What if you're just average??

rubyjune27

I think I know what you mean. I thought during my teens and 20's I was overweight and was miserable, but being within a normal weight range albeit not as slim as my friends was hardly a major problem. I managed my weight through binging and purging but so did many of my other friends (in the 70's). For me it was just every decade I seemed to be putting on more, although I would lose some and be happier and comfortable, I wasn't really pleased with myself and the weight would creep back on. Now that I am at goal weight and slimmer than just comfortable, I feel so pleased And love my new clothes, wearing them is my motivation. Shallow I know but true!

LadyIntrepid

Your user name says it all. Because I want to be and feel awesome, not just average. And that's good enough motivation for me.

bluefox9er

dont worry about everyone else, just focus and stay true to what YOU want to achieve and strive for.!

mair123

Most human beings are never happy with themselves. So the real question is, are you HAPPY being comfortable? If so, then don't worry so much about your weight and trying to lose it. There is no goal or motive for you to do it, so why torture yourself. But if you are just lying to yourself about being comfortable and using that as an excuse to not put in the hard work, well.....

lorenzoinlr

I used to wonder about what motivated people back when I played a sport in college. Some guys had the fire and got the most out of themselves, others seemed more comfortable being average. I decided by the time they'd reached college their level of commitment had already been established.

Yaya1976

I did the typical stupid teen girl crap of puking and diet pills but never to an extreme

Not typical. I never did that as a teen

HypersonicFitNess

The question I want to ask you...HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT???

If you don't want it bad...you won't stay motivated. I needed to lose ~ 30-35 lbs for most of my married life. Then the year I was going to turn 38...I had this thought that...oh my gosh....what if I don't lose it now and I turn 40? Maybe I'll just wind up getting fatter and never be able to lose it.

I got serious! I wanted it BAD...I lost 35 lbs and 6 pant sizes (by the way; I way hoping to lose pant sizes...didn't know I'd drop 6) and I did it in 6 months; could I have done it faster? Yes...I could have, but I didn't...and that is just fine. That was 5 years ago.

Yes, I had a set back in 2010 with a lot of changes in my life, am I concerned? Not anymore, b/c I'm already back down and fit in my wardrobe easily again.

BeingAwesome247

I wish I had time to quote each & everyone of you.
I've been going through the motions just not feeling it I guess.
Thank you everyone ... Even the "tough love comments" haha brings out my fiestiness

Ok I had an eating disorder as a teen. It has taken a long time to find balance and I definitely have.

This is really the first time I've ever tried losing weight that was completely for me.
It was always for vanity and men honestly.
I became a single mom in June 2008 when my daughter was 16mos old.... By choice
From then till August 2011 I always had boyfriends or men I was talking to. Don't get it twisted though, they were never allowed over if my daughter was home. My private life was kept private even from her. A couple serious ones did meet her though. They were relationships I thought were going somewhere. After my last breakup I read the book "he's just not that into you"

Holy *kitten* I've been dating men that weren't really all that into me. I haven't dated since.
So after 18mos (almost) of being single and now having no real desire to date, I'm at that point of what do I really want just for me? What is going to make me really happy with myself without the affirmation of a man?
It's made me question & in a way relaxed me a lot.

I don't know what I'd look like at a healthy & fit, physically toned 130lbs bc I never have been. It's hard to wrap my brain around it even being possible.

Reading all this though, I know I would be settling by not trying.
Guess I just had to get my thoughts out & see other similar stories.
:-)

Ghkffb56

my goal is to never be average.

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