She Devils!

AlbertSchwartz

Just my thoughts, and yes i am on a bit of a downer at the mo.

If i've got no heart because a she devil stole it!, (Six weeks ago), how do i ever trust again?

I'm not sure i will ever meet anyone else, but if i did i don't think i'll ever get Married again.

Sorry

Al :ohwell:

AlbertSchwartz

Just my thoughts, and yes i am on a bit of a downer at the mo.

If i've got no heart because a she devil stole it!, (Six weeks ago), how do i ever trust again?

I'm not sure i will ever meet anyone else, but if i did i don't think i'll ever get Married again.

Sorry

Al :ohwell:

lotusfromthemud

You will heal. You will most likely trust.

It just takes (a lot. . .sorry) of time.

auntkaren

I believe we grieve a loss of a loved one, no matter how it is we loose them. You will need time to heal and that takes time. It's good that you are focusing on what you need at this time as well. Keep the faith in yourself. It's her lost and nothing has proved it's greener on the other side. Hugs to you:flowerforyou:

Healthier_Me

Never say never Al....
I've been through a little something when I was dating a guy that decided to mess around with my cousin while I was in PR with my mother... it's a horrible feeling but I learned to love and trust again. I'm now married (will be 7 years in July) and have been with the same man for almost 10 years.

It's possible!!
Don't give up on love.. I know it's hard to start trusting again... it's a process.. loooong process but you'll get through it.

~Joanna:flowerforyou:

backontrac

I'm 51 and have had my heart BROKEN..STOLEN..CRUSHED..all that stuff.. but through it I've become a better person.
Its another BUMP in the road of life.
Better she left now then later..
Focus on YOU...cause actually YOU is the most important person.
LIFE isnt over...its like the spring that brings new growth.. life brings new challenges and new growth.
Go forward...look at what GOOD meeting this person did for you...cherish it..and move on.
Every new day brings that opportunity to meet someone new.
SMILE..it makes everyone wonder what your up too...:smooched:

AlbertSchwartz

Thanks for your thoughts guys,

I spoke breifly to a friend who went through this 16 months ago and worryingly she told me that even 16 months down the road she is still having her good days and bad days.

I'm definatly having a bad few days but hope to hell i'm not still like this 16 months from now :noway:

I have read its a greiving process and i'm well in to the 'hate her guts stage', which is strange when i loved her so much and now i hate her.

My weight loss to date is because she left me, 22 lbs so far, shes the reason i have no appitie

Thanks

Al

icupfunny2000

we all get hurt, and some of us take longer to get over it than others.

4 years ago i found out the one and only guy i have ever loved with all my heart was cheating on me... I canfronted him and he looked me straight in the eyes and said "yeah so get over it" i picked up a pepsi can and shot it at his head then threw him out of my house, i was so angry!!! not only with him but angry at the fact i could let myself love someone that much, i blamed myself for getting hurt. I had decided to never let anyone close to me or my kids again.
Well now its 4 years later I still dont have anyone close to my heart but i am working on it i have learned alot about myself in the past 4 years, I have learned i am a STRONG mother, an AWESOME friend, a GREAT person and i am very capable of being a great lover to the right man. I have also learned a lot about this guy who cheated on me in the past 4 years....... I learned he is not a bad person and still a great friend, but he was weak, he had ****ty self confidence and the reasons that he cheated wernt about me they were about him. I will never let this guy so close to my heart but really what have other men done to hurt me? its not their fault he was weak.
So in the past 3 months i have decided to get my life back!!! i am losing weight and going out with the girls and maybe the right guy will fall in my lap and to tell you the truth i have never been married and i dont plan on it..... i dont need a piece of paper to let someone know that i love them....

You can make it through this (hopefully not 4 years later like me:ohwell: ) and take some time to yourself in the mean time some times you need to get reaquainted with yourself. And its also awesome to be independent.
Hope this helps
j~

AlbertSchwartz

I'm 51 and have had my heart BROKEN..STOLEN..CRUSHED..all that stuff.. but through it I've become a better person.
Its another BUMP in the road of life.
Better she left now then later..
Focus on YOU...cause actually YOU is the most important person.
LIFE isnt over...its like the spring that brings new growth.. life brings new challenges and new growth.
Go forward...look at what GOOD meeting this person did for you...cherish it..and move on.
Every new day brings that opportunity to meet someone new.
SMILE..it makes everyone wonder what your up too...:smooched:

you did accually make me smile then

Thanks

neverbeenskinny

Al,
It's been 28 months for me. And I won't pretend that it gets any easier, it doesn't...but life does go on. It's been a lonely 28 months and I don't know that I want to give that kind of trust again. I'm so sorry to hear that you're hurting and I shed a tear for both you and I just now if it helps that you have someone to cry with. :sad: But I can tell you that I can't wait to meet that one person someday, that will come along and squash all the doubts that I currently have about relationship in my mind. I know he's out there for me, and I know there's one out there for you. One day...they'll come into our lives and we will feel whole again. :flowerforyou:

AJCM

Dear Al...

So sorry that your heart is still hurting so badly... you are clearly a sweet, sensitive, smart, and funny guy... take care of yourself, and when you are ready, someone better will come your way.
xxx
:flowerforyou:

AlbertSchwartz

Thanks guys,

I'm in work at the mo, (finishing in 32 minutes) and can't really talk to anyone.

And just needed to vent, thanks

Al