im 21 and iv achieved nothing

keith0373

I feel like a failure a lot. It's easy to do. Just keep trying.

Not a failure in my mind. We aren't friends but I look for your inspirational blogs every day

baddbob

Hey....don't worry. It's a natural feeling. I'm 56 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I've re-invented myself many times. I went to college for 35 years taking classes that help me continue to grow and gave me many options. I've taken steps forward and I've taken steps backward. I've just continued to focus on learning and being the best "I" can be at anything I do. You want to be a trainer?? Go 4 it. You want to take computer classes?? Do that too!!!! Expand yourself. Learn everything you can. Seek knowledge. Some days I feel like Peter Pan and other days I feel like Superman. And there are some days I feel like Christopher Columbus, charting unknown waters. Life's adventure young man. You are at the start and I am winding it down. I've ended up a Fortune 100 executive, but I still am a biker at heart, living large, playing hard and having fun!! Just do it!!!!

AsrarHussain

Yeah, I had a day like that yesterday. I have been in continuous Atrial Fibrillation for the five months and was cardioverted (heart was electrically shocked) which took me out of Afib, but I was back by 3pm.

Then, I had to go back on Metformin, a diabetes medicine. I had been off all diabetes medicine since Jan 1, but my bidy is not adapting well, so I had to go back on the meds.

I feel like a complete and total failure as far as my health goes. At least I have been free from cancer for three months now.

I’m 68 years old and I want to live.

i will pray for you my problem are nothing compared to yours i really wish u the best of luck keep fighting dont give up

AsrarHussain

thanks everyone for the inspiration posts

mcdebbie

I'll bet your mother and father don't think you are a failure or useless. I'll bet they are thrilled you are not dead from a drunk driver or hooked on drugs. Bet they brag to all their friends about their son who is in college and going to the gym 4-5 times a week. Frankly, looks to me like you are WAY ahead of the curve.

I like the idea of a career counselor to give you some focus. You may also want to reflect back on what you liked to play as a child. I always played "office" and I loved pads of paper, pencils, pens, etc. I wanted to be a salesperson but didn't have the personality for it - of course now I am an office manager. Don't worry, you are doing great for your age.

ChaseAlder

I didn't know what I wanted to be till I was 28.

keith0373

I am almost 40 with 2 degrees and still don't know that answer!

porcelain_doll

Yes, I have had days like that. Right now I am stuck in a career rut. I have a job but I hate it. I have a degree but I don't use it hardly at all at my job. It makes me feel many times like I wasted money on getting a degree. My field is very competitive and the economy is still dragging (especially in my state - Michigan), so many days I feel like I will never get a better job, even though I know that is not true (gosh, I hope).

Then I stop and realize the things I have accomplished, and it makes me feel better. I have done many things in life, things that others both have and haven't done. One time when I was seeing a personal trainer, we talked about this. She had me do an exercise: I was told to go home and make a list of every single accomplishment in my life that I could think of. It didn't matter if they were big or small. The point was to get me to focus on the positive things about myself. And it worked beautifully. I still have the list somewhere. In fact, I should probably get that list out and keep a copy of it at work in my desk...

I recommend the same for you. Sit down and write out every accomplishment of yours. Everything, big or small. Examples could be: 1) I purchased a gym membership and have dedicated myself to working out 4-5 times a week. 2) I finished high school. 3) I decided I wanted a great career and signed up for a computer course. 4) I participate(d) in the MFP community to help others and also find help for myself from my peers.

I am sure there are many, many more things about you that you are proud of, that maybe you aren't thinking of. Either way, good luck to you!

dad106

I'll be 25 in a week from tomorrow

What do I do with my days?
I sub for two different districts, while holding a degree in Psychology. I'm also going back to school nights for American Sign Language so that I can become an Interpreter.

Do I feel a need to have it all worked out right now?
Hell yes, but I know that if I did, I wouldn't be happy.

20's are your time to figure **** out... so use them wisely.

spamantha57

I remember when I was 21 - I wanted to do everything & I had to do everything & I had to do everything perfectly.

It's a very valuable thing to learn to calm down & take things day by day & have gratitude for the little things in life. The last thing you want is to stress yourself out to the point you watch the world pass you by & have a heart attack at age 30.

Snackman88

21 is your prime. You still have plenty of time to figure out what you want to do. Hang in there.