First Christmas without my Mom

yspen42

I know how you feel. It has been 12 years for me without my mom and i tell you what...it is SO hard to cope especially around the holidays.
Pray and remember the good times that you are shared...it gets me through! Also my dog helps A LOT!

And remember it is okay to cry...so many times we dont want to cry but it is a great cleansing/copping mechnicism.

Take Care and I will Pray for your strength during this time.

ceceoplaymate

I am so sorry for your loss, I couldn't imagine losing my mom. ** HUGS**

Kissybiz

Today marks the 5th year anniversary of my mom's death. I've kind of been a little blue all day. It's difficult but it does get easier. I just think of her as smiling down on me from heaven.. pour a glass of eggnog and say Cheers Mom! I love you!

I'm sorry for your loss.. but it does get easier with time.

da1128

So sorry for your loss. My dad died 2 weeks before Christmas and although it was 17 years ago, it's still sad. My mom has been gone for 20 years now, and I miss my parents dearly. However, with time, you will remember things that make you smile, and although you will always love and miss your mom, the happy memories will make things easier.

My mom and dad still live in my heart and nothing will ever change that.

RVfrog

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've lost both my parents and a spouse so I feel your pain. You said you have things that you are making a memory box. Why not get a small tree for a table and make it your mom's tree. Make it a memory tree and when you see it remember she would want you to go on. Think of all the good things about her and and make it a special time. Light a candle by the tree for her, play her music that she loved. She will always be in your heart and mind and you'll always miss her try a make it about the precious memories and know that she is a peace. She would want that for you. I know it is a sad time and I remember the first few yrs after....but the memories no one can take and you'll learn to laugh at things about her that you remember she did. Time will heal but you will always miss and feel sad that she is not here.God Bless you at this time of the year .

Chickabittie

Carol, II'm so sorry for your irreplaceable loss. I will be praying for you for strength and peace during this difficult holday season. Hugs.:flowerforyou:

GiddyupTim

Carol, I think you will be fine. You can use it to remember her. You can enjoy the contemplation, and find a comfort in it. The Holidays don't have to be giddy and jolly. They can be quiet and reflective, and just as meaningful.
My mother died on Christmas Day, after about a month in the ICU. She had been healthy every single day of her life before she got sick.
Wishing you the best.

NCchar130

Mom died in August of this year. She had a long a healthy life-really only suffered in the last week.

It feels like somebody pulled the plug (maybe that was the wrong choice of words!) on my holiday spirit.
I'd just as soon ignore the holidays and not be jolly and bright. The Christmas tree actually makes me feel sad. The lights are on, but I don't feel like putting ornaments on it.

I know leading up to Thanksgiving I felt the same way- but then Thanksgiving day was just fine. Cooked dinner, played games, felt good.

Perhaps it's just the anticipation-Bah Humbug!

I'm very sorry for your loss! The first Christmas without my dad, who died suddenly when I was 25, was very hard. My family didn't really even try to make it the same, it just wasn't possible. So we just sort of let it "be" what it was. We celebrated without trying too hard, if that makes sense. My family is small and he was such a huge part of Christmas, there wasn't any other way around it. But as I remember (this was 8 years ago), it didn't turn out to be horrible and sad either - we enjoyed each other and shared our memories. Sending you hugs this Christmas!

theglencoegirl

i understand what you are feeling!!! i have also lost my mom--in what sounds like VERY similar circumstances and timing (my mom died aug 2011) focus on the wonderful memories you had with her. talk to her!! love her and love yourself!! i send you strength and love!! may this holiday season bring you many happy memories!!

barb_32

Sorry to hear about your mother, I know how you feel, I lost my husband six years ago. You'll have good and bad times but my advice is to do what feels right for you. If you want to decorate, decorate. If you don't, don't. I was lucky and had good family and friends who were always there to support me (even though sometimes I didn't want them to). But distractions are good and like on Thanksgiving maybe you'll feel better once you get going and surround yourself with friends and family. Good luck, it is a long road but it does get a little better with time.

Mteach1

I know exactly how you feel. My mom died in August of 1999 when I was 16. She had cancer for 4 years and Christmas was horrible because it was far away enough from her death that most people thought I was "over it" and pretended it was a perfectly normal Christmas. My dad didn't even come to Christmas that year (too upset) so my younger siblings and I just went alone to my grandparents. All I can say is that it does get easier, but you never get "over it" . I have a very sad, but sweet poem called Christmas in Heaven that is framed in my living room and I put it up each Christmas.

This Christmas in Heaven, oh what a beautiful sight!
It's my first one here; everything is all right.
The crib is adorned with the brilliance of stars,
Wise men have come from Venus and Mars.
I've met all our dear ones who preceded us here.
The reunion was lovely, an event full of cheer.
And tonightwe'lll all gather, in reverence we'll kneel,
For the babe in the cradle up in Heaven is real.
I think of my family that I left behind.
And I pray that your Christmas is as blessed as mine.
Please shed no more tears, for my soul is at rest,
Just love one another; live life to its best.
Yes, it's Christmas in Heaven, so I've heard them say, yet Christmas in Heaven happens everyday.


Thinking of you...

frogjennifer

I lost my mom 5 months ago and my dad a year ago. The heartbreak is indescribable. What do you do when you no longer have parents. The people who have been with you every day of your entire life. I'm lost.

MyChocolateDiet

:flowerforyou:

I really don't know what to say.

I'm sorry.

yoovie

i think of the holiday spirit as something that grows and builds. I dont have any family left at all except a cousin 3000 miles away. I have to make my own spirit.

it always starts off so unbearably sad and lonely, but slowly, one little piece of glitter at a time, something beautiful grows and when it comes down to the darkest part of winter, there is at least a little something glowing and happy inside.

GingerSnaps718

Loss my mom in October 2017. Missed her Thanksgiving, Her Birthday, Christmas and more recently Mother's Day. Grieving is a process and we must be patient with ourselves. Life gets too real sometimes!

Peace

Poisonedpawn78

GingerSnaps718 wrote: »

Loss my mom in October 2017. Missed her Thanksgiving, Her Birthday, Christmas and more recently Mother's Day. Grieving is a process and we must be patient with ourselves. Life gets too real sometimes!

Peace

You can see into the future? Might want to tell your mom!

On a serious note, I am dreading the day my dad dies. I will truely be alone that day. I am sure you miss your mom, but remember the great memories you had with her and never let go of them.