Breaking up is hard to do. Isn't it?

mrsladybrewer

I made a decision today. It wasn't any easy one for me, but I finally have decided it's what I have to do. Our relationship is toxic to me. I always feel bad about myself and feel like I am always being beat down. I am breaking up- With my scale. For years, all I have focused on is the numbers I see when I stand on that stupid white square on the floor. And more than not, I am disappointed. It isn't what I expect, or even worse, it's up.
Fact of the matter is, I go to the gym 6 days a week. I eat relatively well. I feel good about my accomplishments when I finish a gym session. I do some kind of weights every day I'm at the gym, hitting it hard 1-2 times a week. I'm gaining muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. I'm going to possibly gain before I lose. And every time I make the decision to get healthy and workout, it's the damn scale that beats me down until I quit. I can't do that anymore. While I want to lose weight, and will celebrate if I do, the ultimate goal isn't to reach xxx pounds, like I thought it was. It's to have a healthy life. And look great while I'm at it.
Weigh in's will now only occur on an occasional basis. When I feel like I have really made some progress.
I think this is really the only option I have. I can't quit. Not this time. I finally had to realize what it is that is truly important to me. And the number isn't it.

JanelleSonnenberg1

I LOVE this!!!

The scale and I are on a long distance relationship....we only see each other once a week! After we visit, the scale travels back into the closet on the shelf!!

Great post

BrotherBill913

I don't weigh myself. I count belt loops. I'm down 5 loops since Oct 1st.

Rynatat

I have to admit I'm guilty of "using". I use my scale to laugh at the ridiculous numbers it tells me I am, then look in the mirror or slip into a pair of jeans fresh from the dryer that I used to have to lay on the floor & swiggle to get into & then get the jaws of life to get me back out :laugh:

My Muscle and I have a FANTASTIC relationship though! Very equal give & take I think. I give protein and heavier weights and it gives me satisfaction & strength. Couldn't imagine my life before Muscle

volleygirl1980

I've done the same - my plan is to weigh myself monthly. I started Jan 1st..caved and weighed myself on Jan 11th (lost 7 pounds - yay!) - but realized that wasn't sustainable and that the scale could turn on me at any moment, so, I dropped it off at my parents and will pick it up on Jan 31st.

I feel great. I've been working out a lot and eating quite healthy. Yesterday, I went to the local pool and swam laps - even though it was -29C outside. My son is 9 months now, and after he goes to bed at 8, I can go work out (my husband is very supportive). I've gone down a pant size.

I attribute this to not being so caught up with the numbers and giving it my best effort until the next weigh in!

Good luck!

LesaDave

WONDERFUL!! And...take some measurements!! it will encourage you even more than the scale!!

ashlinmarie

You should consider meeting my good friend, measuring tape. He's a much cheaper date and a more accurate measure and tends to make you feel much better about yourself.

Tdacks

Me and the scale didn't talk for years, since 2007 specifically. The pressure of hitting a specific number weighed me down more than my actual body weight did.

I recently got back together with the scale, though. It is a trial reconciliation. Once a week visitations. I have to remember that it lies.