So tired, sad, defeated..lost..
Sarahsmiles0875
Posts: 95 Member
So it has been over a month since I have...
A. Blogged
B. Logged honestly
C. Exercised regularily
D. Weighed in
...and I feel like ****! I feel lost from when I began. I honestly feel as though I have given up in my heart. I have indulged and over-indulged. I know I have gained. I am sad with where I am mentally at. I do NOT want what once was. Do I feel as though I should chalk it up to "The Holiday's". Is that fair? I know I should move forward. I know. And one of the funny things is that before Christmas, what I wanted, or asked for, was items that I could work out at home with...and I got them. I am mentally tired. I am physically put out with myself. I want the vigor that I felt when I started. How in the world do I get that back?
A. Blogged
B. Logged honestly
C. Exercised regularily
D. Weighed in
...and I feel like ****! I feel lost from when I began. I honestly feel as though I have given up in my heart. I have indulged and over-indulged. I know I have gained. I am sad with where I am mentally at. I do NOT want what once was. Do I feel as though I should chalk it up to "The Holiday's". Is that fair? I know I should move forward. I know. And one of the funny things is that before Christmas, what I wanted, or asked for, was items that I could work out at home with...and I got them. I am mentally tired. I am physically put out with myself. I want the vigor that I felt when I started. How in the world do I get that back?
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You get it back by not waiting for it come back.
Motivation is temporary. It comes and goes. As a friend of mine says, patience and endurance wins the rest. This isn't starting over. This isn't a relapse. This is just you getting up today and making better choices. Just like that. No shame. No beating yourself. . Motivation will return.0 -
One of my favorites:
""Move and your heart will follow"
....a variation on "Fake it till you make it."0 -
I agree with previous poster. It's so hard when you lose motivation but pick a day and start again. Just start. It doesn't have to be a lot. Just take a walk and drink water. Look at some success stories. Jump back on that horse, girl!
I gave up a few months ago, but I'm jumping back in again. Want another friend?0 -
You get it back by not waiting for it come back.
Motivation is temporary. It comes and goes. As a friend of mine says, patience and endurance wins the rest. This isn't starting over. This isn't a relapse. This is just you getting up today and making better choices. Just like that. No shame. No beating yourself. . Motivation will return.
THIS! If I would have had this attitude earlier in life, I would have been healthier YEARS ago.0 -
Been down that road before. Feel free to add for additional support.0
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Never get fed up or give up just because your goal is going to take a lot of time to achieve.... The time is going to pass either way.0
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One day at a time, one foot in front of the other. Dont wait til it feels right, because that day might never come. You got the equipment, so plan your workout for tomorrow, just like we do meals, the clothes we are going to buy, and when we are going shopping. You got this0
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My motto is "every day is a chance to start over"! Prepare yourself because the first time you work out again is going to suck...badly and it will disgust you how much stamina you have lost! The good news is after you will feel incredible and strong...so you just have to hold on for the after and remind yourself that the during sucks but the after is your reward!!! Don't give up on yourself...YOU ARE WORTH your effort!!!
Best wishes!!!0 -
Review the reasons why you joined in the first place....have those reasons changed? If not, then use them once again to motivate yourself. Add me for encouragement! xo0
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The time is going to pass either way.
I like this. Very true - and reminds me that I might as well be doing some useful with that time, since it's going by anyways. Thank you for writing this!0 -
This happens to almost everyone at some point. The first step to recovering from a derailment is wanting to get back on track.
The next step is doing something about it. Anything - even if it's just a walk around the block, or a ceremonial purge of the tempting crap food in your fridge, writing a journal entry about why you went off track and what you want to fix, or making a kickass new workout playlist. Do something concrete - anything will work. Doing something positive will give you an emotional boost and a bit of confidence and help get that momentum back.0 -
It doesn't matter if you just chalk it up to just "the holidays." They're over.
