please help me, IDK which way to go

ashleydmassey

use MFP!!!!!!!!

Set your goal to lose 1lb per week, eat back your exercise calories, aim to get your 5 portions of fruit & veg a day and keep treats to a minimum! a bit of exercise and LOT of patience!!!!!

like others have said, its a lifestyle change not a diet that you need!

1lb per week....it seems like so little and I think that's where my downfall is!! I have to learn to be patient!

Honestly, just because you aim for 1 pound per week, doesn't mean you will only lose that. You might go some time, especially after the first drop(s), where the scale won't budge at all. Then there might be other weeks where you drop several at a time. It all balances out in the end. If you keep your expectations low, then the higher outcomes will be more gratifying but the lower ones won't be devastating. Remember this too: Once you really get going, the scale doesn't reflect but only a small part of the story. Your body will change, especially if you incorporate a fitness routine of some kind. Inches will drop. Etc.

gpizzy

The best way to do it for a forever change, is to make healthy eating and being active your lifestyle. Start slow, like a mini-goal. This week I will eat a vegetables and lean meat for lunch. Once you have that down, tackle the next meal, the next meal, the next snack etc. You don't have to start out blazing and cutting down your calories to nothing to get a good start on losing weight.

I have always struggled with this myself. I feel like I need to lose it all right now. But guess what, I didn't gain it all in a week and I can't lose it all in a week. By making healthy choices, the weight will come off.

For myself, I eat about 1500 calories per day, which includes some chocolate or popcorn and I feel satisfied all day.

Being healthy is the most important.

JanaCanada

To be honest, hun, I think you need to eat more. You need to up your calorie goal.

If you want, check out this link by MFPer Heliotsdan - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

It'll give you a detailed walkthrough (with pictures even) on finding your TDEE and calculating what you should be eating.

Also, if you are worried about the calorie intake, I also suggest you read this thread that has numerous people who met their goals and are maintaining. Some for years and they also provide their calorie intake and how often they work out.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/816542-let-s-hear-it-for-maintainenance


And if you are looking for foods to help with upping your calorie intake, I suggest checking this out:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/410771-i-can-t-reach-my-calorie-goal-it-s-too-much-food
Check out the Place of a Road Map 2.0 link - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

It gives instructions on how to figure it out.

JessicaZen

Use the guidelines set by MFP and Change diet to Lifestyle change. Dietys don't work Counting calories does you will start to see how you eat and start to make healthy changes also incorporate excercise into the mix and you will lose it slow as it should be so you need to be very patient as well. Get as much support as possible which you will find here annd post any questions or anything you need to cuz you will get the feedback you need.Welcome to MFP.:flowerforyou:

Melissasue29624

I cant say enough thank yous for all this wonderful advice and great ideas and support! Im looking into these things now!

PaveGurl

Honestly, eat normally for a week or two, log everything, and see what kinds of changes you need to make based on that. You don't need to make yourself miserable and hungry to lose weight. You DO need to develop good habits, and developing new habits takes time. There is no shame in making this a gradual process.

This! x100!

Make small changes - start with logging. Then see where you can make chagnes. Then maybe you begin to exercise. Then maybe you fine tune. Tyr one small change at a time, and add on over time. It makes a difference. A huge one.

The best way to develop new habits is by increments.

dmpizza

Congrats on starting.

There is NO SUBSTITUTE for watching what you eat and getting high intensity exercise(AS MUCH AS YOU CAN TOLERATE WITHIN REASON).

It shouldnt cost you more than a gym membership.

Good Luck.

Bjmtrainer

I suggest seeing your doctor or visiting a registered dietician. Particularly the dietician can give you some great insight and help you to understand how changes in your diet can affect you.

kitkatkate77

You say on your profile that the reason you joined is to feel good about yourself. Try to feel good about the process, not just the destination. Every day that you make healthy eating choices and excercise is a reason to feel good, whether you lose a little weight, a lot of weight, or none at all. Enjoying the trip will help you be patient.

lenniebus

I had a friend that did that diet, and it didn't work for her either. It's just not sustainable nor sensible. There really is no quick fix, unfortunately. I agree with everyone else that you should start using MFP and work with its calorie limits, then add exercise, then work with your settings (the carb/protein/fat ratios) to see what works best for you. My weight is not coming off fast but it is totally sustainable, and I've learned SO much about what to eat and what exercises work for me.

Melissasue29624

Im going to appreciate the gift of eating sensibly from now on, after starving for days on the HCG diet....just making healthy choices will be a gift from heaven!

canucksweetie

Its hard not to get sucked into quick fix fads but resist! They don't work and if they do its so short term it doesn't matter. You'll gain it all back if you don't change the habits that got you where you are in the first place. I speak from experience not from a soapbox.