Things that your weight has held you back in?

Smiling_Sara

absolutely everything. But mostly, a social life. A dating life, and a life of loving myself. It's the root of all my terrible social anxiety, I am most certain of it. And then when I do lose weight, and get paid attention to, I run back to the food.

I know I am a good person, I'm fun, nice, and would do anything for the people close to me. But that being said, whenever anyone has ever paid me any attention on the romance area, I couldn't help but wonder why? I've always been *the friend* and a darn good one at that, but a romantic partner???? If I can't love myself the way I look, how can I expect anyone else to? =(

jojorocksforeva

Lets see going on walks im always out of breath yeah i never went to my prom because of my weight, umm Its bascily held me back from anything and everything, But i still managed to have self confidence,

LadyZephyr

I've never worn a bikini in my life, and I really want to.
I've turned down a lot of work because I've felt uncomfortable with my figure.
I haven't been able to wear some of the clothes that I like because I'm too big.
I can't wear shorts because of my thunder thighs.
Dancing in public/on a night out because I think I wobble too much/look terrible.
Loving myself. I've never felt good enough to be loved by anyone, let alone myself.
I won't let my boyfriend touch my stomach at all.
I get extremely paranoid that people are staring at me because I feel fat.

mdyorston

dancing...I used to go all the time, would even go to the club by myself. Now it just feels awkward. I hate having my picture taken.

Bobby__Clerici

Everything....
... self-esteem, sports performance, sleep, work, mood...everything....
And once I lost enough weight not to be considered obese, I retained this self-loathing that I projected on anybody who was obese.
Instead of feeling empathy, I was angry kind of like ex-smokers who become Nazi's about those who still smoke.
It's been a struggle trying to get fit, and at times my frustration was misdirected.
I never want to be that guy again.

TheLittleLebowski

We're the secret brotherhood/sisterhood. I'm amazed at how much of this stuff I have felt or am feeling, like wearing a heavy chain around the neck.

AyaKara

Dancing, whether practicing by myself or social dancing. Never going to the beach. Not wearing something that isn't a hoodie or a turtleneck with jeans. Not really taking care of my overall appearance . . .

But that's okay, because I'm making changes to my lifestyle now & I'm not letting anything hold me back, not even myself!

ariadne1031

Taking the kids to an amusement park. I'm too big for alot of the rides.

Natihilator

So many things. TOO many things, and if I start counting them I'll probably come up with new things that hadn't occurred to me before :frown:

But oddly, NEVER the pool/lake/beach. As much as I hated my body in a bathing suit, the water always won this fish over, even at my heaviest.

awkwardpear

my life.

^ ^ ^ This!!!

It got to a point that I didn't know if my insecurity was keeping me from doing certain things or if I was using it as an excuse because I was just plain scared. Even after I lost the initial weight and got to a healthier size, I was still so negative about myself and the world.

I'm still nowhere near as confident and positive as I'd like to be, but I'm so over using that to rationalize being lazy, apathetic, and withdrawn.

Rebirth08

Having family photos taken. My youngest son is almost 7, and we just had our first family photos taken this year. Horrible...

That's funny you said that...i have had random thoughts about the same thing, and my son is 12....we have taken pics together, but not professional, together, yet. God willing, we will do it, this year, regardless of size. We still have life, we better embrace it.

meghanmfitzgerald

TheLittleLebo, for the record, my profile pic is not what I look like now. It was taken almost two years ago on a cruise I took with my husband before I got pregnant with my third baby. That baby is now 13 months old and due to just the pregnancy, and stress eating bc of some serious health issues that the baby has gone through, I'm 30 lbs heavier now then in that pic. I have that pic bc I view it as my realistic goal.

fittf0rlife

group photos, pool parties, even just swimming alone is a struggle for me

RockandRoseRebel

All of these:

my life.

Dating because I thought I wasn't pretty enough, thus not worth it.

My weight has stopped me from doing a lot of things, such as even wanting to go to public. I haven't seen any of my friends from high school because I'm ashamed of myself. I need to lose a lot of weight and I know it's going to take a long time..

Dancing. I use to dance but I always felt like I sucked at it, and I think that was because of my weight.

absolutely everything. But mostly, a social life. A dating life, and a life of loving myself. It's the root of all my terrible social anxiety, I am most certain of it. And then when I do lose weight, and get paid attention to, I run back to the food.

I know I am a good person, I'm fun, nice, and would do anything for the people close to me. But that being said, whenever anyone has ever paid me any attention on the romance area, I couldn't help but wonder why? I've always been *the friend* and a darn good one at that, but a romantic partner???? If I can't love myself the way I look, how can I expect anyone else to? =(

I've never worn a bikini in my life, and I really want to.
I've turned down a lot of work because I've felt uncomfortable with my figure.
I haven't been able to wear some of the clothes that I like because I'm too big.
I can't wear shorts because of my thunder thighs.
Dancing in public/on a night out because I think I wobble too much/look terrible.
Loving myself. I've never felt good enough to be loved by anyone, let alone myself.
I won't let my boyfriend touch my stomach at all.
I get extremely paranoid that people are staring at me because I feel fat.

So pretty much everything. Because of how self conscious I am about my body, I've avoided major parts of my life.

I avoid anything that involved wearing a swimsuit. When I do go swimming, it's in at least shorts (knee-length) and tank top.

I hate pictures and if I have to be in one, I hide my body behind someone else and my face in a shadow or behind my hair.

Kendrazombie

I always want to take my daughter on rides at the fair but I worry about not fitting. Never go swimming in public. Hate flying because the belt is so tight and I am too embarrassed to ask for an extender. I have so many more than this.

adstar20

The two that come to mind for me have already been called out:

- amusement park rides (no longer an issue)
- shopping in a regular clothing store (almost there)

ToniTime2012

Nice to know I'm not alone....
Dating
Family Photos
Shorts
Dresses
Social Events
Anything other than black clothes!
Hiking
Kayaking
Biking

Nicki_101

I won't say my weight has held me back, rather that I have held me back. Most people I know never had a problem with the way I looked, it was just part of my problem that I had to get under control.

My0WNinspiration

Relationships

samantha1242

Relationships

Yup.

songbirdtree

I've always been too self-concious to go to the beach with friends, go on another cruise or ever get in a hot tub. Hopefully once the weather starts getting warm I'll have worked hard enough that I won't be as self-concious anymore!