What are you gonna do about it TODAY? Go, Girl, Go!0 -
One minute at a time --- the hardest step is the first one. From one who has taken a too many first steps to count --- I'm on step 3 I think.0
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If it's important for you to be healthy....put on your big girl panties and do it. If you don't care about your health....delete your MFP account and do nothing.
Sounds harsh, but the only person who can make the change and relight the fire is you!
Good luck!0 -
Take a deep breath, forgive yourself and move on. Every day is a new chance to make a good decision. Accept that you cannot change the past, and the future doesn't begin until tomorrow. So focus on today. Right now. You can do this!0
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I felt that way at the end of July/beginning of Aug. that i quit everything now 4 months and 20 lbs. heavier. I could kick myself for quitting. I have not gotten depressed and i have not beat myself up over it. It is what it is and i owned it and now i'm back to having to do what i have to do to get back to a happy place. If you can make peace with yourself it will come back to you. If you need more support feel free to add me i'm a no judgment zone person.:flowerforyou:0
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Yep, December was crappy for me, but starting again even though I don't want to.
I know once I start seeing results again, I'll start feeling better and motivated.
Chalk it up to holiday indulgences.
New year, set some new goals for yourself, new targets to reach and you will feel a bit better about it!!
I created a spreadsheet for myself for the next 6 months (b'day and holiday time), weigh in every other Sunday with a minimum target for weight loss (about 24lbs...anything else is a bonus!), monthly measurements at the end of each month just for progress checks. I'm also going to crack down on my workouts...cardio is no problem, I can do that from home, but weights I go to the gym for, so I need to focus more on that this year.
Never give up...just drag your *kitten* to the treadmill and walk!!!
If you want to, add me!0 -
You are not alone, many of us can relate. Just take it one day at a time, take baby steps if you need to. You can do this
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“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” ~Maya Angelou
“He is able who thinks he is able. ~ Buddha
And my newest and one of my favorite quotes comes from someone here
"Don't worry about yesterday. You've got the knowledge to go forward and that's all that counts" - MFPer DavPul0 -
When you don't feel motivated, do it anyway. You'll be happy you did.0
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It doesn't matter what you chalk it up to... get on the scale and get back to whatever you were doing when you were feeling good.
You're not alone in getting off track. Half the people on my friends list suffered a scale shock this morning. We're all cheerfully getting back to business after enjoying a month of debauchery. It's not the end of the world. You'll feel better when you start doing better. I felt like crap this morning, but after saying "no" a thousand times to my inner compulsive eater today, I feel pretty good.0 -
Look how far you have come! Just go one day at a time or even one meal at a time. Do something really nice just for you. What makes you feel great? A nap, a workout, doing your nails, a candlelit bubble bath, playing your favourite song loud while lying in the dark, whatever recharges your batteries. Sorry for the cliches. Just know you aren't alone.0
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The nice thing about dieting is you get a fresh start every day. So you get a chance to start over every day. Take pride in the days you accomplish what you set out to do. :happy: Don't sweat the days you don't quite make it :grumble: , you get to start all over tomorrow. :bigsmile:
Now get back up on that horse and go for it.0 -
...I feel as though I should chalk it up to "The Holiday's". Is that fair?...
Just do that and get back on track. Even if you "take a break" now and then, if the overall trend is on the right direction, you'll be fine. So get that trend moving back in the right direction - starting now! :flowerforyou:0 -
Look what you did - you took a step! You posted on this board! Good for you! One step at a time... baby steps. Don't get overwhelmed - it happens to all of us... I could tell you stories! If it is too hard to face exercise, take a 20 minute walk outside -- then take a longer walk the next time... don't think about it as being "exercise" -- think about it as getting out of your house and you are actually doing something positive for yourself...
