Open your food log to others or not, that's the question.
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...how come your Diary isn't open? Oh, NM, you're not coming back....d'oh.0
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I like looking over other peoples food logs just to get ideas on different meals/foods. I never would have discovered Shiritaki noodles if I hadn't!
I completely understand people who want to keep things private, but who cares! We are all on this website with the same goal, to make ourselves healthier. We all post our fat pictures and our update pictures. Why hide our foods if we don't hide our flub!
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I completely disagree that you should be super concerned with people who don't post their diary though. In the end, it is their business, and if you don't like it, Unfriend them! I personally will always share mine, because I like people to see how I can be stuffed as a big guy eating barely over 1400 calories a day.0 -
I am extremely concerned when it comes to people on MFP who won't share their food logs.
I am extremely concerned when it comes to people who are this nosy.
It's my food log to do with as I please. I don't take unsolicited advice, so what good does it do for someone to offer it?
If I have a specific question that requires people to see what I'm eating, I'll open my food diary to them. Though mine IS currently open to friends, it hasn't always been.0 -
...how come your Diary isn't open? Oh, NM, you're not coming back....d'oh.
Lmao. You mean after all that, the OP's diary isn't even open? God, I love this place.0 -
LOL - that is so funny - and the ultimate irony? I never even thought to check!!!!...how come your Diary isn't open? Oh, NM, you're not coming back....d'oh.0 -
I have a few friends with closed food diaries, it doesn't bother me. If they feel they need to hide what they eat, so be it. Mine is open. I like open diaries because it gives me ideas on thing I could incorporate into my own food.
I do not tell people great job if their diary is closed. In the end it is their choice0 -
Wait! I believe you should have never posted this. Your diary is not open. LMAO0
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I love your passion, but you're extremely concerned about someone like me that chooses to keep my diary private?! What I eat, how I get my calories is my business, no one else's. If for some reason what I was doing wasn't getting results and I *needed* help, then yes, I'd probably open it up to my friends so they could point out where I'm going wrong. But at this point, my diary is private. I'm fully able to hold myself accountable and it's working. Why fix something that isn't broken?
^this. OP, you worry about you, and I will worry about me. I've been doing just great having support from people without my diary being open. Do what works for you and I'll do what works for me.0 -
Her diary isn't open?! *checks* It is indeed NOT open. AHAHAHAHAHA!
Any bets to how long it'll be before there's another "YOU GUYS ARE SO MEAN!" thread? I'm no bookie, but I accept expensive jewelry and priceless family heirlooms in place of cash.....0 -
To each their own, but I do think commenting "WTG" or "Great job!" on someone's diary that is private is silly. Someone could eat nothing but a box of ding dongs all day and still come in under. That's hardly a good job. :sick: But it's really not a huge deal if they don't want to share with me or other friends. I just am unable to provide much encouragement having little to no idea what they're eating. :ohwell: That typically results in them providing little encouragement to me, and eventually me unfriending them because it's pointless (to me) to have "friends" I'm not actually interacting with.
Sometimes having open diaries doesn't stop those "friends" from rewarding questionable behaviour. A friend of mine had nothing but lemon water all day, and a friend of theirs enthusiastically commented "under! Woohoo!" :huh:0 -
My diary is open by choice whatever anyone does is their business!! However, everyone could use a tip SURELY!!!!!
Not everyone. I'm a pretty reasonable, responsible adult who has learned to be capable of making my own choices, and am accountable to no one but myself.
If I want ideas on something new, I look for it or ask a general question of my FL. I don't need to go creeping through peoples' diaries to get it.0 -
Well, I for one am concerned with people who keep their diaries open. What, are you some kind of show off? An exhibitionist? Are you keeping your diary open as a way to show the world that you are better than they are? I worry that these people are keeping their diaries open not for help and support but because they think they are eating better than us and we need the example to follow.
Yep, that's it ... they are ego maniacs with a superiority complex. It has to stop.0 -
Hmm ... Put me down for a stale packet of crisps and half a pair of 9ct gold studs ...Her diary isn't open?! *checks* It is indeed NOT open. AHAHAHAHAHA!
Any bets to how long it'll be before there's another "YOU GUYS ARE SO MEAN!" thread? I'm no bookie, but I accept expensive jewelry and priceless family heirlooms in place of cash.....0 -
I'm sure her diary is probably open to those whom are friends with her.0
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Hmm ... Put me down for a stale packet of crisps and half a pair of 9ct gold studs ...Her diary isn't open?! *checks* It is indeed NOT open. AHAHAHAHAHA!
Any bets to how long it'll be before there's another "YOU GUYS ARE SO MEAN!" thread? I'm no bookie, but I accept expensive jewelry and priceless family heirlooms in place of cash.....
She'll probably take a day or so to stew about how mean everyone is. . . I'll take tomorrow at 8PM (Pacific) for $3.0 -
But ... That was not the ethos in her original post ... And she became upset when people stood up for their reasons to keep their own diaries either private or only open to their own friends ...I'm sure her diary is probably open to those whom are friends with her.0 -
But ... That was not the ethos in her original post ... And she became upset when people stood up for their reasons to keep their own diaries either private or only open to their own friends ...I'm sure her diary is probably open to those whom are friends with her.
