Is this considered selfish?

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  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    No. It's a slippery slope. What's the ETA on getting the license?


    Edit: Actually, in response to the original question- yeah it's kind of selfish, but it's the OK kind of selfish. You're not taking from someone else, you're just putting yourself first.
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
    It is ok to say no.
  • Keto_T
    Keto_T Posts: 673 Member
    It's your car and there arent many people I know that can afford to replace such an expensive item. You must assume worst case scenario when it comes to lending things out. It'll get wrecked. smoked in, or otherwise not taken care of. My vote would be not to lend it out.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I just want to say, that I know what it is like to have only recently met a bio parent. Usually it is complicated. Take care of yourself and the new relationship by not doing something that you feel uneasy about. As others have said, it's ok to say no.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Thanks everyone, this was a hypothetical. I guess the way I worded it was not clear enough. I entered a tv contest via text message and I got really excited because I thought about actually winning. Then I stopped because I immediately felt obligated to have to give the car to her since I don't have a license. (Used to live in a metropolitan area) She keeps telling me that when I get a car to go through her insurance since i am young. But she let her other daughter total (texting) her car so I don't think I could ever loan her my automobile.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    EDIT:Bear in mind you have only known her for a couple of years

    You've only known your mother for a couple of years?

    yeah....let's hear the story behind this.

    something's not adding up.

    curious and curiouser

    Why is this so baffling to everyone? I didn't meet my mom until I was about 17, and have maybe seen her 5 times in the past 8 years. I don't know her, nor do I have a desire to. It's not really that uncommon.
  • droneofvelvet
    droneofvelvet Posts: 290 Member
    Nope. The bus is there for people who need a ride and can't afford one.


    (I've taken the bus before. I drive now).
  • MaryB2
    MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
    Not selfish at all! I've known my dad my whole life and won't let him borrow my car, I know he drinks and drives. I let siblings and friends but not my dad.
  • jha1223
    jha1223 Posts: 141 Member
    Thanks everyone, this was a hypothetical. I guess the way I worded it was not clear enough. I entered a tv contest via text message and I got really excited because I thought about actually winning. Then I stopped because I immediately felt obligated to have to give the car to her since I don't have a license. (Used to live in a metropolitan area) She keeps telling me that when I get a car to go through her insurance since i am young. But she let her other daughter total (texting) her car so I don't think I could ever loan her my automobile.

    Ok, so there is some clarification. I'm kind of a snob with my vehicles. I buy nice ones and don't hand over the keys to anyone. Hell, my wife never drove my last sports car (her choice). I'm particular about my vehicles. They are expensive. It doesn't matter what the sticker price is, they are probably expensive, in a sense, to you as well. Think replacement cost, costs to repair damage, etc.

    I know someone who was borrowing a friends truck. He parked the truck in his driveway and that day was windy. His daughter has a basketball hoop in the driveway, one of those water/sand weighted ones. Apparently he didn't have enough weight in it and it blew over, fell on the truck and put a massive dent in the front quarter panel and ripped the antenna assembly clean off. Sticky situation.

    Point? When you loan a vehicle, there are all sorts of crazy crap that can or can not happen. If it does, who will foot the bill? You or them? And if you have to make a claim on insurance, are they prepared to make the difference on you premiums when they go up due to the claim? You could also loan out the car 100 times and never have one single problem. I just don't like to play roulette with something that can cost so damn much.
  • lovelyMYlovely
    lovelyMYlovely Posts: 1,066 Member
    my mother no because we dont talk anymore.... and if u only knew her 2 years ago than no..... i wouldnt because then she will get used to it and stuff but i would let her take it around for a day or so ... not the entire time though.. ALSO if its not in your name yet then HECK NO because someone can steal it from you if its not in your name...... i think.. not positive.. lol..

    but no ur not selfish if u dont let her use it everyday...
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    i don't let anyone smoke in my car, i'm pretty anal about it too. i will FREAK out if someone lights up inside...so direspectful. if you trust your mom, let her use it. if not, make up an excuse or just be straight up- "i'm uncomfortable with you using it."

    get a license!

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