Help!

FattieBabs

I have been on the MFP since September and have lost around 21 lbs. However, I have a lovely husband who says he supports me but is causing me a problem. On the days he is out in the evenings, I make my own meals and go to the gym. However on the evenings he is in (3 x weekdays) he insists on getting out a bottle of wine from the fridge to go with our meal. I am good at controlling the amount of food I eat but find it very difficult to resist lovely wine when it is offered. I am aware this sticks on 350 cals if I drink half a bottle.

So, the fault is with me, as I have little willpower, but how can I say no firmly but gently? And what techniques can I use to just say no? I can stick to one glass if the bottle is opened but find it very difficult to do so..... When I am on my own I am not tempted..... \(which is a good thing!)

I would love him to lose weight too and was hoping that me following a regime would encourage him but, so far, no success.

So, now Christmas is over, what suggestions do you have?

mactaffy84

Say "no". Repeat if you need to. No one can do this for you but you so do some soul searching. Is your love for the wine greater than you love for your body? Then act accordingly. Hey, some days, it may be. Other days, it won't. Be. It isn't all or nothing. What works for you on Monday may not be what works for you on Tuesday. Don't fret over such a little thing! It isn't healthy.

_VoV

My only suggestion is to say 'No thank you' and be firm about it. My husband drinks wine every evening, and buys the stuff by the case. If I agree to one glass, it's much harder to say 'no' to another glass. So, not starting at all is my best defense.

florymonde

Maybe you could tell him that the calories in the wine make it difficult for you to stay on your plan, and then suggest that once a week you'll share a bottle of wine with him. The other two nights he's home, he can drink half each night. I think it's important that your spouse feels that you can still share things with him, but, also, he needs to respect your wishes to cut back.

FattieBabs

Thanks everyone, some good advice here. I appreciate your responses. Lets see how it goes. I am going on holiday in a few weeks time and meeting up with friends who have not seen me for a while. I expect I will get some positive responses so maybe he will finally get motivated. He gave up the booze for Lent and lost loads of weight without trying. I want to postively encourage rather than nag him.

I have already offered to drive him to a dinner party tomorrow so that cannot drink and that should help....

Thanks again.