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  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    how about this time try exercising instead of dieting.

    desperate times call for desperate measures.
  • Nikkidreamz
    Nikkidreamz Posts: 9 Member
    Thank you! ????
  • greenpointmoni
    greenpointmoni Posts: 69
    The best thing you can do is allow yourself time to change your eating habits. My habits have slowly evolved over the years, and it takes time to adjust. I never used to eat healthy, I would never touch whole grains and vegetables. Most of my diet was red meat and carbs. Your taste buds need a long time to adjust. When I first started eating vegetables, I hated them. Then I tried different ways of cooking them, I roast most of mine and they are delicious! Add garlic and olive oil and they are wonderful and filling. I still hate steamed vegetables, but I like them sauteed or roasted. Find delicious healthy foods and start eating them. Incorporate them into your diet slowly. Maybe one night for dinner you have something healthy like roasted vegetables and some chicken breasts, then the next day you can maybe have some carbs like pasta. The more you eat healthy, the easier it is. When you eat pasta, try not to get seconds or thirds every time. Maybe you want to sometimes, but not all the time. Then eventually you will almost never want seconds. Give yourself some slack, take is slow, and keep trying. Also, try and eat a lot of protein, it really helps with the hunger. Slow and steady wins the race. Make small changes every day and in a year, you could be a new you!
  • Makeda1211
    Makeda1211 Posts: 134 Member
    The best thing you can do is allow yourself time to change your eating habits. My habits have slowly evolved over the years, and it takes time to adjust. I never used to eat healthy, I would never touch whole grains and vegetables. Most of my diet was red meat and carbs. Your taste buds need a long time to adjust. When I first started eating vegetables, I hated them. Then I tried different ways of cooking them, I roast most of mine and they are delicious! Add garlic and olive oil and they are wonderful and filling. I still hate steamed vegetables, but I like them sauteed or roasted. Find delicious healthy foods and start eating them. Incorporate them into your diet slowly. Maybe one night for dinner you have something healthy like roasted vegetables and some chicken breasts, then the next day you can maybe have some carbs like pasta. The more you eat healthy, the easier it is. When you eat pasta, try not to get seconds or thirds every time. Maybe you want to sometimes, but not all the time. Then eventually you will almost never want seconds. Give yourself some slack, take is slow, and keep trying. Also, try and eat a lot of protein, it really helps with the hunger. Slow and steady wins the race. Make small changes every day and in a year, you could be a new you!

    Great advice. I've coined "Making a better me in 2013!" Let's get it.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    That was a story similar to mine when I turned 40!
    I had an underactive thyroid, had gone from formerly skinny to borderline obese, and HAD to make a lifestyle change. I started exercising, watching what I ate, and went from a coach potato of 139 lbs to a gym rat of 113 lbs. I'm 48 now and I'm in the best shape ever.

    You have to want it and make it part of your life and be consistent. It's a lifestyle change, not a diet, but it's got to be livable.

    You have a lot of choices and a lot of help - Weight Watchers, joining a gym, finding a nutritionist & trainer, etc. What works for you ?
  • tamisawyer
    tamisawyer Posts: 12
    #4 is soooooo important! Like the most motivation you can find is in putting yourself first.
    sounds like you have some good motivation now. You are at a point where you have to make a decision to either make some changes and get healthy or to continue to fold to instant gratification and allow your health to decline.

    Advice:
    1) throw all that other stuff you mentioned out the window (struggling with weight for 19yrs, this is the year to do it, but never hold up to it, been to WW about 10 times, took diet pills, Quick weight Loss Centers,etc. None of that matters. Today is its own day. From now on, you need to get comfortable with the concept that it doesn't matter what you did yesterday - today you can make the right choices.

    2) baby steps. You aren't going to lose 80 lbs this month. Or next month. It is going to take time. It will probably take a year or more. Set a REASONABLE goal, like 1 lb/wk of fat loss. Set up your MFP goals and be honest with yourself about activity levels and food intake. 1 lb/wk seems slow, but to really make a change, you need to change your lifestyle and habits. Going on a crash "diet" or some fad to lose weight quick isn't the key (plus as you have seen, they don't work)

    3) start exercising. But eat back your exercise calories. The entire point of exercise is to maintain your muscle mass, not to lose weight quicker. The more muscle mass you have, the more calories your body burns, which means that you lose weight easier. You will also look better in the end. Do cardio AND lifting weights.

    4) Realize that you are more important. Whatever causes you to make questionable decisions about food/exercise/health that have gotten you into your situation are, in the scheme of things, less important that your health.

    5) Quit making excuses that allow you to fail. If you set reasonable goals, are honest with your logging, and have realistic expectations, the only thing left that can cause your to fail are excuses that you make. Realize them for what they are and stick to it. No more excuses.

