So how honest do you want your SO to be..........

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  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
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    I once had a "does my dress make my butt look fat, is it too tight moment at work". The woman I worked with said "honey, in italy we have a saying--you look like ten lbs of sugar in a five lbs sack--meaning you're all good but it's just tight on you but still looks good." That's the kind of thing I'd like to hear. That and when he sees a really thin girl walk by and whispers "eat a cheeseburger".

    Recently I told him I wanted to make muscles on my thighs the fastest growing muscle i have so I can boost my metabolism and he goes just your arms and your tummy a little everything else can stay the same. LOL. Tummy a LITTLE? wholy moly no it's gotta go. and everything else should not stay the same, but he's sweet for saying it.

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  • MaryB2
    MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
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    Honest, especially if I ask.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    Lie your *kitten* of, tell me I look fantastic, since it doesn't really matter. Tell me I look terrible, I'm just going to think you're an *kitten*. Tell me I look amazing, I'm gonna think you're lying through your teeth.

    See, man-eater.
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
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    Tactfully honest.

    This applies in all areas: if he's mad at me, if he doesn't like something I've cooked, if he doesn't like how I look. If he wasn't honest I would worry about the extent that he was preserving my feelings. I'd rather know the truth so I can deal with it head on.

    That said, tact goes a long way in making the truth palatable.

    I'd say this ^ Honest, but tactful. The truth can be told and feelings also preserved, if done right :laugh:
  • Jubee31
    Jubee31 Posts: 93 Member
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    Honest, but said in the right way. If he's a jerk, I won't listen. But that works both ways....I can't be a jerk to him either.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
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    In regards to your body?

    So be honest, or sugar coat it?

    Discuss.
    So tired of being sugar coated that it goes straight to my hips instead of my head, can't take a compliment seriously anymore.
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
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    i want them to be honest but aware and tactful. i will never "does this make me look fat?" because i don't want to hear a "yes." instead, i'll ask if they "like" the outfit or if there is something in my closet/something i could do to look "even better." :)
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    I want complete honesty about everything.
  • stephross88
    stephross88 Posts: 846 Member
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    Honest but not harsh. Here is a story...my boyfriend of almost 9 years had a very bad addiction to pornography. It was so bad that it was effecting our relationship. He once looked at me up and down, disgusted; and told me I was the reason that he was addicted to it. He also smashed a McDonald's double cheese in my face...SO...I would say that it your SO should be honest but in a way that protects your feelings.
  • weightedfootsteps
    weightedfootsteps Posts: 4,349 Member
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    Honest but not harsh. Here is a story...my boyfriend of almost 9 years had a very bad addiction to pornography. It was so bad that it was effecting our relationship. He once looked at me up and down, disgusted; and told me I was the reason that he was addicted to it. He also smashed a McDonald's double cheese in my face...SO...I would say that it your SO should be honest but in a way that protects your feelings.
    Wow!! Isn't amazing people can be so hurtful...Honestly if someone did that to me they would be hurting!!

    I agree honesty is great but with compassion thrown in for the other person's feelings!! I wouldn't ask if something makes me look big..I already know...that question was invented to be lied to. I will ask if something looks good on me...If the answer is no then its not a big deal.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    Honest but not harsh. Here is a story...my boyfriend of almost 9 years had a very bad addiction to pornography. It was so bad that it was effecting our relationship. He once looked at me up and down, disgusted; and told me I was the reason that he was addicted to it. He also smashed a McDonald's double cheese in my face...SO...I would say that it your SO should be honest but in a way that protects your feelings.

    abuse isn't honest, it's just abusive.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
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    Truth in love. There are ways to do this... sometimes a challenge... but there are ways.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
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    Honest but not harsh. Here is a story...my boyfriend of almost 9 years had a very bad addiction to pornography. It was so bad that it was effecting our relationship. He once looked at me up and down, disgusted; and told me I was the reason that he was addicted to it. He also smashed a McDonald's double cheese in my face...SO...I would say that it your SO should be honest but in a way that protects your feelings.
    I would pick the honest and harsh...if I knew my SO was thinking those things i'd want it to be over with.
  • artickb22
    artickb22 Posts: 411 Member
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    cold hard truth all the way for me! I can take it.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
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    Lie your *kitten* of, tell me I look fantastic, since it doesn't really matter. Tell me I look terrible, I'm just going to think you're an *kitten*. Tell me I look amazing, I'm gonna think you're lying through your teeth.

    See, man-eater.

    NIBBLER!! Man Nibbler. Just ask the husband, boyfriend, love slave. :)
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    Lie your *kitten* of, tell me I look fantastic, since it doesn't really matter. Tell me I look terrible, I'm just going to think you're an *kitten*. Tell me I look amazing, I'm gonna think you're lying through your teeth.

    See, man-eater.

    NIBBLER!! Man Nibbler. Just ask the husband, boyfriend, love slave. :)

    *Suspicious.*
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
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    *Suspicious.*

    Lol, you should be. Since really I only have an estranged husband, long distance boyfriend and imaginary love slave. Sighhh, I have to invent my friends.
  • MrsRichmond060212
    MrsRichmond060212 Posts: 18 Member
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    I definately expect honesty.. But it doesn't matter what I look like or what I'm wearing, my husband always says I look gorgeous. Lord only knows why he thinks so but he's being honest, he thinks I'm just beautiful no matter what. If only I thought as highly of myself lol!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    *Suspicious.*

    Lol, you should be. Since really I only have an estranged husband, long distance boyfriend and imaginary love slave. Sighhh, I have to invent my friends.

    Ok now you just made me sad. Which means you're trying to trick me!
  • chellebublz
    chellebublz Posts: 568 Member
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    This is a tough one for me, because it bothers me when people aren't honest with me. But on the other hand if my fiance were to tell me he thought I looked awful and he wasn't attracted to me, our relationship wouldn't recover from it.

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