Here we go... AGAIN!

bkrbabe57

It's to bad someone felt it necessary to rain on someones parade.

I have stopped e-mailing for a while as I have been fighting a cold or something for the past 3 weeks so I have had no energy to do more then journal my food and exercise. But during this whole time I have made it a point to read a other peoples postings so I don't lose touch with everyone elses
triumphs and take heart that I am not alone with my struggles. It is these postings that have helped keep me from giving up and curling up with some chocolate and potato chips while I feel sorry for myself as I hack my lungs out with this cold.
You guys have kept me going to the gym everyday and I can't thank you enough.
Keep tooting your horn and I will cheer you on.

ahertel0214

Thank you everyone - I have posted the results from Sunday's Stair Climb. Under General Discussion "All 69 Flights"

Also, if you'd like to learn more about this event & me, take a look at my post from Saturday also under General discussion titled "This Weekend".

Though that is the post that caused all this trouble...

banks1850

Lord knows I'm the first one to put my foot in my mouth (and let me tell you, that's the BEST way to kill your appetite!), but saying things like "you shouldn't brag" is just plain silly. Half of what we do here is an attempt at correcting our bad self image. If you can't handle others telling us what they have accomplished then you should just go off on your own. The rest of us can all play together, so take your ball and leave. If we weren't meant to share, then profiles would be set to private and you wouldn't be able to see how much someone has lost. Better to ask for help dealing with those feelings of jealousy then to go and attack someone else because of your shortcommings! Heck I'm jealous of everyone on here that has lost more then 34 lbs. But I'm still super happy for them, and I have learned to channel that primal feeling of jealousy into a work ethic instead!

deanea

Everybody now:bigsmile: .........TOOT TOOT!:drinker: :drinker:

mommared53

I'm trying really hard not to cry right now because I'm at work. This website is so supportive. I just love it. Please tell your friend not to leave because of two people. There are so many more that support her and really want her to stay. There's nothing wrong with tooting your own horn sometimes. I've lost 13 pounds since January and I'm so proud of me. I'm afraid my kids will get tired of hearing me brag about every little pound and accomplishment. :happy: But they are so supportive as well as the MFPers. Again please be sure she sees these posts and realizes how many people care about her and want her to stay.

Mireille

I personally think it's more than jealousy. There are people out there who like to hurt other people because it makes them feel better. Maybe because they haven't attained their owns goals or maybe because they are just evil!! :devil:
I love reading through the posts everyday, some days that's how I get through knowing that some people are struggling just as much as I am. On the other hand, I am always motivated by other peoples success. Isn't this the whole point of the site??
It's going back to basics "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

I hope you have changed your mind and decided to stay because we've got your back. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

ahertel0214

Not to worry - others will never hold me down.

I'm still incredibly proud of my accomplishments!

Best of luck to all of you, take care!

Healthier_Me

Hi Joanna,
It's been a while since I've posted, I actually just started posting yesterday again, and it's because of the same reason. A couple of months ago, someone sent me an e-mail saying that I'm full of myself and need to stop bragging, so I stopped posting. I've been here watching and reading but really have not wanted to participate.

I don't think that I'm full of myself, but I am very proud of the accomplishments that I have achieved, and it hurt my feelings. I wanted everyone to know how hard I had worked to lose my 60 pounds. This is the first time in my life that I had been able to accomplish such a feat, and it's because of the wonderful support and the fabulous comments from you all. At the time that I was losing so much weight, you, Cheryl, Banks, Big Dane, Renee, and a whole bunch of others were just so very supportive & kind. And then I got that awful e-mail.

I didn't think I was bragging or acting like I know it all, but I just wanted to share my successes. The wind got blown out of that sail very swiftly.

Those who are sending those e-mails know who they are, so please just stop. This is a positive site and we're here because we all have a common goal and want to support each other.

I mostly appreciate you, Renee and a few other stay at home moms who do so much research for us, and post so much information and recipes. I work more than full time and don't have much time to do the research for myself. So, just in case I haven't said it lately...THANK YOU :flowerforyou:

And I thank you for being one of my inspirations.
I am more than willing to help you or anyone else that need/want my help.
I really do hope the emails stop. Have you blocked them? If you haven't, please do.

~Joanna:flowerforyou:

pam0206

Neverbeenskinny & Healthier Me: You guys are both inspirations to me. I hope that I can be that to someone else. Isn't that the whole point? :explode:

People can be so petty. I'm not sure how it's bragging to help save a baby's life by spending your weekend climbing stairs, but if that's what you think, then you are a truly small person. I just hope that these people are never in a terrible situation where their children are ill and beyond help. It is a paralyzing situation and you just can't lie there and do nothing!

Anyway. This whole situation just makes me sick. Glad to see that my true pals are all on the same page. :flowerforyou:

LightenUp_Caro

In order to keep me going, I need to hear other people toot their horns so I know that goals are attainable and this is going to work.
I know this has been said on multiple occasions under this post, but I just felt like I needed to say it as well.

All of the encouragement that you all have given me when I've shared my progress has kept me on track and its one of the reasons I haven't quit (like I have in the past).

Most of this battle is mental, feeling good enough about yourself to continue. I like it when people talk about their progress and allow me to share mine. It makes this process much easier and its nice to know that you have people behind you.
If you're bringing down people that are trying to help you, then you're hurting yourself, and everyone who reads what you've said, and you're encouraging us to fail. I don't appreciate that at all.

I'm behind everyone on this site and I wish you the best of luck.
If anyone leaves it will be a loss because thats one less person to help the rest of us through it.

All of you are inspirations and should be commended greatly.

mommyskis

Don't leave! I have a poochy mommy tummy and I liked her comment - it gave me hope! I also found her post about the stair climbing inspiring. I love to hear everyone be so excited about their progress. It keeps me going. My mom always said, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." I tell my first grade students this all the time. I find it interesting that the mean people don't post on threads but instead message. Seems pretty sneaky. If you don't like what someone says, click off the thread.

Eve23

Well said Healthier_Me. I am not sure of all the circumstances but there is no reason this community cannot share in the triumphs as well as the hardships of life. We may not all have the same situations but we are all living life the best that we can.

This is what I told my daughter recently and this seems a good place to share it as well.

We all make an impact on each others lives. Just by being apart of this community and living our lives. It is our choice wether we make a positive impact on those around us and those we have contact with. And as long as we strive to make each meeting with another positive we can never feel bad about who we are. The best part is that each time we are positive it can grow and affect someone else and we may never know what those impacts will be.

So lets all remember to be positive and if you cannot be positive there is no reason you need to share.

Blessing and best of life no matter what you choose to do ahertel0214:flowerforyou: