Why dont people get it?

SilverLotusGirl

Why do people take it so personally or get so upset when a person starts to get new more health focused friends? I still love my old friends but some of them have habits with eating, not exercising, and self inflicted body hatred that I dont need in my life, at least not as much. Im making friends now who are into running, eating veggies, and body wellness and I like it. I dont value the old ones any less as people but others think Im abandoning my friendships.

I know I can hang out with them and not partake but it is much harder to eat healthy foods surrounded by people drinking cheap beer and noshing on chips and fast food who roll their eyes when I mention going for walks but are quick to talk about how fat we all are and how we'd look better thinner.

I know the examples are a bit different BUT, no one faults a former junkie for not wanting hang around their old drug buddies so why do those of us trying to forge new health habits get so much crap for trying to do the same thing?

Please pardon my spelling, Im typing on a nook and have had not very much sleep.

triciab79

Sad to say but you may need to avoid them for a while. If you need to take 6 months to get a good jump start on this lifestyle then do it. Your life and your health are worth more than friendships with people who won't support you in this. I had very limited access to friends and family while I was losing the weight. I didn't have to deal with them noticing or not noticing, supporting or not supporting, suggesting strange solutions that didn't really work for them or any of the other drama that goes with losing weight in a social setting. I was able to put my head down and get the job done.

angelique_redhead

Aren't you glad some of us have been supportive of you getting a healthier lifestyle all along? I'm sorry some of your old friends would rather complain than get off their fat behinds. *HUGS*