Healthy choices = major relationship problems!

72MonteCarla

I am really trying to focus on the quality of the calories I consume. I want to move away from nutrient-devoid foods and eat a more plant-based, whole foods diet. My challenge is that my boyfriend not only disagrees with my choice, but he gets ANGRY with me when I talk about it. Since he is the only person I interact with, it's hard. Any suggestions how I can do what I think is NECESSARY for my well-being when I get opposition instead of support from my partner?

now_or_never13

Let him eat what he wants while you eat what you want. You both don't have to eat the same things.

If he doesn't want to change how he eats, he can continue on eating whatever he normally does. You can eat differently.

ALso, ask him why he gets angry about it when you talk about your choices? Does he think you are trying to push your new lifestyle on him? Some people will get angry if they feel they are being pushed into something they don't want to do. Is your diet and lifestyle choices all you talk about?

Do what you need to do. Sit down and explain to him why you are trying to better yourself. If he is on board, great. If not, continue with what you are doing and make your own foods.

autumnblade75

I'm concerned that you have no other contacts with the outside world. His attitude and your isolation indicate an unhealthy relationship. I've only got this one short post to go by, so that might not be accurate - so don't hate me for pointing that out.

Couldn't you find some friends to talk about this with? If this is a sudden change and all he ever seems to hear from you is about how many calories are in wheat bread as compared to white, he might just be frustrated that you guys never talk about the things you used to, or do whatever you used to do together without making it all about the calories burned. If nutrient-rich foods aren't his goal or objective, he's just not going to be interested in discussing it. I'm not trying to tell you to dump him (but if he is the cause of your isolation, I would strongly advise considering it.!) but you may need to look elsewhere for diet support.

skinnyinnotime

Suggestions? Why yes, you are an adult and you get to decide what you eat....despite temper tantrums from your man.

Come on now, is this for real?

now_or_never13

I have to agree with the poster who pointed out your comment that he is the only one you interact with.

Where are your friends, family, coworkers, etc? You shouldn't only be in contact with your boyfriend. There are more people in the world besides him.

Not having contacts outside a relationship is not a healthy relationship.

LifeJacketWaterJogger

DO IT AND KEEP QUIET ABOUT IT AS YOU GROW AND BECOME MORE SEXY HE WILL ADJUST IT TIME!

tsdaughe

Is he angry at your food choices? Or angry because you talk alot about whats healthy and what isn't and that you need to lose weight? I ask because my fiance gets irritated when I talk about needing to lose weight and if I talk too much about eating healthier. Not because he doesn't support me but because he loves me and thinks I am beautiful and wishes I wasn't so hard on myself.

If you are constantly talking about your diet, your weight, etc. I could recommend finding some friends that you can talk to that about or reach out to people on MFP. If he doesn't choose to eat healthy like you just make sure that you are not forcing your choices on him. Now if he really goes get angry because he thinks you don't know what you are doing or is doing it in a way as to cut you down and make you seem like you cannot do anything right then I would reevaluate your relationship.

72MonteCarla

Suggestions? Why yes, you are an adult and you get to decide what you eat....despite temper tantrums from your man.

Come on now, is this for real?

Yes, this is for real. I do eat what I want. I was genuinely looking for advice from others who have encountered this same reaction from their partner and what they did to stick to their guns & keep the peace in their relationship.

So, YOU come on now. Did you really need to waste your time and mine posting a snarky, sarcastic remark? Maybe it strokes your ego to insult and condescend to others.

RobynLB

He is probably just sick of hearing about your diet. It's a pretty boring topic for other people... like how my grandma talks about her arthritis. Do what you gotta do, but keep him out of it.

MyPsalm63

I would keep around the food he likes but also what you like. Have you asked him why he gets upset over it?