicken, insert food here...0 -
oooo Yeah! When I was losing the weight I always had a hater at work mostly! The comments at work sometimes would almost get my to breakdown and cry. But then again these comments would come from people who did nothing but eat fried foods and take out allll day long! After a while I paid them no mind. Now I get all the compliments and the how did you do it? My answer is stop eating all that stuff your always eating,. Shuts them right up!0
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One thing I used to find really annoying when I was not trying to sort out fitness and weight, was people making a big virtue of their exercise, so I do try very hard not to draw attention to what I'm doing, but there are times when it becomes very obvious - and then, yes, I get "you're obsessed". However - the same folks who go on about me being potty for running 5k or calorie counting, are the same ones who spend a fair amount of time during the working day filling their faces with about four times what I'm eating, and when I'm feeling hungry, I have to say that annoys me more. At the end of the day, I'm doing this because I was scared by how much weight I'd put on at the end of last year, didn't want to hold onto it at an age when I know it's incredibly difficult to get it off, and decided that the only way I was going to manage was to take a run at it......literally.
I'm the one who's in condition now, despite being older than them, and okay so I'm not eating the huge portions of food they are, but what I'm doing is working. I will admit I'm looking forward to getting to maintenance levels rather than weight loss ones, but for now, it's so been worth it, I'm carrying on, and sure, what I do, or what I eat, isn't what everyone would want to do - but then, it never was.
One other fabby side effect of doing this - I've always cooked from scratch whenever I could, but I can look back at what we've eaten, and see what a range of meals we've done over the last few months...and if I'm short of ideas, I can use the diary for inspiration!0 -
Mostly I suspect it's to cover for their insecurity. They are not doing what they need too and feel like your good example is a rebuke to their lack of effort, etc. The tough part is not taking it personally and continuing to encourage better conduct on their part. Failing that you may have to make some tough choices about who you talk to......0
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My roomate has got to be at least pushing 400lbs, and he is constantly being a damn negative nancy, so i got tired of hearing his **** when he said to me, "I could probably loose 20 lbs in a week if i wanted to", so i said ok you know what, PROVE IT!!! Come with me to the gym and stop constantly talking crap!!! He was on the elliptical for 5 mins and then played on his phone and sat down until i was done working out NO LIE!!! he is always talking ****, so i call him out on it and now he leaves me alone. He tried to say he was eating and drinking healthier and hasn't even had a soda in 3 months, and i went to his job to bring his boss something and there he was with 3 code red mountain dew, 2 of them already gone while he was working on the 3rd one!!! its very annoying, but i just call people out when they say stupid **** like that....granted on occasion i will eat something or enjoy some food that isn't exactly healthy, but that doesnt mean i'm going to be rude and say something negative!!!0
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I think it is a form of jealousy! They are either over weight and too lazy to do anything about it or they are naturally thin and think everyone should be.
The people who say something about your veggies or other healthfull food i think fall into the same group or they don't care how they look.
I think I would tell them if were me that hey " I have to work at looking THIS good, it doesn't come naturally!!
Basil0 -
Living well is the best revenge. The hard part for me is I always want to share how much better I feel STAYING on my new lifestyle and that going off my new lifestyle isn't a "TREAT"....
To each his or her own. I have learned to share when asked and cheer on everyone on MFP, and it is exciting to see all the different variantions on "calories in and calories out" we all do to get to our goal, set a new goal or maintain.
Phooey on those Debby Downers until they figure out they should join in!0 -
I get flak when I post workouts on facebook but I don't care. Everyone else is posting everything they are doing so why shouldn't I? I make no complaints about their posts on potty training, going shopping, pics of their food etc.0
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I have a few of those on here and in real life. I had a friend who was always negative and i just deleted her. I am a super positive perky person and I don't need people around me who are bringing me down! Theres some people at my work who are just total Debbie Downers, I call one of them DD and he has no idea why! But everything its a WAWAWA comment! Like get over it, **** happens and those who have a bad attitude about it will never find the Good in life because they only look for the bad in life.
Feel free to add me!0 -
I suggest you say something like "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. You must find it so difficult to take care of yourself. I guess I'm just lucky that I like looking good and feeling great!"
Bet that would shut them up pretty quick. ;-)0 -
I just say "Well, you're not the one doing it/eating it are you?" very sarcastically.0
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Just tell them "then thank god you are not the one doing it"
It was my answer when people learned I was a surrogate mother and said " I could not do it"0 -
This is how I handle it:
Co-worker: "What are you eating?"
Me: "Greek yogurt."
Co-worker: "Ick. I hate yogurt."
Me (smiling): "Awesome. More for me!" (goes back to eating)
It usually gets them to either laugh, smile, or walk away and leave me alone. Mission accomplished.
Sometimes, when someone says they hate whatever exercise I mention, I think it's just their way of making conversation. When they say, "I hate swimming," I say something like, "I love it because it's so relaxing. What do you like to do?"0 -
I've found that avoiding people named Debbie Downer helps. They are usually not very fun.0
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Lolz :laugh: Good point!0
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This is how I handle it:
Co-worker: "What are you eating?"
Me: "Greek yogurt."
Co-worker: "Ick. I hate yogurt."
Me (smiling): "Awesome. More for me!" (goes back to eating)
It usually gets them to either laugh, smile, or walk away and leave me alone. Mission accomplished.
Sometimes, when someone says they hate whatever exercise I mention, I think it's just their way of making conversation. When they say, "I hate swimming," I say something like, "I love it because it's so relaxing. What do you like to do?"
Love it! thanks
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It's frustrating, one of my housemates doesn't understand why I track my food on this site, I said to help me lose weight, he then ranted about how people over complicate things and should just eat healthy.
I use the site to eat healthy goddamit
I so get you on this!!!!!0 -
Just tell them "then thank god you are not the one doing it"
It was my answer when people learned I was a surrogate mother and said " I could not do it"
Great point! As someone who always tries to be positive, I just have a hard time understanding why people do this. Thanks for all of the great points everyone has brought up!
On a side note, I LOVE MFP, you guys are great!!!0 -
It's frustrating, one of my housemates doesn't understand why I track my food on this site, I said to help me lose weight, he then ranted about how people over complicate things and should just eat healthy.
I use the site to eat healthy goddamit
I so get you on this!!!!!
My situation exactly!!!0 -
I think the negative comments from people tend to be about themselves and are much more frequent on this sure than in my life. Usually it's the debbie downers I see that is always complaining about wanting to quit. Its too hard, I have no willpower, someone was mean to me so I wanna give up, exercise is too hard and I hate it... Those are the people I delete (and those who don't log in.) Very few of the comments I hear are directed at me but it's still hard to listen to. I'm not just shedding pounds, I'm shedding all the negativity too.0
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I would say that your positive life changes are challenging them and they are trying to justify their poor lifestyle with how much they don't enjoy it...
Ont let it get to you, just know that you are doing great and that you love it. That is what matters. 0
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