the things my bf calls me...

dahkneeka

My bf and I have been together forever. He is really supportive in almost everything I do. He tells me I am beautiful, sexy, pretty etc.

3 months ago we both decided to join the gym, eat better and live a healthier lifestyle. At some point when I asked him about my body...he called me thick.

At 5'7 and about 145 or so at the time... I didn't feel THICK. I figured THICK meant 'big boned' or 'not slim' ...I didnt feel either...I felt I was lucky to be my size and scarf down whatever...whenever. At first, I was a little taken back so I googled what THICK meant, and most definitions were refering to women with curves.

Today I took my 3rd progress pics and now I can see what he meant. I am currently 138lbs and I have toned up quite a bit. You can see some muscles under the skin and I still have a proportionate figure. Today I am proud to be THICK. I am strong and womanly...

What names/classifications have people put on you and how did you feel about it?

KBGirts

I'm not sure how I would take it if my husband called me thick. i would probably be like you and be a little put-off until I understood what he meant. Guys can say things and mean it in a totally innocuous way, but we women will take it another way!!!

One time I was talking about how I used to play college soccer and was really fast and an awesome forward, yada, yada, yada and how I was frustrated that I was no longer as fast as I used to be. He said something like "well, you weren't as heavy back then". I was so offended, but the truth is, he was seriously talking about my extra mass, and weight in a truthful, objective manner as guys do. LOL!

cmriverside

Curvy is a good thing. 145 and 5'7" is a healthy weight. I thought it was considered a compliment by a man....

cjsacto

My bf was rubbing my feet one evening and he said, "Wow, you have big legs." I am very self-conscious about that - I carry a lot of weight in my lower half and I have huge calves. He went on to say he thought I should be good at certain sports with big strong legs... but he also would like me to lose a few pounds. I think he just blurted it out without thinking but I didn't like it.

pudadough

I've been called thick before, too. The guy got really mad when I informed him that it wasn't a compliment. He said it was.

Eye of the beholder type thing, I think.

TeachTheGirl

'I love your squishy bits'. And not in reference to my boobs either.

He would always say this when grabbing onto my hips or butt and it made me REALLY super self-conscious. But he tells me he genuinely meant it. Cellulite and all, he really did like those 'squishy' parts of me.

Sucks for him that they're vanishing as I'm working out. Hopefully he likes the new, firmer me too!

BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY

I much prefer using "thick" as a descriptor meaning "stupid".

cjsacto

Curvy is a good thing. 145 and 5'7" is a healthy weight. I thought it was considered a compliment by a man....

I agree that's a good weight. I'm 5'7" and 149 is my GOAL weight. "Curvy" might be a compliment but I'd have a problem with "thick."

When I was 14 my mom said I was "sturdy." She meant strong, but I hated it.

UpEarly

A colleague of mine called me 'stocky'. For real? I'm 5'9", 135 pounds, 20% body fat, and wear a size 4. When I responded 'That's mean!', he told me that 'stocky' was a compliment. But, it still sounds insulting to me.

Nauti_Buoy

So when I called my woman FAT she didn't take it as being Fine And Tasty?

LoveMyLife_NYC

My mom told my relatives, in front of me, that I'm too skinny, I look anorexic, and the gym ruined my body. But I'm 5'5", 125, and 18% BF. I eat healthy and work with a trainer. So yea... we're still not speaking. :explode:

FitandFab33

"amazon". Really dude?

Please, make me feel like a beautiful woman by calling me "amazon".

He suffered for that one.

ETA: He's an ex now. :-)

Rum_Runner

So when I called my woman FAT she didn't take it as being Fine And Tasty?

No not at first- this is one that should be explained in great detail!!

Topher1978

"amazon". Really dude?

Please, make me feel like a beautiful woman by calling me "amazon".

He suffered for that one.

