staring problem

jojorocksforeva
jojorocksforeva Posts: 303 Member
Well since im overweight for my whole life,
i feel like everyone is starting at me or doing something to bug
me i also feel like someone i see everyday just likes staring
at me and making me feel uncomfortable And just waiting for you
so he can stare at you What do you do about people like this!
and whats your pet peeve

Replies

  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Stare back. Wink if you meet eyes. Winking is pretty creepy in real life.

    This took me several reads to understand, btw.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,421 Member
    I'm not sure what you're saying...you think people are staring at you because of your weight?

    You can 1.) ignore them 2.) let it ruin your day/life 3.) ask them what they are looking at.

    I choose #1.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    What??
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    stalker-hugsley.gif
  • Like they're purposely staring at you to bother you? I've never felt like that, except for back in 7th grade when this one boy named Travis would purposely stare at me for prolonged periods just trying to make me uncomfortable so him and his stupid friends could laugh at me.....but that's a story for another time. :)

    I actually feel the opposite sometimes - like some people see a 'big' person coming towards them and they avert their eyes. I don't know why and I don't even know if it's true - I could just be paranoid. LOL
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Well since im overweight for my whole life,
    i feel like everyone is starting at me or doing something to bug
    me i also feel like someone i see everyday just likes staring
    at me and making me feel uncomfortable And just waiting for you
    so he can stare at you What do you do about people like this!
    and whats your pet peeve

    Pretty sure it's all in your head. You may want to talk to someone about this, because when you lose the weight you'll still have this unresolved issue

    Why is this written like a poem? Is this some sort of modified haiku?
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    There are two possibilities here:

    1) You are being paranoid and no one is staring at you any more than they would stare at anyone else. You only notice because you are self-concious.

    2) People really are staring at you. If so, they're the ones with the problem and you should just ignore them.

    It might be a good idea to talk this through with someone. I've been paranoid before, but only realised at a later date.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    maybe he likes the way you look
  • jayche
    jayche Posts: 1,128 Member
    people stare regardless of what you look like
  • BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY
    BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY Posts: 666 Member
    Well since im a guy for my whole life,
    i stare at women and sometimes bug them
    me i also like to stare at the same chicks everyday i just like staring
    at them and making myself feel happy And just wait for them
    so I can stare at them Gotta love hot chicks to stare at!
    The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
    But I have promises to keep,
    And miles to go before I sleep,
    And miles to go before I sleep.
  • Retiredmom72
    Retiredmom72 Posts: 538 Member
    I don't worry about it. I love to think that I am in the person's mind! Then they can't do what they need to do. I love the quoting of Robert Frost.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Well since im a guy for my whole life,
    i stare at women and sometimes bug them
    me i also like to stare at the same chicks everyday i just like staring
    at them and making myself feel happy And just wait for them
    so I can stare at them Gotta love hot chicks to stare at!
    The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
    But I have promises to keep,
    And miles to go before I sleep,
    And miles to go before I sleep.

    *giggle giggle*
  • BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY
    BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY Posts: 666 Member
    Are you doing duck face in real life, like in your profile pics? That should help keep guys from leering at you.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I'm not sure what you're saying...you think people are staring at you because of your weight?

    You can 1.) ignore them 2.) let it ruin your day/life 3.) ask them what they are looking at.

    I choose #1.

    ^ Best answer
  • dakitten2
    dakitten2 Posts: 888 Member
    I'm a people watcher, I like watching their interactions with others, but not in a creepy way.

    My partner has said to me, quit staring at that person, when in actuality, my eyes may have been directed at someone but mind my was on something totally different and I wasnt really seeing the person at all. It's like I'm locked in thought about something that doesnt even correspond to where I am at or what I am doing. I'm a deep thinker. LOL
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    Well since im a guy for my whole life,
    i stare at women and sometimes bug them
    me i also like to stare at the same chicks everyday i just like staring
    at them and making myself feel happy And just wait for them
    so I can stare at them Gotta love hot chicks to stare at!
    The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
    But I have promises to keep,
    And miles to go before I sleep,
    And miles to go before I sleep.

    you hear that butterfly......now how about that dance? .do my scars scare you......"its not your scars...its your car"
  • BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY
    BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY Posts: 666 Member
    I am staring at all of the hot chicks' profile pics, by the way.
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    Well since im a guy for my whole life,
    i stare at women and sometimes bug them
    me i also like to stare at the same chicks everyday i just like staring
    at them and making myself feel happy And just wait for them
    so I can stare at them Gotta love hot chicks to stare at!
    The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
    But I have promises to keep,
    And miles to go before I sleep,
    And miles to go before I sleep.

