People that judge us...

taliar93

So, I was in the checkout line an hour ago at a shopping centre, a man walked right behind me with his wife and kid, he looked at a tank top I was holding, turns to his wife, does a condescending snort, and says "There's no way SHE'S a size 16" ...

It stung for a moment, I won't lie, It's the first time someone has been so outwardly rude about my weight since school. I turned around gave him the absolute meanest look I could muster, about to call him every name under the sun, but before I could, he grabbed his wife by the back of the neck roughly, and pulls him towards her like he was gonna knock her teeth out. I froze, after seeing that, and that he's a good 3 inches shorter than me, and 20lb at least bigger, I remembered what I used to say to myself through high school, that obviously his life must be pretty awful to feel like he can only validate himself by hurting somebody else, Me and his wife included in that, but then I realized he's just an insecure piece of S**t.

So to the "Man" that's 40+ years old, and has a terrible case of A-Hole syndrome and like's to abuse his wife in public, in front of your child that's too young to talk, Joke's on you, the top did fit me thanks very muchly

I just figured I'd post this so anybody that's experienced something similar as of late could vent.

JessikaBlayne

Ugh it makes me sick when people do that :l. And lately whenever i read something like this it almost always is a man. I dont understand people now adays. its just sickening and makes me worry what the next generation will turn out to be

taliar93

Couldn't agree with you more Jess, I think men are more inclined to be jerks to women because 99% of the time a woman won't turn react, I just wish my 6"1' Hubby was there xD would have been a bit different then :drinker:

rockangel8907

Wow what an asswipe. I feel horrible for his wife, and anything you said or did she would have paid for when they got home.

taliar93

So true Angel! people like that are honestly a waste of space in my opinion.

LMT2012

Full grown bully needs a full blown *kitten* whoopin'. He keeps that up in public and he will get it. Not from you, cause you're a lady!

Siege_Tank

Stab them with something!

You know, in the hood.. people have been killed for a whole lot less than that...

respect.

Rockytop_relic

I'd never do that but if I did my wife would kill me. He'll get his someday, trust me.

taliar93

Full grown bully needs a full blown *kitten* whoopin'. He keeps that up in public and he will get it. Not from you, cause you're a lady!

Hehe love it! one day he will seriously say it to the wrong woman, her huge male friend/husband/brother/whatever will come up and he'll get the hiding of his life especially in this city.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

Really shocked to read this. I'd ask whether you made an attempt to call the police, but truth is, they wouldn't have made it there in time to do anything, and even if they had, the wife would have been humiliated and angry at you and would have blamed you or accused you of lying. I too wish you husband had been there. I know mine would have wanted to intervene, and probably would have.

THAT guy is a bully. A real one who harms people with his words and his hands.

I'm very sorry you had to be subjected to that and had to witness that.

weightedfootsteps

Bet he was jealous you had more to offer than his woman.

anifani4

So sorry this happened to you. I think you handled it very well. Rude people are everywhere. Hugs.

UsedToBeHusky

I am so sorry that you experienced that. I know where you have been. I know how truly wrong it can be. I hope you don't mind, but I would like to share my blog with you. The woman that I wrote about knew the pain of what you have described all too well. The looks, the snide under-the-breath remarks, the vicious attacks. I would tell you her story here but it is quite long so I am posting the link. Thank you.


http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/UsedToBeHusky

taliar93

Loving the input from the men! Nice to know that there are actually some decent guys out there,

I would have called but he booked it out of the mall before they would have even got there, and nothing would have been done anyway.

*Hugs* to everyone who's read this :flowerforyou:

taliar93

I am so sorry that you experienced that. I know where you have been. I know how truly wrong it can be. I hope you don't mind, but I would like to share my blog with you. The woman that I wrote about knew the pain of what you have described all too well. The looks, the snide under-the-breath remarks, the vicious attacks. I would tell you her story here but it is quite long so I am posting the link. Thank you.


http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/UsedToBeHusky

Thanks heaps for the link I'm reading as I type (well not really but it's in the next tab)

I think everyone who's been either overweight/underweight or really just existed has experienced some type of bully,
It's so refreshing though not to sit here and automatically want to go to that beautiful temptress comfort food

MoreBean13

What in the everloving fuch???? I don't know what I would have said or done, but I would have been PISSED. I'm sorry this happened to you. Congrats on handling it with dignity, I might be calling someone to post bail right now if I were you.

UsedToBeHusky

I am so sorry that you experienced that. I know where you have been. I know how truly wrong it can be. I hope you don't mind, but I would like to share my blog with you. The woman that I wrote about knew the pain of what you have described all too well. The looks, the snide under-the-breath remarks, the vicious attacks. I would tell you her story here but it is quite long so I am posting the link. Thank you.


http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/UsedToBeHusky

Thanks heaps for the link I'm reading as I type (well not really but it's in the next tab)

I think everyone who's been either overweight/underweight or really just existed has experienced some type of bully,
It's so refreshing though not to sit here and automatically want to go to that beautiful temptress comfort food

That's the best part about this site. It's a virtual support group full of people that can totally relate. My friends help me so much, not just with diet and fitness, but with personal matters of the heart too. I love them and this site so much!

taliar93

I am so sorry that you experienced that. I know where you have been. I know how truly wrong it can be. I hope you don't mind, but I would like to share my blog with you. The woman that I wrote about knew the pain of what you have described all too well. The looks, the snide under-the-breath remarks, the vicious attacks. I would tell you her story here but it is quite long so I am posting the link. Thank you.


http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/UsedToBeHusky

Thanks heaps for the link I'm reading as I type (well not really but it's in the next tab)

I think everyone who's been either overweight/underweight or really just existed has experienced some type of bully,
It's so refreshing though not to sit here and automatically want to go to that beautiful temptress comfort food

That's the best part about this site. It's a virtual support group full of people that can totally relate. My friends help me so much, not just with diet and fitness, but with personal matters of the heart too. I love them and this site so much!

