Eyes on your own plate, please.

wendybird5

Is it just me, or are there are lot of people posting today who are extremely angry about what other people - not their family members, but just any random person they view as "not healthy" - are eating? Did you lose so much weight and attain such a physical ideal that you have all this free time to play food police? Is your life so perfect that you have nothing better to do with your day than to supervise what others are eating and make judgements on them?

I remember being over 200 pounds and having random strangers feel the need to come up and tell me what I should do. I hadn't asked them their opinion. They had no idea what was going on with me medically or physically. They weren't even trained professionals. Yet they felt it their duty to save me from myself.

This is how I used to feel about it when I was pushing 240 pounds: Here I am already feeling ****ty about myself as it is and now YOU have the nerve to come over and add on to it by informing me that I am ****ty and obviously not capable of figuring this all out myself because I need YOU to tell me what to do???? And you're surprised that I get defensive and come up with lame excuses?? You just embarrassed me in a public space for no reason what so ever except that you don't like what I'm doing or that I'm fat. I finally get the nerve to go to the gym or try a new meal plan and then you come along and tell me I'm doing it all wrong. So I just leave, feeling like a failure because you decided to tell me I'm doing everything wrong, and instinct leads me to do what I always do when stressed and sad and depressed - eat more.

I finally managed to lose the weight and I feel great. It was a lot of hard work though and it took me years to find something that worked for me. I knew it was my own fault I was overweight and that it was up to me to be disciplined and get myself healthy. But that's the thing - it was up to ME, not YOU!

So the next time you see someone not eating the way you want them to eat, do them and yourself a favor and look at something else. Look at the flowers, read a funny blog, talk to a friend about something awesome that happened today, focus on improving yourself and your life. Otherwise it's none of your business what a complete stranger chooses to eat so shut your trap.

OK. Going to read The Bloggess now because I need something silly and funny to make me feel better and keep me away from the snickerdoodles...