What was your breaking point.

lisaanne1704

For me it was a culmination of things - I've been obese for most of my adult life, but about 2.5 years ago my ex left me for a much slimmer and fitter woman, destroying what little confidence I had left and taking all our friends with him. Although I wasn't so upset about the end of the relationship I was humiliated and upset that all our friends had cast me aside. I think part of the reason for that is due to my size. I think he was seen to have 'traded up' and as an obese woman I have no right to complain. I was very depressed and lonely and comfort ate. I gradually got better by learning to appreciate my real friends, taking lots of holidays, doing more fun things, and coming to terms with my new life, but was still overeating. I figured I'm not trying to impess anyone so who cares what I look like?
Then I went for the annual medical at work and have high tri-glycerides, and pre-diabetes and non-alcoholic fatty liver disease (I don't drink so at least that's one thing I don't have to worry about!) and a whole number of lifestyle related issues that I wouldn't have known about without the tests as they're not affecting my day to day life at the moment, but are lurking there beneath the surface like a ticking bomb. Basically - just as I'm starting to feel better emotionally, I realise this fun new life is likely not to last very long if I carry on down this road! So last year I tried a few things that didn't work, then stumbled across MFP - lost 25 pounds and felt so much better - the daily achievement and having something positive to focus on, feeling in control of some part of your life is worth more than any therapy! However..... I then went on a series of holidays over about 4 months and put all the weight I'd lost back on..... I enjoyed myself though! But Jan 2nd I went back to MFP - started from scratch, new year, new me, lucky 2013..... Doing ok so far.....

zoukeira

Great thread!

I didn't have a breaking point re weightloss, I began to lose accidentally (kind of) when I took up dance. I loved it and did it as much as possible and the weight came off. Joining MFP and seriously tracking my calories in and out came about when I went on new medication and was told to expect to put on 10-20kg. That was HUGE I'd just managed to lose 20kg over 2 years and I wasn't going to let it all go to waste. I decided to believe that the medication was only going to make me fat if I let it, and that monitoring what I ate and how I exercised was now imperitive.

Instead of putting on 10kg (22lb) I've lost another 10kg - in total over 30kg (68lb to be exact) gone!!

DesertFox15

When I realized that I had been chasing the effect instead of the cause. In essence, losing weight was not going to make me mentally tough or miraculously change my point of view. When I realized that I first had to reform my mentality and looked inward, I was able to find the mental fortitude I never thought I had. At that point, and at that point alone, I was able to make a change. Haha, sorry if I went a bit too metaphysical, but that's really what made me change!!!

GasnotGas

About 2 years ago I bumped into an old friend I had lost contact with (hadn't seen him for about 4-5 years) he was clearly shocked on how much weight I had put on and mentioned in a jokey way that he didn't recognise the fat me.

A few weeks later I met up with a load of guys I used to train martial arts with, the same thing happened a few of the guys politely mentioned (in the blokey way) how much I had changed in size.

I put it to the back of my mind but it wouldn't go away, no denying it, I am overweight, about a year ago I started taking action, I'm still on the case now.

MissMdM

My ex telling me I was fat and unattractive. Something in me just got pissed. Really mad. Fed up and ready to prove the haters wrong

wickedwendy6

When my scale read 77.6 kilos in early November 2012. I just stood there thinking "What am I going to do when it says 78? What am I going to do when it says 79? What am I going to do when it says 80?!?!" So I decided there and then to take steps to get healthy and fit again. Now I'm at 69 kg. :happy: Short term goal - 66 kg. Long term goal 60 kg.

delonda1

My breaking point was looking in the mirror and realizing I HATED MYSELF and hated taking pictures...my bf was cheating on me and I was looking at the girls and realized, they were thin. I wasnt.

MaraDiaz

I don't think there was any one thing. My whole life was just a wreckage and I woke up one day with some energy and decided to put right the easiest thing to fix, which was losing weight and getting healthy.

But I do remember not long before that (or maybe it was even after I started, I don't remember) I was grocery shopping and I heard this teenage girl tell her boyfriend, "She looks like my mom."

Granted, I'm old enough to have been her mom, but I still didn't like it because I have never looked my age before. Pretty sure that motivated me for some good old fashioned vanity reasons.

casy84

I didn't have a scale for years, but the day I got one and it showed me 72kg changed everything. After a few weeks spent in denial I made a plan and stuck to it. I'm now at ~57kg and I'm not going to stop until I get to my highschool weight of 54. I'm motivated by the fact that I'm getting close to 30yo and I want to enter my next decade looking hot.

littlecrystal

I had many breaking points. In fact I have been “on diet” for the last 5 years, and despite of that I have not lost weight, because either I yo-yoed, or lost commitment. I have seen my friends losing a significant amount of weight over this time, and I have not lost anything – felt so bad.

Not exactly a breaking point, but I had two dreams (nightmares) lately - that I met two of my most obese friends and they were slim. One of these friends, she said, is actually trying to lose weight. I have not seen her for several months now, and I will only meet her in about 3 months. I would not be able to live with myself if she lost weight and would be slimmer than me.

So, some sort of fear is fuelling me this time.