eating at the in-laws (gross).. what would you do?

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  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Pretend you're sick

    Or go and eat and really be sick.


    Seriously, tell your husband you CAN'T eat there - it's filthy.
  • ChaiSpyce
    ChaiSpyce Posts: 46
    Wow! What a mess. I just wouldn't go. First of all she should have asked if you had plans or at least extended an invitation for you to accept or decline, not issue a directive. I don't think it's rude if you go and don't eat the food. I think it's rude for someone to offer you food prepared in a filthy environment. Broken plumbing? I assume this is isolated to the kitchen. Where is she washing her hands? I shudder at the horror of it all!

    They would probably have plenty to say about me because I would have made it known early in the game that I'm not visiting, let alone eating, in their nasty house, LOL!

    Yes, I said it!!!!!
  • _Peacebone_
    _Peacebone_ Posts: 229 Member
    Roaches? Uhm no I wouldn't go. *shudder*
  • Jen32285
    Jen32285 Posts: 281 Member
    I hate going to my in-laws for the same reason. I refuse to take my shoes off in that house. I never really eat when I go there. It sucked when I was pregnant. I thought I was gonna die. I haven't been there in like 3 years.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    First of all. . . CHILI!?? Really? For Christmas Eve? That's hilarious!. .

    Second of all. . suck it up and eat a bowl of chili. . One good thing about chili is that it's boiled, which means any nasty bacteria is dead. I guarantee. .you WILL NOT DIE and you won't get sick, unless you make yourself sick.

    Thirdly, in-laws are part of marriage. It's normal for them to annoy you. . especially if they live close. . But if you want your marriage to last. .you take one for the team and smile and eat. . If your marriage isn't worth a little discomfort. . then get out before you have kids.

    Good luck!
  • kkerri
    kkerri Posts: 276 Member
    I cannot understand living like that. I often wonder how people do not see how they live and/or think that it is normal.

    Anyway, I would not eat - I'd say that I was full and/or sick.

    I have been in a similar situation and I just pick and/or don't eat and pray. Wine always helps some, too.
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    Your husband needs to tell them that HE is not comfortable bringing his two year old into a filthy, infested house that reeks of chemicals. He needs to he the one to deal with them, or it will just he more ammo against you. He shouldn't have changed plans on you, and they need to realize they could get their house condemned in that condition.

    Edited for a hyperactive autocorrect.
  • drmerc
    drmerc Posts: 2,603 Member
    Either refuse to go or go eat there and enjoy your food poisoning on Christmas day
  • Surfrider
    Surfrider Posts: 364 Member
    I would find it really odd if I invited guests over for a meal and they brought their own personal (not for everyone) dish.

    I think Nice's suggestion on the previous page to invite them to prepare the meal at your place is the best idea of all.
  • BamsieEkhaya
    BamsieEkhaya Posts: 657 Member
    I got a little sick in my throat thinking about the roaches
    clean freak me would literally throw a 5year old tantrum and refuse to go (not the best advice - but that roaches thing just made me gag)
  • Avandel
    Avandel Posts: 283 Member
    I'd be worried as to whether the kidney beans in the Chili, were!!!! Oh! :sick: barf!
  • ChaiSpyce
    ChaiSpyce Posts: 46
    Question of the Day . . . Is it a roach or a bean?
  • Treece68
    Treece68 Posts: 780 Member
    I would not eat anything. Are you being forced to go over to their house otherwise you should say you have made other arrangements
  • Avandel
    Avandel Posts: 283 Member
    Question of the Day . . . Is it a roach or a bean?

    Great minds!:devil:
  • whitneyps7
    whitneyps7 Posts: 409 Member
    I have a similar problem with both of the inlaws (they are divorced and remarried so double trouble) Their homes are not dirty but their cooking always makes all of us sick. I simply will not go to the dads house because his wife is extremely rude to me and our children so hubby goes alone. Kids are old enough to decide for themselves and they absolutely will not go to his house because of her. I do however eat at the mother in laws. While her cooking almost always makes us sick we do eat it. I suspect its the water but who knows. She's at least pleasant and we adore her husband so its always a nice relaxing non stress visit. You have to weigh out the good with the bad and decide is it worth it? Personally I would not go to someones house if I knew they had a roach problem and had piles of dirty dishes in the sink and no working water to wash them. Thats a breeding ground for those roaches. You can bring those critters home with you in your purse, coats etc. If you do go shake out everything first chance you get before you even get in your car. yuck!!
    agreed^^^
  • obolton756
    obolton756 Posts: 261 Member
    just take the bowl and poke around it.. don't eat it.. but make it look convincing!!
  • _Peacebone_
    _Peacebone_ Posts: 229 Member
    Question of the Day . . . Is it a roach or a bean?
    :laugh:
    so gross lol
  • Surfrider
    Surfrider Posts: 364 Member
    Question of the Day . . . Is it a roach or a bean?

