Asking for help...

VeinsAndBones
VeinsAndBones Posts: 550 Member
in Food and Nutrition
I'm finally calling it quits, I need help, I have an ED can anyone help sort of guide me back on the right track? Please no judgment here, asking for help is hard enough

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  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    I'm really glad you've come to this decision and are asking for help. I honestly don't really have the experience/expertise to give you valuable advice, but I'm bumping to give your thread exposure to my FL, where maybe someone more knowledgable can help you. You've made a great decision, and I really hope you get the help you're looking for, good luck to you! :flowerforyou:
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  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    The best thing you can do is try to find some local counselors or treatment centers to help you deal with this.

    I wish you all the best in your recovery.
  • VeinsAndBones
    VeinsAndBones Posts: 550 Member
    Thanks for all the replies, I kinda don't know where else to turn, I've looked here in my area they don't accept males for treatment. Gonna continue on looking though
  • changejen2013
    changejen2013 Posts: 87
    If you have an ED. The best advice really is to seek help via a counselor in your local area. Seek psychologytoday.com.
    Right now, you are looking for advice on a personal level to get help and that is very honorable.

    You need to change your frame of mind from losing weight and being at the level of thinness that you are and move it to either putting on weight or gaining muscle. If you wish to gain muscle you need to eat drastically more but also work out maybe 1 hour per day. If you wish to gain weight...change your profile. Change your ticker. Change your mind frame.

    You will want to gain weight without becoming fat...I'm assuming. So eating healthy foods high in calories is going to be key. Try almonds, peanut butter, red potatoes, avocado, etc.

    Also, you need dairy BAD at this time. Your bones and muscle need to repair themselves as you have probably let them get eaten up by the ED.

    One day at a time....you are seeking help and thats half the battle. It's easier than you think to change your habits...don't allow yourself to be overwhelmed by the process or people. Also remember to do things to help you relax such as a nice walk or a hot bath.

    Good luck and you can always pm me if you need help or want to talk privately about any issues.
  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    Although inpatient centers may not accept males, you should be able to find a counselor who specializes in eating disorders.

    Do you or your parents have access to an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) through your job? Most bigger companies provide EAP counseling for free, and they would be able to refer you to an appropriate counselor or program.

    Good luck. Asking for help can be the hardest step.
  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    Bump so people on my list recovering can offer help.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Congrats to you for having the courage to ask for help. That's the first, hardest, and most important step.

    Here's something I think you should read, given your age and profile description. Take it to heart and it could change your life.

    http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=139003583&page=1
  • sarahz5
    sarahz5 Posts: 1,363 Member
    Bravo to you for reaching out for help. I hope you are able to find a local counselor who can get you on the right track and keep you accountable. Maybe your doctor could recommend someone and help you in the meantime?

    There seem to be a lot of MFPers who have struggled with this; I truly hope they find your thread and have valuable guidance.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    My only advice is to treat food like it's your best friend. Its the fuel you need to help your energy, muscles, organs, nutrition/health and hence your looks ten thousand fold.

    That and big leaps may help you move forward, but small steps move you forward too.
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    The best thing you can do is try to find some local counselors or treatment centers to help you deal with this.

    I wish you all the best in your recovery.

    This

    It's not something I advise trying to do alone. Good luck to you. :flowerforyou:
  • rebeccap13
    rebeccap13 Posts: 754 Member
    Seek professional help. Its hard to do on your own. It may take a bit to find someone that has the right approach for you but it can definitely help.

    If you add friends on here, I will suggest a couple parameters:

    1) people who have never struggled with EDs and have a healthy relationship with food and fitness*
    2) people who are completely recovered and have a healthy relationship with food and fitness
    3) people who are actively and fully devoted to recovery and developing a healthy relationship with food and fitness

    There are many EDers on this site who while they claim they want to recover they are very opposed to any advice or healthy support other than receiving "atta girls/boys" for eating too little or working out too much. Surround yourself with people who are strong that you strive to be like, that positive influence will be such a big help through all of this.

    Best of luck to you, you can do this.

    *there are people on here who are very supportive of recovering EDers, I have quite a few on my list that have been wonderful while I am going through recovery too. They may never have had one or have very limited experience with them but they are still great people who set a fantastic example of the end goal, being healthy so that you can have a full life.
  • amonkey794
    amonkey794 Posts: 651 Member
    Seek professional help. Its hard to do on your own. It may take a bit to find someone that has the right approach for you but it can definitely help.

    If you add friends on here, I will suggest a couple parameters:

    1) people who have never struggled with EDs and have a healthy relationship with food and fitness*
    2) people who are completely recovered and have a healthy relationship with food and fitness
    3) people who are actively and fully devoted to recovery and developing a healthy relationship with food and fitness

    There are many EDers on this site who while they claim they want to recover they are very opposed to any advice or healthy support other than receiving "atta girls/boys" for eating too little or working out too much. Surround yourself with people who are strong that you strive to be like, that positive influence will be such a big help through all of this.

    Best of luck to you, you can do this.

    *there are people on here who are very supportive of recovering EDers, I have quite a few on my list that have been wonderful while I am going through recovery too. They may never have had one or have very limited experience with them but they are still great people who set a fantastic example of the end goal, being healthy so that you can have a full life.

    ^ This! I am in recovery and I have had people say "good job" on days that I ate 800 calories. Not helpful. Rebecca here is great and she and a few others on my FL keep me in check when I tend to stray :)

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