Bashing for being thin or wanting to lose weight?

JonnyR214

Hello all, I was wondering if anyone deals with situations in which they're being bashed for losing weight? I know I look thin in my photos but I struggle with binge eating and it's pretty hard for me to maintain the figure that I like to have because I binge emotionally due to the things others tell me. A couple months back I was a bit bigger, and for a couple years, I was a little fat and unathletic, people got used to seeing me that way so now that im thin, and feel great I get put down a lot. Even my own mother, told me I should get a blood test to make sure I dont have anemia, my grandmother used to ask me if i throw up after I eat, My father bashes me constantly and so does the rest of my family and coworkers. They have no idea the struggle I go through trying to keep off the weight and all the work I've done to lose it, Theres been times for me where I've broken down but I never gave up so after all the hard work what hurts me especially is these people who gave up on themselves bashing on me. Has anyone ever approached you this way? If so how do you deal with it? Because it's something that upsets me and I didnt know where else to turn, sorry if it seems like i've vented.

CaffeinatedConfectionist

I got this a lot from my parents at first. My mom especially would accuse me of being anorexic. I think it largely stemmed from the fact that I was changing my eating and drinking habits in fairly obvious ways. Whenever I'd go visit my parents, instead of drinking many beers with them and pigging out on cheese, crackers, sausage, cookies and various other snacks, I limited my alcohol intake and really limited my snacking. I didn't tell them I was working out, or trying to get into shape, but food is a big thing in my family and so declining all the goodies made it hard to hide what I was up to.

I believe that my mother was antagonistic because she felt threatened. I don't think that she honestly was concerned that I was anorexic. I was/am making healthier decisions in my life than she is - she always used to be a thin person, but lately she's been putting on weight fairly steadily. The fact that I am doing something to become stronger and fitter makes her feel bad about her own decisions and way of life (not enough to actually change her habits, mind).

It's been about a year since the "anorexic" comments started, and they have largely tapered off. Whenever she would say something snarky or bash me, I would just confront her about it. I would try to be polite and respectful, but would tell her in clear terms that her comments are not appreciated. I think our conversations about it derailed into yelling once or twice. Eventually, my family got used to the way that my body shape was changing, and got used to my healthier eating habits, and they haven't said anything recently. If you have tried talking to your family about how what they are saying makes you feel, and they continue to be rude and unsupportive, just hang in there. With any luck, once they get used to your new lifestyle, they will stop giving you flack about it, and may even start to be supportive. :flowerforyou:

JonnyR214

thank you goodness thats terrible but im glad things are better for ya laura!