    Do you like your protien squishy or crunchy?
  • cuervoviviana1
    cuervoviviana1 Posts: 12
    Had the same problem a few days ago. Some of my in laws just never heard of cleaning. one of them cleaning the kitchen table with a paper towel that she wet with water, throw the food that was on the table on the kitchen floor and left it there. did not dry the table just put the paper plates right on the wet table. i have been there before so i know what it was like so...... i brought a large chef salad and dressing, a cuban bread and a flan. They served me a plate and i told them not to much im on a diet ( since they are alway talking **** about my weight, they believed me) i served myself salad and started eating and when my husband finish i switch plates, of the mess they served me ( which was refried beans and pig skin in green sauce)
    but, chili for christmas dinner, really i would not want to go.
  • Lyssa62
    Lyssa62 Posts: 930 Member
    I will NOT eat at my inlaws house...first off can't stand any of them ....but yeah it stinks like their oldest sister who used to live there...she didn't take a shower on a regular basis and I'm not kidding you the smell of that is embedded in the walls.

    but other than that...ewwww they are just gross!
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    Tell the truth, you already had plans and if you leave your parents house early enough you'll stop by.....
  • mjoslin1990
    mjoslin1990 Posts: 142 Member
    My mom is going to stop at my house tonight so I have a quick escape! Now I dont have to eat the food, and as far as everyone else knows my mom is stopping by 'unannounced' :D
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    I would refuse to go. That's just nasty. If it's dirty and there's bugs, there is no way in hell I'd go in there, much less eat in that filth. You can get sick. Don't let them make you out to be the bad person, you're not the one living in squaller expecting everyone to be okay with it.

    This. What does your husband say?
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    My mom is going to stop at my house tonight so I have a quick escape! Now I dont have to eat the food, and as far as everyone else knows my mom is stopping by 'unannounced' :D

    Please say you're taking the two year old with you, I cringe at the thought of a baby going into a roachy house. :(
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    did you end up going? If so what happened?
  • harleydall76
    harleydall76 Posts: 586 Member
    I wouldn't go. not to mention you could accidentally bring a roach home in your purse or something

    ^^^this

    *shudders*
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?
  • mjoslin1990
    mjoslin1990 Posts: 142 Member
    did you end up going? If so what happened?

    I did go, I didn't eat, I brought over some spaghetti for my son, and the only thing I ate was a piece of turtle pie that was store bought and packaged (on a paper plate with plastic silverware).

    My mom ended up going to my house, and I brought little man with me to go down there (although we only stayed away for about 20-30 min)

    I will say this, they cleaned the table off and the house smelled like cleaning supplies (vs bug bombs), so I will say they tried.

    I didn't bring anything in except my phone/keys so I'm assuming I didn't bring anything home.

    As far as my husband, he's grossed out, but not to the extent of actually saying/doing anything. He's pretty much a slob too. I'm constantly trailing behind him to keep things clean.


    On a side note, they got my hubby and I a carpet cleaner :) It's not the one I wanted, but heck it's better then not having one!!!
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?
    I want to know how many of them are aware of how many bugs they swallow every night when they sleep...
  • wheresheidi
    wheresheidi Posts: 213
    Your husband needs to tell them that HE is not comfortable bringing his two year old into a filthy, infested house that reeks of chemicals. He needs to he the one to deal with them, or it will just he more ammo against you. He shouldn't have changed plans on you, and they need to realize they could get their house condemned in that condition.

    Edited for a hyperactive autocorrect.

    I suggest you put your foot firmly down or up his keister (whichever works) & let him know he must do the above because you & your child will not step foot in that pig sty again until it's clean. We aren't talking about "getting along" with the in-laws here, we are talking about the safety & health of your child. Roaches, bacteria etc. Time for you to be a AKC Registered 1st in Class & Best in Show B_tch.
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