lost motivation...help!

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  • shonovo
    shonovo Posts: 104
    thanks so much everyone! i know exactly what it is... my co workers dont appreciate me... i just graduated college and started my first job... i feel i can never do enough at work... i did recently end a serious relationship and that might have triggered things but those things arent really changing so how can i change how i deal with them??
  • boatsie77
    boatsie77 Posts: 480 Member
    thanks so much everyone! i know exactly what it is... my co workers dont appreciate me... i just graduated college and started my first job... i feel i can never do enough at work... i did recently end a serious relationship and that might have triggered things but those things arent really changing so how can i change how i deal with them??

    ...ACCEPTANCE. Once you learn to accept things as they ARE, without mentally adding a bunch of "poor me" dialog, your suffering will cease. It's not easy, it takes practice and more practice. But practice strengthens your ability to accept life as it comes and determine if you need to change yourself and/or your thinking for the better. Your thoughts are the only things you have the power to change--that is all that is required.
  • MrFrodo
    MrFrodo Posts: 6 Member
    I am in the same place you are and I am freaked out I will gain back weight. I hit my goal weight last September (after losing 50 lbs) and was maintaining, exercising and eating properly. I survived the holidays still on track, and then I lost my workout partner, things became extremely crazy at work (and still are) and to make things worse I literally cannot get into my gym because it's packed with folks that sign up as a new year resolution. It will slow down again the end of Feb - just not sure what kind of shape I will be by that time! Anyway, I have gained 5 lbs back and don't feel the same motivation to eat right. If I were working out it might not be as bad...Determined that I would not let Feb go down like January did, I left work early yesterday to get to gym early before the 'after work' crowd gets there but even at 4pm it was same thing again - people standing around waiting for weights and treadmills and bikes - so again, I left angry and even more de-motivated. I am learning working out is a large part of my mental motivation. Without it I am kind of lost. I can't recreate what I do at the gym elsewhere - I am a runner and I live in MI (its snowing outside) and I don't have any weights at home heavier than 5 lbs...

    My advice is to be patient and know that your coworkers will come to appreciate you in time, maybe even extend the olive branch by doing little things so they know how much you appreciate them. It will be worth it when they come around and begin treating you with more respect. If you can bump up your exercise progream or change it up it may help. :smile:
  • anettamajor
    anettamajor Posts: 2
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  • Amadbro
    Amadbro Posts: 750 Member
    No one can motivate you but you. You have to sit down and have a talk with yourself. Either you're in or you're out. Fitness isn't something you just do for x amount of time then buckle when you have a craving for something. It's a lifestyle and until you're willing to adopt that lifestyle you will always relapse back into old habits.

    One thing that's always helped me when working out is looking out the window at everyone driving or walking around. I say to myself "this is what separates me from them". If it were easy, then everyone would be doing it.

    You have to learn to be strong. Sure you can come here and maybe get a small piece of motivation, but what about next month when you have another craving? Are you going to use others as a crutch and be dependent on others coddling you to keep you going? This game is all about discipline and determination to be the best you can inside and out. It's a skill just like anything else that you hone throughout time. Good luck.

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