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    Reacher/Settler

    Posts: 740 Member
    edited January 11 in Chit-Chat
    Was watching HIMYM and it was the reacher/settler episode. Do you believe that's the dynamic in most relationships? Are you the reacher or the settler?

    Honestly I think I am the reacher, and my husband is the settler. Probably stems from my lower self esteem, and his over abundance. If I asked him, he would just laugh and not truly answer...lol

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    • Posts: 740 Member
      This is getting buried by all the other troll stuff. Bumping cause it's real.
    • Posts: 740 Member
      Really? No one wants to participate?
    • Posts: 1,012 Member
      I've been the settler in the past fo sho.
    • Posts: 4,716 Member
      I kissed Jenkins.
    • Posts: 3,927 Member
      I think we keep switching roles. Right now I think I'm the reacher and he's the settler.
    • Posts: 740 Member
      I kissed Jenkins.

      I thought Jenkins was a man...lol
    • Posts: 2,518 Member
      I think we keep switching roles. Right now I think I'm the reacher and he's the settler.
      ^^^^This^^^^

      I also think it's the perception of the people in the relationship. While I would say that I am the reacher and he's the settler right now, I can almost guarantee you that he feels that it's just the opposite.
    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      I think it's cyclical.
    • Posts: 8,897 Member
      I was thinking this was hard to answer, but after reading other responses I agree with the fact that we switch off in that role.
    • Posts: 4,375 Member
      I think it's dumb...
    • Posts: 50
      I agree
    • Posts: 740 Member
      I think it's dumb...

      I'm thinking you're either single, or a constant reacher...lol
    • Posts: 1,151 Member
      My wife DEFINITELY settled :)
    • Posts: 3,779 Member
      My wife DEFINITELY settled :)

      Same here.

      But I think if you asked her, she would say she was the reacher. What "helped" me was she was in a couple relationships before me that were bad, so by comparison, I look better. Thanks, unknown douchenozzles
    • Posts: 2,521 Member
      We are both different TYPES of reachers and this is a problem. We are reaching for different things.
    • Posts: 1,328 Member
      In our relationship, I think that it depends on the topic. We both reached for some things while settling for others.
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