I need major help with this chick.
AngelicxAnnihilation
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So I decided that I didn't want to be this girls friend anymore and we had known each other for maybe 11 years. She was doing drugs and just wanted me to drive her places and pay for things, and I eventually said I'm done with this and told her I didn't want anything to do with her anymore. So finally after 2 months saying no more friendship and completely ignoring her I had to deal with constant phone calls and text messages everyday saying I've changed and whatever lets get together and hang out one more time and if it doesn't work I'll leave you alone. So finally I snapped and bought a new cell phone, didn't give her the number and went out with her which was what she wanted which she took as giving her another chance.
After that night I never spoke to her again or picked up the house phone when she called (because it isn't my phone I can't make any change to it).. I've completely ignored her for 8 months. The calls decreased but they still continue a couple times a month... She called again tonight claiming she's changed and she misses me and now I just don't know what to do because I don't want to be involved in the things she takes part in. Do I try it again, do I call the cops, do I move away, do I continue to ignore it. Opinions please.
After that night I never spoke to her again or picked up the house phone when she called (because it isn't my phone I can't make any change to it).. I've completely ignored her for 8 months. The calls decreased but they still continue a couple times a month... She called again tonight claiming she's changed and she misses me and now I just don't know what to do because I don't want to be involved in the things she takes part in. Do I try it again, do I call the cops, do I move away, do I continue to ignore it. Opinions please.
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So I decided that I didn't want to be this girls friend anymore and we had known each other for maybe 11 years. She was doing drugs and just wanted me to drive her places and pay for things, and I eventually said I'm done with this and told her I didn't want anything to do with her anymore. So finally after 2 months saying no more friendship and completely ignoring her I had to deal with constant phone calls and text messages everyday saying I've changed and whatever lets get together and hang out one more time and if it doesn't work I'll leave you alone. So finally I snapped and bought a new cell phone, didn't give her the number and went out with her which was what she wanted which she took as giving her another chance.
After that night I never spoke to her again or picked up the house phone when she called (because it isn't my phone I can't make any change to it).. I've completely ignored her for 8 months. The calls decreased but they still continue a couple times a month... She called again tonight claiming she's changed and she misses me and now I just don't know what to do because I don't want to be involved in the things she takes part in. Do I try it again, do I call the cops, do I move away, do I continue to ignore it. Opinions please.
The police can't do anything unless you have specifically told the girl to keep away from you since that time you 'went out', and even then it's iffy at best. The best thing you can do right now is make a decision, one way or the other, and inform her of this decision. That way if your decision is that you want nothing to do with her, you have some kind of leg to stand on when she keeps calling you. The law doesn't have 'passive' provisions, basically. You have to do your part first.0 -
If you want her back in your life, try again. If not continue to ignore. Cops won't do anything unless she threatens or harms you, and even then they might not do anything.0
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She needs a friend more now than ever. Give her another chance.0
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Well I called her to tell her that I didn't want to talk anymore and her boyfriend picked up the phone and intimidated me -.- but I guess I'm glad I called because I found out she was moving next door to the school I'm attending and she wants to go there.. Now I'm just irritated I guess.. More things to think over I suppose... Thanks for the comments.0
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If I felt like I was being used, I would have nothing to do with her. You deserve more than that. I would tell her again that you want nothing to do with her, and then ignore her completely. Don't answer the phone calls, don't give in to her. She will give up eventually. It may get worse before it gets better because she will try to push that button over and over again until she realizes it doesnt work anymore, and thats when she will give up. Google "extinction burst." It's a behavioral technique in psychology, and it will explain how the ignoring thing works. It sounds like its already gotten worse, so now you just have to wait for it to get better. The cops wont really do anything, so I would leave them out of it honestly. Use psychology to your advantage. Let me know if you have any questions about it. I love psychology.0
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Girlfriend is bat feces crazy. Why would you even consider communicating with a person like this at ALL? Ignore her and have her number blocked if need be. She's a "not worth the damn trouble" kind of person.0
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