my family is ruining my christmas with food

victoriavoodoo

Or, more accurately, without it.

My grandparents go to sleep around 5pm, so they decided christmas dinner will be at 3:30 and no eating before that(or we're cheapening all the hard work cooking the meal) or after. We all flew to Portland this year to visit their favorite child, my uncle, so no car or means of getting food. It is 2:20 and I have been up since 7 with nothing to eat and am very frustrated.

How do they expect me to not eat everything in front of me when we finally sit down, after waiting all day for it? If I go in the kitchen and try to eat something my grandmother will stop me; just tried. They're all overweight and southern so no one sees the indulging that will happen later as a problem, except for me.

I am 21, putting me just above the age where they think snacking is acceptable. My little cousins can snack if they want before the meal, but even if they let me the snacks provided are egg nog and m&ms. The adults have just been putting away bottle after bottle of wine, which they do not consider me old enough to drink.

It is going to be very hard to not attack all the food when it's served.

Today sucks. =[ I feel like I have been set up to fail.


Edit: not really expecting a fix just feels good to rant. thanks for commiserating lol

a_certain_shade_of_green

that just sounds like a massive chore! i really hope you get through it

Keto_T

It's one day. It sucks but do the best you can and get back into your comfortable routine as soon as you can.

Keto_T

And bribe the younger cousins to bring you food.

melaniecheeks

Oh dear, that doesn't sound like a great way to get through the day!

But if you've managed so afar (could you not have had breakfast?) then another hour is going to be manageable, yes?

quirkytizzy

I'm a total b*tch if I get that hungry and would get very angry and resentful at people trying to prevent me from eating! What jerks!

Ready2Rock206

Ugh! That is crazy. My mom tried that at Thanksgiving - ummm just because we're eating a big meal at 5:00 doesn't mean we have to starve until then! I served breakfast that day and a light lunch today even though we'll have a big meal later. That would be tough though to not be in your own house. Next time you'll have to sneak in some snacks and go hide somewhere and eat! :ohwell: Good luck and enjoy your meal tonight - sounds like you've earned it!

redhousecat

I'm thinking 21 makes you old enough to bring your own snacks and make decisions on whether you can eat them or not and when.

victoriavoodoo

Oh dear, that doesn't sound like a great way to get through the day!

But if you've managed so afar (could you not have had breakfast?) then another hour is going to be manageable, yes?

Grandma and aunt started cooking yesterday; for the rest of us to eat breakfast would have been rude apparently.
Yeah I'll make it another hour. I'll probably go crazy at the meal though.

Spacing food out is something I've been working on since joining here and I think it is a big part of what works for me. meh

carrietehbear

That is truly frustrating! I hate being in situations where I have no control over my food. When I travel I try to take snacks for me so I know I will have something I can eat when I need it.

Zylahe

When u do sit down, fill your plate with as many veggies as possible and eat them first.
Can you try to get out of the house and go for a walk?
That might help get your mind off it.
Or maybe do some excersizes, j jacks, squats, pushups can be done in a small area.
That way you can at least start to burn of the caliroes before hand.
Also as evyone will say it is just one day.
If you can limit the excess to eating at maintenance, then it means you will reach your goal one day later, so its not a complete disaster.

victoriavoodoo

I'm thinking 21 makes you old enough to bring your own snacks and make decisions on whether you can eat them or not and when.

Come tell my mawmaw that lol. Her grown *kitten* kids don't get that luxury on holidays. I know I'm supposed to appreciate the time I have left with these people but they make it hard sometimes haha

jerbear1962

When you get the chance to eat, take your time set your fork down between bites and enjoy the food as you chew it. Drink plenty of water and remember you haven't eaten all day...so if you end up with extra calories for this meal it's that one meal for the day. Do your best and I hate to say it but years from now you will miss those days. Merry Christmas

UWZander

Relax. It sounds like you just need to take a five minute walk by yourself to calm down. People this time of year get wayyyy to stressed out.

victoriavoodoo

I'm a total b*tch if I get that hungry and would get very angry and resentful at people trying to prevent me from eating! What jerks!

Yeah it's a tradition but we're usually home not out of town; at home I can drive off if I want. No car here makes me frustratingly dependent on the general consensus.

melaniecheeks

Could you get a cup of tea? That might take the edge of your hunger.

meshashesha2012

I'm a total b*tch if I get that hungry and would get very angry and resentful at people trying to prevent me from eating! What jerks!

same here. my family is southern and the same way on thanksgiving and xmas. i usually got a pass on the snacking because i will very quickly turn into she hulk when i'm angry and my family realized it was just easier to let me eat when i'm hungry instead of stopping what they were to spank me (when i was a kid) every time i said something sassy.


a squeaky wheel gets oiled.

also for next year, maybe you can offer to make pre dinner snacks. and i by offer i mean you say i will be making them and eating them and anyone who wants to stop me can just as easily be wearing them :laugh:

TheRealParisLove

This is why people hate family time at the holidays. Can you walk to a store? I know that the south is not known for it's walkability, so I understand that may not be an option.

Your best bet is load your plate up with protein first, leaving very little room for the carbs. This will fill you up and keep you full so you won't be as tempted to snack later.

It's just one day. Back on track tomorrow!

PikaKnight

Sorry, but I know that it is tradition and all, but it is too bad you can't sneak out of the house and have a small snack or something. I mean, sneaking about to eat is bad...but...so is starving to the point you binge when you finally get to eat.

Can't your family maybe start a new tradition or revise the old one to include something to snack on prior to the feast? Maybe having a vegetable or fruit platter about to graze on?

Edited to correct typo

char316

Next time bring snacks. I always do even when I visit my daughter. For right now, do whatever you can to get through the day. God Bless.

threeonethree

Rants feel good. lol

Today was just a small bump along the road. You'll be okay! I had to eat a couple pieces of fruit and a kashi bar to keep my eating on track. Didnt have a proper lunch.