*sigh* Breakups suck

piggydog

SO and I broke up after right at 3 years and I haven't lost any weight since the fighting started... I was doing really well and now just blah...
All the trouble started middle of last month and we broke up on christmas...

I haven't really worked out and I'm generally upset.... All my normal habbits are upside down.... I always call him when I get off work and head to the gym and I can't do that now and just little stuff and it really has screwed up everything.

How do ya'll get out of the breakup slump?

smithme09

Delete his number out of your phone, and unfriend/unfollow him on social networking sites. That's the first step! Out of sight, out of mind! Think of this as an opportunity--sure, losing someone you love is traumatic, but you now have the chance to find someone else to experience a whole new set of great memories with!

When you get angry or sad, use that as motivation to work out! Don't let someone who is no longer in your life keep you from losing weight or being healthy!

Good luck! I know it sucks, but keep moving forward (:

pongo609

I am in the process of a divorce. Here is my motivation, I had lost 68 lbs then had a bad relationship and gained 28lbs. Then I met my husband and thought he was everything to find out I had been used and lied to. I put on the other 40lbs eating due to depression and loneliness those last months of my marriage. I have now decided the only way to be rid of them is to be rid of the weight I put on. So my first goal is 40lbs from my husband then I'll work on the 28 from the other relationship. But they are only truely gone when they are off my butt lol. That is my motivation!!!

gimmegimmemoar

I was with my ex for 8 years. He was mentally abusive and made me feel like total garbage. I finally cut it off and literally that night blocked him and his family from contacting me. That is the only way I was able to move forward with my life and I got over it so much faster. To me, that's the way to do it. If you keep in contact thats when things drag out and get messy. I didn't jump immediately on the weight loss bandwagon, but when I was ready I knew it. Just try and do things four YOUR well-being. If being healthy and working out is going to make you feel better, than do it! Don't do it for anyone else but you and your happiness because in the long run if you cant love yourself then you'll have a difficult time in relationships with other people.. And please feel free to add me! I know how you are feeling and I'd love to motivate you and be motivated in return!

BrotherBill913

Yes breakups suck, but the sun will shine again tomorrow and you will have another day with another chance of happiness

cmriverside

I agree with cutting him out completely...no more social networks contacts, email addresses, block him on your phone.

A clean break is best.

Only time will heal this. Keep busy.

m8605

I didn't experience a breakup but I did experience a.broken heart recently. We're still friends but I've had to take her off facebook and delete her # a few.times. As much as id love to be talking to her like normal, at the same time I dont want to talk to her..if that makes sense. I can manage talking to her for a few mins every few days now.

It will get better in time

:hugs:

sammertime123

Oh I feel for you. Going through the same thing. I'm trying to use exercise as a distraction and an external focus to fill the "gap" that the breakup created. It's so hard not being able to have that after-work phone call and comfort of knowing someone is there for you. But day by day, it'll get better.

BITEME_GRRR

Ugh, I know the feeling. Hangin there.

HapThompson

What do you do after a breakup? Join MFP and lose 45lbs and three dress sizes to make him see what he's missing out on...

slkehl

Delete his number, donate the stuff he gave you, and write down your thoughts. It's okay to be sad, but good to be angry as well!

As far as fitness goes, exercise will make you feel better. The last time I went through a break up, I ran all the time. The physical exertion helped me get my mind off of him, and the endorphins afterwards were a bonus!

sharonKay65

First let me say I am sorry for any pain this is causing you. I know it can be hard, over 10 years ago when my Husband left I lost 70 pounds in 4 months, and whenever people would comment on my rapid loss my answer was always the same. "I never knew stress and heartache made such a good diet" I can look back and laugh now, but the truth was I was devastated, heartbroken, and down right scared to death, I didn't have a college degree, and I was left to raise 5 kids on my own with all of my family in another state. He never paid child support and moved clear across the United States, as a result I always worked 2 full time jobs and more than once would take on a 3rd part time job. A year ago at Christmas, he came to visit and meet our 4 grandchildren. One thing led to another and he ended up staying here and has never been back to the other state. The first few months were great, and we had so much fun and truly were happy, but things slowly started to deteriorate and he ended up leaving on New Years Eve, I spent New Years Day packing the rest of his stuff... I started to gain weight a few months ago again, I think out of stress and feeling like neither one of us was really happy anymore... Unfortunately I have not done, as so many others recommended as far as cutting off all ties. We see each other several times a week, most often spend quite a bit of time together on weekends and we will occasionally stay the night with each other. It's not my idea of a perfect relationship by any stretch of the imagination,. more like " Can't live with each other, but can't live without each other" I met him when I was 19 and I will be 48 in April so we have a long history together, and I do love him in a lot of ways. I am okay now though I am not losing weight to try and get him back, I am doing it for me. He is very supportive now because he knows I am doing to improve my health and he knows the health issues I have dealt with. Anyway, try to stay positive, do something nice for yourself everyday, even if it's just something little. Set little goals and reward your success. Remember it will get easier with time, and in the meantime, above all else..... take care of yourself!!

links_slayer

cut him - and all men - out of your life forever. we're all just giant a-holes.