ETA: He's an ex now. :-)

But that is a way of saying, "Damn, you are SUPER sexy girl!!!" Honestly, no joke.
This is what comes to mind:

tuckerrj

"Thick" means you're not a skinny little wafe and he LIKES it. Ladies need to realize that all men aren't attracted to the fragile little sticks on the modeling runways and magazine covers.

etoiles_argentees

If someone called me thick he'd be gone. Sorry, not what I'd want to hear.

Softrbreeze

The sentiment is fine, the word "thick"...not so much, at least as it pertains to women. Personally though, I like my men a little on the "thick" side

FitandFab33

Pretty sure all women like their men a little on the "thick" side. Oh... that's not what you meant. hah

Rum_Runner

"Thick" means you're not a skinny little wafe and he LIKES it. Ladies need to realize that all men aren't attracted to the fragile little sticks on the modeling runways and magazine covers.

Maybe... I get that! However a guy needs to realize certain words have negative connotation!! If a guy called me "thick" he'd be lucky to not get punched! I know it's hard for you guys to find the right word sometimes, but the classic "honey you look great" still works!!

dahkneeka

Thanks for all the response! It's very interesting to see what some women consider as an insult, others feel is a compliment.

In my opinion, in the end... NOTHING my man calls me will define me. I am working hard to feel and look MY best.

Keep up the good work ladies and gents and best of luck on your journey!

dahkneeka

Ps I changed my profile pic to my 'progress' (tan progress?!) so you all can see my thickness lol.

WinnerVictorious

"amazon". Really dude?

Please, make me feel like a beautiful woman by calling me "amazon".

He suffered for that one.

ETA: He's an ex now. :-)

But that is a way of saying, "Damn, you are SUPER sexy girl!!!" Honestly, no joke.
This is what comes to mind:

yes, amazon really can be a compliment. it implies a strong, fit woman who is not afraid of being overly physical during.... um... you can guess the rest.

Lunarflorist

I believe that most of the time guys (and maybe girls too, I don't know) say things like that without considering your own personal image. I had a boyfriend tell me once "oh yeah, I've always liked bigger girls!" and then backpedaled quickly with "well you know, I mean, I don't like SUPER skinny girls. You know..."
It was a little funny but mostly I was upset. I had never looked at myself as a bigger girl, ever. I'm not delusional - I know I'm not skinny and I'm built sturdy, not delicate. It still took me by surprise and I had to step back and reevaluate what I saw - and I did NOT like it. (And here I am. Lol.)

BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY

Ps I changed my profile pic to my 'progress' (tan progress?!) so you all can see my thickness lol.

Damn, girl. With a body like that , who gives a **** what anyone says about it? Damn...

Topher1978

I believe that most of the time guys (and maybe girls too, I don't know) say things like that without considering your own personal image. I had a boyfriend tell me once "oh yeah, I've always liked bigger girls!" and then backpedaled quickly with "well you know, I mean, I don't like SUPER skinny girls. You know..."
It was a little funny but mostly I was upset. I had never looked at myself as a bigger girl, ever. I'm not delusional - I know I'm not skinny and I'm built sturdy, not delicate. It still took me by surprise and I had to step back and reevaluate what I saw - and I did NOT like it. (And here I am. Lol.)

Take motivation where you can get it! ;-)

kimad

I just want to say you look fantastic in all 3 pictures.

drog2323

Ya. U look great in all the pics. Never thick at all. But now u are ripped! Great work. But thick....u were never thick

kimosabe1

I would say, oh-u mean my *kitten*.... lol.... men do have douchelord moments sometimes ya know.......

jofjltncb6

Ps I changed my profile pic to my 'progress' (tan progress?!) so you all can see my thickness lol.

Is that a Shakeweight in the third pic of your profile pic?

christyallgood

I am 5'7" and my heaviest weight at 148lbs looked NOTHING like your first pic! At 125 I STILL don't have abs like that!! U look awesome! Maybe if I was 22 again????

MiCool90

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