If you like some food you think is "verboten" -- take two small bites - each one, slowly tasting, then throw the rest in the garbage disposal or someplace where you can't get it back. Keep a log of this -- give yourself a gold star every day! You can get back and you are NOT defeated or lost... I have been there and I have picked myself up and dusted myself off dozens of times... It is just how life is sometimes for many of us who are not skinny minnies... We can't help genetics, and we just have to work with what we have...
Step on the scale. Look at the number. Say, "Right, now I move on." Do not focus on it, focus on taking the baby steps to make that number go down... bit by bit...
Skip the pitty party -- look at what you have to be happy about and even if it is only a few things, you can add to that list if you try...
Today you took a step out of the tired, sad, defeated, and lost -- you can do a little bit more tomorrow and you will have increased your motivation...
You can certainly do this!0 -
So it has been over a month since I have...
A. Blogged
B. Logged honestly
C. Exercised regularily
D. Weighed in
...and I feel like ****! I feel lost from when I began. I honestly feel as though I have given up in my heart. I have indulged and over-indulged. I know I have gained. I am sad with where I am mentally at. I do NOT want what once was. Do I feel as though I should chalk it up to "The Holiday's". Is that fair? I know I should move forward. I know. And one of the funny things is that before Christmas, what I wanted, or asked for, was items that I could work out at home with...and I got them. I am mentally tired. I am physically put out with myself. I want the vigor that I felt when I started. How in the world do I get that back?
Go back to how you felt when you first joined MFP, when you were hopeful this was your answer. Do you really wanna let that girl down?
I'm a recovered alcoholic and over the years I've kind of "personified" addiction. Addiction wants to kill alcoholics and addicts and will lie to us and take everything from us till there's nothing else to take but our souls and then our lives. Every day I ask God to keep me sober is a day the addiction doesn't win. It's been a long time since I even had a drinking craving, like years! But that disease is doing pushups over my left shoulder just waiting for me to forget who I am. I guess what I"m trying to say is think of obesity the same way. It's lying to you and its winning. Don't let it!
I remember feeling hopeless and even resigning myself that I was gonna be "fat forever" (that's what I would tell myself), until the pain got great enough to inspire BIG change in my life.
Don't quit before the miracle happens. I lost my weight by working out at home and many moons later I still work out at home. YOU CAN DO THIS! Friend me if you want more support! 0 -
You get it back by not waiting for it come back.
Motivation is temporary. It comes and goes. As a friend of mine says, patience and endurance wins the rest. This isn't starting over. This isn't a relapse. This is just you getting up today and making better choices. Just like that. No shame. No beating yourself. . Motivation will return.
This. There is no magical day that motivation falls out of the sky. Decide right here and now what you are going to do starting in the morning. Decide that you are going to log. Decide that you are going to break in your new exercise equipment. Set your alarm. And do it.
I just took 3 weeks from logging. And from working out. And from eating at a deficit. Today was the day I decided to get back on the horse. When my alarm went off at 5:30 I wasn't motivated. Not at all. But I was committed. And I got up, worked out, logged my food, and ate a deficit. The last 3 weeks don't matter. Only today. Then tomorrow. Always today and tomorrow. Never yesterday. Yesterday doesn't exist.
Motivation is nice, but commitment is better. OP, can you make this commitment?0 -
My "glass half empty" moment sucks. Typically I am a very jovial kinda gal, but embarrassment has bested me in this moment...and I do thank you all for your words of encouragement and offers of support, it is whole heartily appreciated. Sometimes I just need to shed the crap in my head because it seems like it weighs more than I do..thank you for letting me unload..ready to saddle up..well part of me is:)0
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You get it back by not waiting for it come back.
Motivation is temporary. It comes and goes. As a friend of mine says, patience and endurance wins the rest. This isn't starting over. This isn't a relapse. This is just you getting up today and making better choices. Just like that. No shame. No beating yourself. . Motivation will return.
I love this, its so true.... I would add, one of my favorite quotes that i go to for motivation is “The only workout you'll ever regret is the one you didn't do.” ... it really helps me. Good luck to you!0
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