Opinions from parents..

MrsRichmond060212

I am a first time mom of a 7 month old girl, and my husband and I got married only a little over a month before she was born. I was just thinking back to the first few weeks/ months after birth, and it got me wondering if other couples had the same issues after having a new baby. Did you notice a change in your relationship or in yourself even? Was it a good change or bad? Before we had our daughter, my husband and I were as close to perfect as we could be. We've been inseparable since we started seeing each other, we've always been affectionate and laugh so much when we are together. Within the first couple months of having our daughter I thought for sure we were heading for divorce. Things got really bad! He didn't want to be around, I was alone w a new baby and exhausted.. He was annoyed bc I wanted attention and help when he got home, and I was annoyed bc I wasn't getting either. Our issues ended up much worse than they needed to be bc of rumors and my extreme insecurities. It took some major screaming matches and a lot of work but we have gotten just about back to normal..he has been an awesome husband and father. Things have been so great. Anyone want to share their stories??

BamBam1113

My first daughter was born lasst February and yes I can relate to this. My fiance said that I became very distant towards her. My feelings towards her didn't change at all. It was almost like our relationship changed. It went from the dating and having fun to it's time to be serious because holy **** here's a little human. It scared me at first. I felt like a fish out of water....didn't know what to do or when to do it....and usually when I tried to take the initiative, I would do it wrong...lol. So, for the most part, it was easier for me just to back off and let "mommy" do it.

I really wish that whenever the issue about how I changed came up, that she would have just accepted my answer of "I love you and there's nothing wrong.' But because my demeanor changed, she was convinced that there was something wrong.

Now, a year later, we have settled into a groove. I can successfully change a diaper without the use of duct tape and/or zip-ties. lol .... Give it time. Never go to bed angry. And coming from someone that sees death on a regular basis....never forget to tell each other you love them....even when you're mad.

Hope this helps....

KainStar

My change wasn't too bad. We both grew up a lot! We can argue now and laugh at it within minutes later. Before we both were so immature and would break up over the dumbest things! We started dating in high school. So it was a very immature relationship in the beginning. After we had our daughter we looked at each other differently. He saw her coming into this world. It changed both perspectives. We have more things to worry about obviously, but I wouldn't have it any other way!

But! At first he did change after i had her, more lazy. Usually we both kept up the house and cleaned up our own mess but I started picking up after him an taking care of our daughter 24/7 with little help. Things change, that was then. Now I still pick up after him and yes it gets irritating but he's great with our daughter and helps with her a heck of a lot more. Gotta take the good with the bad. Hes supportive in my decisions and doesn't tell me what I can and cannot do.