I didn't see anything specific to being publicly open or open to friends, I must have missed that.0 -
That last sentence is likely why some people don't share their food logs. It doesn't matter what others say/think of what you eat. It is ultimately up to each person to keep themselves on track.I am extremely concerned when it comes to people on MFP who won't share their food logs. If you want to lose weight, and you are friends with others on MFP, why wouldn't you want the encouragement one receives when they SEE what you've put in your face?
I think some have to think about why they came to MFP in the first place. Did you come to use the food and exercise logs? Did you come for advice from others who know your plight? Do you feel that you have no clue how to lose weight or to maintain your health? How can others help you if you aren't ready to give them the information they need in order to give a bit of advice? People can tell you all day how to do something but ultimately it is up to you.
BUT, Is there any evidence that those who allow others see your food journal lose more than those who don't.Keeping a food journal makes a person responsible and accountable for what they put in their face. It is also a known fact that those who do keep a food journal lose more weight than those who don't.0 -
Even better... same friend... would happily nab my chips (fries for y'all in the US) when I bought a bowl after classes... but HEAVEN FORFEND that we should nab a chip back when they bought some... excuse being "I'm broke and I have to travel back so this is my dinner..." uh huh... I just walked out of a well paid IT job to be a penniless journo... you think I paid for my fries with magic pixie dust, and that I don't need dinner too?
But now I have the secret weapon... they seemed to have an aversion to anything "veggie"... 'tis an awesome weapon of food-stealer-destruction! :-)
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I just got back from a week at Disney and they don't even take magic pixie dust in place of money!!0 -
I open mine so that I can get feedback and give other people ideas for meals....I like to look at other's diaries for the same reason!0
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I have issues with food that I won't go into here but the crux of it is I've had quite enough people haranguing and judging me over what I put in my mouth. Last thing I need is someone criticising my choices who, whilst they may be a "friend" on MFP, probably knows nothing about me.0
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Hmm ... Put me down for a stale packet of crisps and half a pair of 9ct gold studs ...Her diary isn't open?! *checks* It is indeed NOT open. AHAHAHAHAHA!
Any bets to how long it'll be before there's another "YOU GUYS ARE SO MEAN!" thread? I'm no bookie, but I accept expensive jewelry and priceless family heirlooms in place of cash.....
She'll probably take a day or so to stew about how mean everyone is. . . I'll take tomorrow at 8PM (Pacific) for $3.
Perhaps if some of those being mean, such as betting on how long it takes someone to cry "Why???", would just tell them exactly why they are mean, people could stop asking.0 -
I think that is infinitely more shocking than whether or not people choose to share their food diaries.Even better... same friend... would happily nab my chips (fries for y'all in the US) when I bought a bowl after classes... but HEAVEN FORFEND that we should nab a chip back when they bought some... excuse being "I'm broke and I have to travel back so this is my dinner..." uh huh... I just walked out of a well paid IT job to be a penniless journo... you think I paid for my fries with magic pixie dust, and that I don't need dinner too?
But now I have the secret weapon... they seemed to have an aversion to anything "veggie"... 'tis an awesome weapon of food-stealer-destruction! :-)
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I just got back from a week at Disney and they don't even take magic pixie dust in place of money!!
We must surely be in economic decline if even DISNEY has refused to take magic pixie dust!
What is the world coming to. SMH0 -
Some people are not confident enough to share yet. Maybe they just joined and are seeing if the sight will help them out by just seeign themselves what they are actually eating and the calorie count. . . . When they are finally comfortable with the site they may open it up to some of their friends. It took me a while to trust some people, and then it helped my weightloss too. :O)
^Exactly!
Having been "dieting" (ie: not necessarily healthy eating) most of my life, I completely understand the OP's concern. My past poor eating choices contributed to my yo-yo dieting the past 35 years. While I know (mentally) that opening up my food diary is the smart thing to do, I don't yet feel comfortable (emotionally) being that vulnerable right now.
I'm not looking for a cold turkey quick fix (been there, done that multiple times over the past four decades). This time around I want to eat healthier (not just rabbit food), portion control (not total abstinence), and easing into an eating lifestyle that I can live with in the long term, in the real world.
My food choices will likely cause some people to make comments like:
"Oh no, you can't eat white rice, you must only eat brown rice."
"You had a 130-calorie Kashi cookie four nights this week? Don't you know you can't have cookies when you're dieting?"
"You skipped breakfast two days in a row?" (OK, I really do need a kick in the butt to get on track with this one. LOL)
I do hope to one day feel comfortable enough to open my food diary to scrutiny. Right now, the food diary is mostly there to help me get a visual on what I am eating and where I need to make adjustments. And when I am ready to do that, I hope I have a friend like the OP in my corner. :-)0 -
Mine is private, and i have a wonderful group of friends who i cherish here.Theres more to it, then just your food log.0
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If some people keep their food diary private I feel that is their business. Some people are shy, or insecure, or nervous and maybe need time. Mine is open to friends only but only after I learned that the default setting kept it private. If they are eating healthy and losing or maintaining weight I see no reason to worry about their food habits. If they are stalled or gaining I'd suggest then and only then that they consider opening up their food diary.0
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Keeping a food journal makes a person responsible and accountable for what they put in their face.
I'm accountable to myself. Period.0 -
mine is open to everyone. I have nothing to hide. some-days i eat like $h!t other days I eat great. it is what it is.0
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