Rant about college roommate... beware.

butterflymarks

I just need to rant for a while... so warning... it's long and probably boring.
Questions: Am I being petty (even though I still act nice towards her and compliment her outfits and stuff, even though I don't get it back in return)? Should I just deal with it? What would you do?

My roommate is seriously getting progressively worse. She doesn't take my food or shampoo any more (probably b/c her mom bought her some). But everything she does is so frustrating. She never got the microwave stuff to work, so I went through customer service and all that and finally got a new one. Just to find out that when they brought the new one that the cord was too short to get plugged in. She said she'd do it since it was her side and stuff but never did so I went through all that and fixed that too.

Then she broke her closet door (like she always does) but this time just completely pulled it off the wall. And she was like "Do you know how my closet door broke?" as if I did something.. So right now it's just leaning on her bed for the past week... my side is always neat and her side is so disgusting, it's not really fair b/c it's a dorm for both of us, even if it's on her side. Anyways... I called a work order in for her stupid closet door and they haven't come yet... but I knew she would never do it and would leave it right in the middle of the room for the rest of the semester.

She has been piling things up on her side of the room but it topples over the "half way" point and I just push it back to her side but it's so gross. And she piles it up in the bathroom, not on the counter and stuff, but half of the floor on "her side" is filled with shoes and stuff but that area to me is both of ours, not just her side. My side has a door on it so if I did that, it'd be completely in the way.
She leaves ramen noodles and toothpaste and stuff in the sink and I clean it up b/c the cleaning ladies can't do everything for us. It's only once a week that they come.

And even though I've asked nicely 3 times, she still doesn't lock or even close the door completely at night when she comes in after I'm asleep. I left a little sticky note saying "please lock the door " and in the morning, it was unlocked. I left and when I came back, she was gone and the door wasn't closed or locked. My laptop and camera could have easily gotten stolen. I sorta think that was intentional.

She does a lot more things but I'll stop ranting for now.

What do you think I should do? This is seriously getting worse and I want to just come to my dorm and be able to relax but all her shenanigans makes me just angry/uncomfortable. I have anxiety and I've gotten better from my past OCD, but this is just bringing it back up again..

laurenkoszola

Can't you ask to room by yourself or get another roommate?

iWaffle

Did you tell her this? If so proceed to step 2.

Tell your floor leader? If yes or none then proceed to step 3.

Pile all her crap on her bed. Pick it up off the floor, sink or wherever it isn't supposed to be and put it right smack in the middle of her unmade bed. Repeat till she throws a hissy fit and changes rooms or cleans up her junk.

There could be some retaliation but she sounds too lazy to actually plot anything sinister.

butterflymarks

Hahaha I really like the "pile everything up on her bed" plan. But I'll go through step 1-2 first.
Oh the fun of your first roommate. Great memories.

Brianna72994

Your dorm has a cleaning lady? Fancy.

butterflymarks

Your dorm has a cleaning lady? Fancy.

Yeah and she's pretty dang awesome

Ocarina

Ahahahahahha living on campus! Fun times.

I'll tell you what. You are one lucky lady that's all she does. There are some scary horrible horror stories out there about what roommates do to each other and she is so lucky to be with someone so sweet and nice as you. Other girls would pee in her shampoo, fill her perfume with spit, or put her toothbrush where it don't belong! I commend you!

I'd be happy with who you have but I'd talk to her. She's probably never had to be responsible for being clean so probably needs some encouragement. Or if she doesn't care you could speak to your RA. (resident assistant).

juliecat1

Take all of her stuff and duct tape it to the walls. No really.... It works. Trust me

Haha. I had s terrible roommate in college. She was disgusting. So this happened one day when she was out. Most of it just stayed stuck to the walls and therefore never went on the floor again. What she took down she was at least more mindful of. Thank goodness for new roommates the next year!

sofielein

I think orderly people should just NEVER move in together with messy people. That just never ends well.

EDIT: 'Cos it's almost impossible to change people.
I was a very order maniac kid from an early age and my mum was just a mess! I remember trying to beg her my entire childhood to maintain at least some decency in our apartment so at least my friends can come... like take the garbage out (which she would neglect for WEEKS...), not to put out her cigarette in plant ponts and pick up her clothes from the floor after several days.. and nothing worked.

And there we go, she's now like 65 and she is still like that and she will always be like that.

dad106

I tell your roommate that she has 3 days to clean up her mess, and if she doesn't then I'd hide her stuff until she agrees to clean.

I lived in a sorority house, and if we knew someone used dishes but didn't wash them or put them in the dishwasher, they'd wind up in your bed eventually