Friend requests - Adding a note

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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    No note needed if it's other females. When it comes to males, I am more careful. If I get the impression you are going to add me and send me vulgar and explicit messages...no way. A comment or a joke is one thing, but some of the messages I have gotten are just downright graphic and degrading.

    I've never gotten an explicit or vulgar message. :sad:
  • xMissy6x
    xMissy6x Posts: 347 Member
    I decline. Generally there the type to just lurk and don't say anything.
  • wcasie
    wcasie Posts: 299 Member
    it depends. if i have seen their name on a thread i was on i will probably add. I usually leave a note just to tell them where I found them
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    I don't care whether people write me a note or not. I don't understand the purpose of it. People add you because they want support. If they're just trying to get in your pants they aren't going to write in the note "I'm adding you because I want to get in your pants." If they have bad intentions, a note is NOT going to tell you that. I also don't care where they saw me on the forums. What difference does it make? If someone ends up being weird or creepy after I friend them, I just delete them. It's not that big of a deal.

    Adding a note shows me:

    1. You can be bothered to write it so at least have some chance of hanging around,

    2. Whether or not you can string a sentence together. If I look down my newsfeed and see 'OMG like I jus et soooooo much chocs I iz neva gonna stik 2 my 1200 cals innit!' - bam, deleted.

    3. My profile requests a note. If there is no note, I assume that you have not read my profile and are therefore just friend whoring. Not interested.
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    I used to add all-comers, but I have experienced a strong correlation between empty profiles and invites, and people who either don't stick with it or adopt unhealthy approaches. Or in some cases are merely advertising their personal training or supplements business. I've added a note to my profile asking for words in an invite and a little something in a profile.
  • Bobby__Clerici
    Bobby__Clerici Posts: 741 Member
    The note is your chance to beg me to accept you.
    And if you beg well, I will consider it.
    :yawn:
  • kendrafallon
    kendrafallon Posts: 1,030 Member
    No note, no add. Simples!
  • Poods71
    Poods71 Posts: 502 Member
    In order to be my friend, I need your address.

    This and maybe your bank card details :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • V44V
    V44V Posts: 366 Member
    I was on here a while back and have rejoined recently. I cleared down my profile and have started again. Never had a pre-requisite of any kind to accept friends.

    I do clear out if people don't log in, don't appear to be "in it", or I don't converse with them for a while. As a result, I'm back up to a whole three friends!!!
  • gym_king_carlie
    gym_king_carlie Posts: 528 Member
    I got a vulgar message once......from a dude!!!! even on the internet I fail lol
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Like many of you on here. I have a little thing on my profile that says, "Please leave a note if you want to add me as a friend." I get many friend requests and they NEVER have a note. Do you still add people who don't leave a note or do you decline?
    If I know who the person is through interaction through the boards or friends' profiles or if it's someone I know outside MFP, I will add.

    If not, then I decline immediately. I also decline requests with very generic messages when I've never seen the person before (those ones usually look about 18 years old, anyway) and I decline them if the message is generic and they have hundreds of friends. I'm not interested in being added to someone's collection.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I don't care whether people write me a note or not. I don't understand the purpose of it. People add you because they want support. If they're just trying to get in your pants they aren't going to write in the note "I'm adding you because I want to get in your pants." If they have bad intentions, a note is NOT going to tell you that. I also don't care where they saw me on the forums. What difference does it make? If someone ends up being weird or creepy after I friend them, I just delete them. It's not that big of a deal.

    Ditto for me...couldn't have said it better
    If they add you because they want support, then why is it that 99.9% of the people who can't bother with a quick note never actually interact once they add you? Is me just being on someone's FL somehow helpful to that person?

    As others have said, my wall is Facebook-ey on here. I put some personal stuff up there and I don't want voyeurs. If you can't bother to interact (and most who don't bother with a note don't interact), then I don't need to reading my personal business.

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