Newbie, with a twist.

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  • skyeashlee
    skyeashlee Posts: 108 Member
    i feel like i am reading something my partner wrote (and dad as well)... i lost 48lb / 23kg thanks to MFP last year.

    I started on 1500 cals and am not on 1200-1250 (still working towards my goal)

    I think ur GF needs that ''click'' i was told about- where something in the brain triggers and weight loss begins for real , not yo-yo style...
    Firstly I would 220% recommend MFP, it is amazing, you ar4e in control, it teaches you and just overall has been life changing.
    You can support her. be a good influence, and get her signed up !!!
    good luck, tell her to add me when she's ready :O)

    I have some before/ after pics to, with more coming soon!

    Cheers
  • kairisika
    kairisika Posts: 131 Member
    the best exercise for a person in her position is simply the one she will do.
    Does she track her food at all? You can't track calories for someone else, and it's hard to suggest someone else does it.
    If the two of you can just get active, that will start a pattern that will help her feel better (whether or not she loses any weight from it).
    If she's fairly sedentary now, any kind of activity will be hugely positive, and anything that she likes doing will be good. If she gets into being active and is interested in making a workout plan, then you can look at more, but at this point it isn't likely to do her any good to make up any kind of 'you should be doing these exercises' and is more likely to turn her off the whole idea.

    Bottom Line: You can't do anything about her eating habits unless *she* decides she is interested in tracking her calorie intake. If she is, then she should start tracking and see what she's eating now, and she can start reducing from there. But you can't do that for her, or push her to do it successfully.
    You can't put her on an exercise program and have her stick with it.

    I would suggest just looking for regular active things the two of you can do together (go for a walk instead of a dinner. Or at least a walk and then dinner when you go out, for example). From there, see what she thinks. If she wants to change things, you can help her out with information. But it will have to come from her.

    Exercise is a known serotonin-booster. It can help her mental state and may lead to her interested in continuing more regular exercise. But if it doesn't, it will still be good for the both of you.

    (I don't add anyone as a friend or share my profile, despite commenting in the forums when I'm bored. Nothing personal.)
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    I feel like you shouldn't be posting this. Personally I'd be embarrassed if my boyfriend was telling a bunch of online strangers my weight and all that. Has she actually asked you to do the research for her? If she hasn't, then she might be offended when you present the information to her. I think you need to let her research and make changes on her own. You should just encourage her. And give her lots of compliments to make her feel good about herself.
  • ajswriter
    ajswriter Posts: 117 Member
    Get her on here too & do it together. "Hey, babe, I found this cool site. I think it'll help me with my goal to get more muscular. Will you do it with me to help me stay on track?" It's so awesome that you're a support system for her--some people get the opposite from their significant others.

    Why don't you try doing something active that's fun together, too, like dance lessons?
  • heisk
    heisk Posts: 19 Member
    Get her to join MFP, and add me as a friend! I started around where's she's at! I was at 240 and realized something had to change:) I def have a long way to go but its been a great journey! I also began changing my lifestyle with the love and support of my boyfriend! I don't know how comfortable I'd feel if he were posting about me. But working as a team was just what I needed! NO JUdgement.. just an example to follow and helping eachother make better decisions. We started Power 90 together, & i should really get back into it! A push from you will definitely help! I know thats what I needed. Just make sure its supportive and not judgemental! Also, 1200 calories is wayyy too low to begin! She'll feel like she's starving herself and that'll will just make it way to easy to give up. I think i lost almost 40 pounds before it put me down to 1200 calories. Just follow what MFP says with her height, weight, and activity level and it will lower her intake as she loses. best of luck to you and your lady! I fell off a little myself and I'm trying to jump back into a good routine for 2013!
  • MrUNC50
    MrUNC50 Posts: 28
    I feel like you shouldn't be posting this. Personally I'd be embarrassed if my boyfriend was telling a bunch of online strangers my weight and all that. Has she actually asked you to do the research for her? If she hasn't, then she might be offended when you present the information to her. I think you need to let her research and make changes on her own. You should just encourage her. And give her lots of compliments to make her feel good about herself.

    She has told me to do the research.
  • MrUNC50
    MrUNC50 Posts: 28
    Get her on here too & do it together. "Hey, babe, I found this cool site. I think it'll help me with my goal to get more muscular. Will you do it with me to help me stay on track?" It's so awesome that you're a support system for her--some people get the opposite from their significant others.

    Why don't you try doing something active that's fun together, too, like dance lessons?

    Well being a former hip hop teacher I love to dance and she does too. We just need to make time for it ha
  • MrUNC50
    MrUNC50 Posts: 28
    I appreciate all the feedback from everyone on here but I need to backtrack and let you all know that she does go to the gym. is it 5 days a week, no. but it is at least 3. She has actually recently taken it upon herself to go to the gym. I know I probably shouldn't be mentioning all this about her on a website but this site seems really supportive so I thought I would give it a chance. Maybe I am regretting that decision.
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    It really all depends on her. She has to be the one to realize what she wants to lose and “fix”.
    Have her just log in what she normally eats for about a week or so and then look back on it to see what she would like to change. That’s how it worked for me. I wasn’t even that kind of person to workout whatsoever. Now, I love it. I want more of it.
    It will take time. Slow or fast changing notices will happen.
  • ShellyBell999
    ShellyBell999 Posts: 1,482 Member

    Try to encourage her to get on here- it's a great tool in her 'get fit' journey! And just be supportive, try to understand when she is too tired for anything else (because she's working out so much) or when she cooks an all veggie meal, or doesnt want to go out for drinks (too many calories!) ... just support her 100% . Good luck to you both!

    *Ditto*
  • Anthony110101111110001101
    Anthony110101111110001101 Posts: 239 Member
    feel free to add me, or anyelse reading this thread feel free to add me :)

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