That's exactly what got me onto this site, a huge support network of people that when they say "I know how you feel" actually mean it, because they've all been through the same crap, I read your blog, it was beautiful

mtfr810

That kind of an a-hole is really not worth your time. I know that's easier said than done, but he's a POS and his thoughts are not work anything to you. Be proud of yourself and leave it at that!

UsedToBeHusky

I am so sorry that you experienced that. I know where you have been. I know how truly wrong it can be. I hope you don't mind, but I would like to share my blog with you. The woman that I wrote about knew the pain of what you have described all too well. The looks, the snide under-the-breath remarks, the vicious attacks. I would tell you her story here but it is quite long so I am posting the link. Thank you.


http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/UsedToBeHusky

Thanks heaps for the link I'm reading as I type (well not really but it's in the next tab)

I think everyone who's been either overweight/underweight or really just existed has experienced some type of bully,
It's so refreshing though not to sit here and automatically want to go to that beautiful temptress comfort food

That's the best part about this site. It's a virtual support group full of people that can totally relate. My friends help me so much, not just with diet and fitness, but with personal matters of the heart too. I love them and this site so much!

That's exactly what got me onto this site, a huge support network of people that when they say "I know how you feel" actually mean it, because they've all been through the same crap, I read your blog, it was beautiful

Thank you.

SwimFan1981

Ugh, what a wanker!

Iceman420

It sucks when people judge us like that. I remember when I bought my first batch of healthy food on December 31st. The cashier (who knows what I usually buy) took one look at my cart and shook her head. Then she said "This isn't your usual fat food. Why are you buying it?". I told her I was trying to lose weight again and she laughed at me. Thank goodness there wasn't anyone behind me in the isle.

My blood was boiling for hours after that. But now I use it for motivation. I make sure to take ALL my healthy food to her isle. After nearly a month, she finally said "I guess you are serious about this". Damn right I am!

VelociMama

You'd be surprised how taken aback people like that guy get when they actually get confronted. Most back down and try to run away like the cowards they really are.

taliar93

It sucks when people judge us like that. I remember when I bought my first batch of healthy food on December 31st. The cashier (who knows what I usually buy) took one look at my cart and shook her head. Then she said "This isn't your usual fat food. Why are you buying it?". I told her I was trying to lose weight again and she laughed at me. Thank goodness there wasn't anyone behind me in the isle.

My blood was boiling for hours after that. But now I use it for motivation. I make sure to take ALL my healthy food to her isle. After nearly a month, she finally said "I guess you are serious about this". Damn right I am!

Wow what a *****! I would have reported her but too much effort xD
Good on you for making the change! I always used self serve more so out of convenience, but I always noticed people looking in my cart to secretly scrutinize the awful "Fat" food I was buying, I've seen more than one shocked look since I started when they look at my groceries and see they're healthier than theirs! haha, I think it really messes with some peoples minds...:smokin:

Cold_Steel

Just take solace in the fact that he is probably struggling with is sexuality and his fondness for 60 year old men dressed in Furry costumes and the only way to express that frustration and insecurity is to take it out on his wife who hasnt found his photo cache of Teletubbies porn.

Dont worry, eventually someone will catch his toe tapping and he will probably be so ashamed that he will take his life into his own hands... Probably fail at doing so and live his life as a paraplegic suicide failure that hates himself so much and there is just nothing he can about it... Was he seen in People of Walmart. / com ?

a_mandolin_

What an a-hole indeed. What sick thoughts go through peoples heads that they even come up with things like that to say, let alone actually let them come out of their mouths.

Also, you are an absolute stunner!

taliar93

You'd be surprised how taken aback people like that guy get when they actually get confronted. Most back down and try to run away like the cowards they really are.

So true, but I felt like him grabbing his wife was like a "Come at me if you dare" gesture, and I can't get arrested again...
Just kidding :laugh:

I'm a pretty hotheaded person and find it really hard at times to control my nasty temper, people like that are all bark.

You should always be more scared of somebody who remains quiet :smokin:

Windy_

Some people are dilholes.

taliar93

What an a-hole indeed. What sick thoughts go through peoples heads that they even come up with things like that to say, let alone actually let them come out of their mouths.

Also, you are an absolute stunner!

Gosh :blushing: don't give me a big head now!

taliar93

Just take solace in the fact that he is probably struggling with is sexuality and his fondness for 60 year old men dressed in Furry costumes and the only way to express that frustration and insecurity is to take it out on his wife who hasnt found his photo cache of Teletubbies porn.

Dont worry, eventually someone will catch his toe tapping and he will probably be so ashamed that he will take his life into his own hands... Probably fail at doing so and live his life as a paraplegic suicide failure that hates himself so much and there is just nothing he can about it... Was he seen in People of Walmart. / com ?

hehe love your post! Hubby said when I told him that he must be secretly gay to be checking out my clothes lol!
and it's funny you mention walmart because this took place in Big W which is pretty much the Australian version of Walmart lol! But this is the first ''walcreature'' I've seen there.

VelociMama

You'd be surprised how taken aback people like that guy get when they actually get confronted. Most back down and try to run away like the cowards they really are.

So true, but I felt like him grabbing his wife was like a "Come at me if you dare" gesture, and I can't get arrested again...
Just kidding :laugh:

I'm a pretty hotheaded person and find it really hard at times to control my nasty temper, people like that are all bark.

You should always be more scared of somebody who remains quiet :smokin:

I prefer the cool, calm, collected threat. Lack of emotion scares the living crap out of people. LOL