Public Apology Thread

Hirgy03

Okay folks, I'm setting aside my sarcasm and attempts at humor for this thread. I guess in my attempt at making folks chuckle a bit in another thread, and on another day, I said some things that came across as me bad-mouthing, and calling people names, for wanting to better themselves and become the body-building "type".

That was not my intention at all. Hell, folks, while I don't ever see myself turning into the type of ultra-motivated person it takes to get to that stage in the fitness lifestyle, I DO want to become "muscle-bound" to some degree. I guess in my mind, people come to this site because all of us, in some way or the other, aspire to become one of those "muscle-bound" types, or the "ultra-fit" types. And, if we don't maybe see ourselves taking it that far, we actually view those who do as having admirable traits......as long as they don't look down upon us in the beginning stages simply because we started later or aren't yet at their fitness level.

So, in my head at least, making a tongue-in-cheek reference to a "stereo-typical extreme" cliche was amusing and harmless. From a couple of responses and even a message (to which I personally responded poorly), it is apparent that I actually offended people on here, which is NOT what I wanted, or even foresaw. I apologize for that. You folks have been helpful to me in these early stages of my lifestyle changes. I use bits of advice from people all over this board, and its gotten me to the point where I've lost quite a bit of weight, and I'm assuming that my "numbers" (i.e., blood sugar, blood pressure, BFP, BMI, cholesterol, etc. and so forth) have dropped as well....>I'm waiting on test results from the doctor as we speak to confirm some of those numbers.

Now, on a personal note to the person that sent me private messages about this misunderstanding... I know that my quick and over-the-top responses to your message were very hypersensitive of me (the very thing that I was accusing you of at the time in my replies). While I try to avoid ever being the person that flies off the handle, or takes things personally when I know that I can't properly assess the other person's voice inflections, or tone from a simple typed message.... well, sometimes I fail pretty miserably at that, as I apparently did earlier this afternoon. With no response to my last reply to that person, I am making an assumption (maybe another poor play on my part) that this person maybe has blocked me, or simply refuses to listen to any more of my ranting.

After a few moments of sitting at my desk and realizing what kind of special jerk I was acting like at the time, I felt the need to send another follow-up. That one was an apology.....a serious apology at that, and it was the only one that got no response, so I am posting this message on this board to hopefully show that I was serious about it, or that if you didn't read it at all, that maybe THIS could be my olive branch to you.

You see, I come to this board for tips, for advice, for a few laughs, for relaxation and for an accountability to try and "keep me honest" on my attempt to permanently change my life, health and outlook. And yes, I do want to become "muscle-bound" to a point. Its just an excuse, I know, but maybe the fact that its been a long, stressful few days at work help explain why I came unglued so quickly and took things so personally right away instead of stepping back, reading more carefully and figuring out exactly what was being said to me, or asked of me. I guess its one of my character flaws, and I should take my own advice and step away from anything I find offensive or insulting for a while before replying in a manner similar to the one with which I responded to you.

I hope that not only the person I am specifically referring to here, but to all those that i may have offended with my (apparently poor) attempt at humor the other day will accept this apology and will take my hand in a symbolic handshake. I'd like to start over with you all with the understanding that I would never intentionally target anybody on an internet message board for insults nor would I try to belittle anybody for any life choice that doesn't hurt anybody......heck, I'm sure many would tear me apart were they to know some of the messed up decisions and actions I've taken along my life's travels.

Hope this starts me on a fresh footing with those I have insulted recently (which I did not intend to do), with the person who called me out on it, and with anybody else who may be affected in anyway by any of my posts. Please go forward with the knowledge that I'm far, far from perfect, that my attempts at humor sometimes are only amusing to myself, and that I would never intentionally try to offend anybody on this board, nor would I want to take anything said about me personally either.

Gallowmere1984

Bah, stop being nice. Playing the bad guy is so much more fun.

I love abrasive responses, even when they are directed at me, so long as they aren't a lie. Keep rubbing sand in people's cracks around here, and you'll find yourself having an incredibly fun time. As a bonus, after a while, the overly sensitive people have you blocked, which means that you no longer have to worry about their internet tear bucket sloshing on you.

Hirgy03

Well, this is more about me going over the top in my responses to the other person's private message to me. I did exactly the thing that I lecture others about not doing and made it personal instead of just explaining what I meant. It was pretty "uncool" of me really, and I should have either been more patient and respectful or just have not replied at all. Either way, I acted in a pretty childish manner.