    You can do it. You are no different than anyone else. It really just comes down to whether or not you are really willing to work for it.

    btw - I am in no way accusing you of anything, just the things I listed tend to be what most people struggle with. Pick and choose what applies to you! =]
  • Bonnieelizabeth
    Bonnieelizabeth Posts: 68 Member
    IN addition to what others are telling you I would recommend drinking plenty of water!Improper fluid intake can prohibit weight loss. I try to check my calorie intake and carb intake several times each day to mke sure that I am on target forthe day if over I adjust for it and LEARN from it what I can do different! I completely undrstd where you are at. I have over 100 pounds yet to loose. Rome was not built in one day and we did not get where we are at in ond day.That being said we can make the right choice for our body one meal at a time or one day at a time. You can do it. I also was on here for a bit and would not open my food log up for others to see but now I have and that helps keep me accountable to my friends . Hope this helps Best Wishes
  • schondell
    schondell Posts: 556 Member
    Maybe start off with just eating the calories and getting used to that and THEN incorporate exercise into your routine, one thing at a time.
  • eileenchristine
    eileenchristine Posts: 228 Member
    I didn't know if i was ready to lose weight when a friend suggested this site (he was stuck on losing his last 20, had lost over 75 on his own), but i have the computer up all day so why not. I was very unhappy with my weight. Like you have done WW, weight loss clinic, gym trainers, etc in the past and way too expensive and not really an option for me at this time.

    So I made a commitment to log my food and try to stay in my calorie range, since I already knew how to eat healthy. That's it...... just log my food daily. And its working! Haven started doing exercise now (bout a month) from youtube videos. Still am so not into walking outside (not sure why used to walk a ton when i worked in a big city).

    Its been slow but 23 lbs in 5 months is healthy. I am not on any medication, but my dr. did tell me I was starting to get high blood pressure and told me to lose 20 lbs. 20 lbs!?! Dude, I need lose 100! i put my goal weight as pretty high for someone only 5'3" and will probably change that but 85 lbs sounded so much better than 100!

    My friend who got me on this site is now off from his high blood pressure meds!

    Just make a small commitment ea. day to log the food, the rest will follow.

    C
  • monjacq1964
    monjacq1964 Posts: 291 Member
    have you ever thought about weight loss surgery?

    I really don't think that's needed. Just a healthy sensible approach to diet and exercise!

    When you've been battling weight a long time, and have comorbid, weight related health problems, sometimes it is warranted. It was for me. I lost 130lbs after 20+ years of being morbidly obese.
  • monjacq1964
    monjacq1964 Posts: 291 Member
    have you ever thought about weight loss surgery?

    Yes take the easy and dangerous way out. What a fantastic suggestion! Why learn how to eat better and exercise and live a healthier life when you can get your stomach cut in half!


    I would not go the weight loss surgery route. I would eat healthy and exercise

    i'll respectfully agree to disagree with you on the "easy way out" comment. i run 15 - 20 k a week, and eat a healthy diet. After having weight loss surgery.
  • rich66
    rich66 Posts: 6 Member
    Nikki,
    I hear ya. I have the same problems and even when I lose the weight, I have a tendency to put it back on and I get depressed agai.

    The MyFitnessPal website seems to be perfect for me and the friends support is extremely helpful.

    Don't give up, take it one day at a time and it will work for you. If you need more support, feel free to ask.

    Good luck and keep in touch.

    Rich66
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,028 Member
    I will be forty in 2 months and my blood pressure is extremely high. I am 80lbs overweight, I take 5 pills a day, and I feel sluggish on most days. My physician informed me that the only way I can overcome my problem is to loss the weight. I have been struggling with my weight for about 19yrs. I have always said this is the year to do it, but I never hold up to it. I have been to WW about 10 times, took diet pills, Quick weight Loss Centers,etc. I need this to work for me so I AM "SCREAMING" out for help/support. If anyone have suggestions please share them with me. Thank you all in advance and congratulations to those who have stayed on track!!!!
    Desire and commitment are 2 different things. If you're committed to something, you do it come hell or high water. You're not committed and until you totally do it, you'll just do a little here, do a little there until some event that causes a health issue (like a heart attack) forces you to commit. There's really no other way to put it.

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,028 Member
    have you ever thought about weight loss surgery?
    Surgery DOESN'T teach one how to control weight. It addresses a symptom, not the problem.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,028 Member
    I would recommend going to a nutritionist to have them help you come up with a weight loss plan that will fit your individual needs. After that, you can get support from the people at this forum to keep on track.
    Actually a dietician would be a better choice. Nutritionist's don't need licenses.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,333 Member
    Set your diary to lose 1 pound a week and eat back your exercise calories. Slow and steady wins the race :) A moderate calorie deficit will make it easier to stick with it long term. Allow yourself to have the occasional treats just make sure it fits within your calorie goals, if you don't feel deprived of things you love to eat you'll be less likely to quit.

    This is great advice. It is exactly what i am doing. I'm starting my third week and i'm losing and eating way more than when i did other diets that were so restrictive that i'd gain all my weight back because i was burned out on such a strict plan.

    With being set to lose one pound a week.. i can eat 1650 calories a day..and when i work out..i get to eat another 710. I have fun putting snacks and meals together..and I always have plenty to eat. It really works.

    Just get started and keep logging and trying..this is also way easier than WW ..when i did that once i was so darned hungry i thought i'd kill myself.
  • monjacq1964
    monjacq1964 Posts: 291 Member
    have you ever thought about weight loss surgery?
    Surgery DOESN'T teach one how to control weight. It addresses a symptom, not the problem.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition


    You are absolutely correct. So many people don't understand that. I'm glad that i'm working on all aspects of the problem, but the surgery sure was a big help for me.
  • Nikkidreamz
    Nikkidreamz Posts: 9 Member
    Thank for all of your encouraging words. I appreciate the steps I will go far with all of my support. Thanks
  • djseacow
    djseacow Posts: 6
    Honestly, My buddy was overweight (over 100 lbs) and she did Insanity with me (took two cycles) and she is as halthy as a horse now. The only issue was she needed motivation to not quit due to how she sturggled through the first session

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