fit people meeting a ffp would you want to know?

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  • tuckerrj
    tuckerrj Posts: 1,453 Member
    I :heart: fat guys.

    :heart: :love:
  • NCchar130
    NCchar130 Posts: 955 Member
    if you were just begining to get into a relationship would you want to know if the person was a ffp?(former fat person)
    think about it the odds are stacked against overweight people who lose weight that they will gain it back within 2 years
    and theres nothing wrong with being heavy but the athletic all there life people tend to be attracted to other fit people should you tell them you just recenty lost weight? yall understand where iam comming from?

    I don't think it has to come up immediately. But in the course of getting closer as a relationship develops, seems like it would come up. But I personally think if someone has lost a great deal of weight that it's a +1 about their character, just because it's so damn hard to do. Another +1 for keeping it off. I am always impressed by a person who has never struggled with weight (like my mom) because they have been so disciplined all their life. But, they've also never had to overcome the obstacle of a weight problem and I think doing so reveals/develops something amazing in a person's character.
  • iorahkwano
    iorahkwano Posts: 709 Member
    I've been slim/fit my whole life, but honestly that would not bother me at all. If anything, it says more about that person's character! That they overcame an obstacle, have self-discipline and care about their health. A lot of slim people end up succumbing to their slowing metabolism, full-time job & stress anyway.

    When I like someone, I don't size them up to figure out their chances of becoming fat. I like them how they are now, and if I truly like them for who they are, it won't matter to me if they put a couple pounds on down the road. In fact, I've had crushes on guys who "had some chub" and then when they lost weight, I kind of preferred the chubby face more...

    I agree with the other comments... Don't annouce it to a partner like it's a big deal or like you're revealing a past drug addiction you had. lt might make them uncomfortable or they won't know what reaction you want. Let it come up in natural conversation. If a guy made a big confession about being formerly fat, I would kinda think he was a bit weird or having self-esteem issues. Or has some serious loose skin to show me!
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    What if you're a formally fit post-op transgender who was fat for a while and is working on getting fit again and was paleo but is now vegan but still eats fish? What part should you tell them first?

    That paleo thing would be a no go.
    My hang up is the fish thing. Fish taste and smell, well... Fishy.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    What if you're a formally fit post-op transgender who was fat for a while and is working on getting fit again and was paleo but is now vegan but still eats fish? What part should you tell them first?

    That paleo thing would be a no go.
    My hang up is the fish thing. Fish taste and smell, well... Fishy.

    ya man....what up...cook that nasty smellin chit outside...then give it to the damm cat...YO
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    They would be like telling someone that you had credit card debt you paid off five years ago. Why? You don't owe it to tell someone that you used to be overweight......as if you have a disease. I think most ffp usually tell their story..because the journey is part of who they are. But, you shouldn't feel like you morally have to tell people..it is your business.
  • mscotthardin
    mscotthardin Posts: 1 Member
    Always and I mean always take the Victory Lap! Celebrate every single Victory. The Ancient Egyptians used to have big parties and erect monuments for their victories to remember them. Stay away from those that do celebrate with you and stay victorious.
  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    Idk if you were overweight for most of your life or just some of it, I think that might make a difference, but - sure, it's hard to get your head around not being defined so much by your weight. And sure, it takes a couple of years just for YOU to get your head around a new self-concept, but guess what.

    You don't have to be defined by that experience. It's part of your story, but you can, actually, define yourself according to what matters in your life today.

    I know guys who are semipro athletes, and they've told me, unprompted, they have serious respect for my weight loss (I'm a hetero woman fwiw). I guess I don't know what they say in the locker room, but they seem sincere and I have no reason to question them. And if you're into women, we usually care even less about that sort of thing.

    Tell people later as/when it comes up, it's not important unless you make it so, and work on accepting yourself first. People will respond to that.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I've always been slim/fit and still find weight loss stories inspiring (as long as there were other interests and they didn't just only talk about that all the time).

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