    Smart and funny! :drinker:
  • ChapinaGrande
    ChapinaGrande Posts: 289 Member
    Well since im a guy for my whole life,
    i stare at women and sometimes bug them
    me i also like to stare at the same chicks everyday i just like staring
    at them and making myself feel happy And just wait for them
    so I can stare at them Gotta love hot chicks to stare at!
    The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
    But I have promises to keep,
    And miles to go before I sleep,
    And miles to go before I sleep.

    *giggle giggle*

    :D I REALLY want to write something in an aaba bbcb ccdc dddd form, but I'm not up for the effort tonight.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    No one is staring at you.
    You are not the big deal you think you are, nor are you the center of all things.

    You only have this illusion because of your belief in your own self-importance.

    Get over yourself.

    is your nickname Sunshine?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    No one is staring at you.
    You are not the big deal you think you are, nor are you the center of all things.

    You only have this illusion because of your belief in your own self-importance.

    Get over yourself.

    *dies laughing* I'm sorry, but...yeah...I do agree with this. I don't care if you think I'm mean, but..it does ring a bit true..lmao
  • DarkHours
    DarkHours Posts: 12 Member
    No one is staring at you.
    You are not the big deal you think you are, nor are you the center of all things.

    You only have this illusion because of your belief in your own self-importance.

    Get over yourself.

    is your nickname Sunshine?


    Yes.

    That and "Sweet Cheeks."

    Because I'm so damn delightful at parties.
  • I'm pretty sure it's just paranoia--I used to feel like this at times. But, I also just looked at your pics (hope you don't mind), and you are beautiful! Maybe that's why they are looking at you?
  • jojorocksforeva
    jojorocksforeva Posts: 303 Member
    Ha these comments are hilarious thanks the ones who gave me a nice comment i really dont care what you think, its my pet peive im sure you have one of your own!
  • avir8
    avir8 Posts: 671 Member
    thatwasareallylongsentenceatleastyouputspacesinbetweenthewordsorelseitwouldnothavebeeneasytounderstandandnowimjusttypingwordstomakethissentencelongeriwonderifanyonewilltrytoreadithaha :devil:
  • Contort your face in the weirdest way possible, then keep staring at them like that until they look away.
  • teryx123
    teryx123 Posts: 57 Member
    People aren't looking AT you, they are looking THROUGH you. You are invisible.
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    I get stared at every time I leave my apartment, I live in Taipei (Taiwan)

    I'm different and I love it :happy:
  • RECowgill
    RECowgill Posts: 881 Member
    You should understand some things about people's default behavior. Evolutionarily speaking, we are to a large extent pattern recognition processors. Our eyes are probably our most developed of the 5 senses because it was necessary for survival. The animal that could identify the good red fruit from the poisonous red fruit lived. It was important for our ancestors to see predators coming from a great distance away, because we didn't run as good as them, but we were vertical, and could climb trees. Predators could hide in the tall grass and blend in with their fur patterns. We needed very acute optical abilities, color differentation, high resolution, in order to see them and survive.

    People look at things. They stare, they make judgements about everything, consciously or not. It's some of our most low level programming if you will. Understand also that almost nobody looks at people with the intent of coming to a negative conclusion, we are just naturally interested in looking at things and making decisions about objects and events. Realizing all this you can then say, well, if people are looking at me that's just what humans do.

    At the gym I'm very aware of how people's gaze can make things more awkward and uncomfortable and being aware of that I do my best not to contribute to it. So I don't look at people, and I'm very forgiving when people are looking at me. I know that a certain significant percentage just can't help it. It's in their nature, they're gonna look.

    I say don't worry about it. Lots of people of all different shapes and sizes out there and you could say there are many of us who take our gift of vision for granted.