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ldrosophila
ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
How many times a day do you tell people (usually women, not always but usally) to eat?

Seems thats a constant theme on these threads.

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  • magerum
    magerum Posts: 12,589 Member
    None anymore. I gave up.
  • Sw33tKnees
    Sw33tKnees Posts: 119 Member
    None anymore. I gave up.

    Don't give up!!! Just because you may not individually/personally know it's working but if just one person out of 50 people do it, it is still a major success!!!! There a ton of people that use this site and most of them are trollers so your advice may be being taken and you just don't know about it! Take for me as an example! I am 43 and ALL MY LIFE I have been drilled to believe that eating less is the way -- the only way -- to loose weight! Yet, by seeing post and responses by people like you -- it started to make sense! In fact -- I have not lost weight in the last three weeks so guess what? I am upping my calories!! Stay strong because I know there are thousands more just like me! So I guess I owe you and all those that are on here educating people like me --- THANK YOU!! :flowerforyou:
  • jzammetti
    jzammetti Posts: 1,956 Member
    A lot of times. I admit it. I want everyone to be successful and I am just convinved eating more is the most healthy way to do it so I have a hard time not saying it. :blushing:
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
    Never. Or at least I don't ever remember posting something that unhelpful. I give recommendations on what to eat or not to eat, but the general advice of "eat more" really tells people nothing.
  • MavenMassage505
    MavenMassage505 Posts: 53
    Women here and I eat every three hours. Some of us get it. Some of choose to not get it but if you have your head in the sand anything you advice won't be heard anyway. Keep typing. You never know who you might get through to.:wink:
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
    I teach preschool. Three year olds. We serve morning snack and afternoon snack, and the kids bring their own lunches.

    The instinct is to say "Sit back down and eat your lunch. Take three more bites. You have to eat your sandwich before you eat your treat. You ate your whole lunch---good job." That sort of thing.

    But guess what? It's not legal. Our lisencing department has forbidden that sort of talk. We don't want to set up a mind-set that food equals approval, or that food is a reward. So we may not speak that way to small children.

    We constantly educate the children about the food groups, about healthy and unhealthy food choices, about moderation, etc.

    And during meals we can say things like "You ate your whole lunch--you must have been hungry. How does your tummy feel? Are you sure you feel full? Make sure that you've eaten enough to give you energy until the next time we eat. If you'd like to taste your treat, please also make sure that you taste the other things in your lunchbox. I see that you're cleaning up your space--are you sure you've had enough to eat?" Like that. Not all at once, not nagging, lol. But one of those types of comments each time.

    And it's so much nicer, more peaceful. And obviously, so much more healthy. I love it.
  • NaomiJFoster
    NaomiJFoster Posts: 1,450 Member
    And I see that I was slightly off topic. Ooops.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I teach preschool. Three year olds. We serve morning snack and afternoon snack, and the kids bring their own lunches.

    The instinct is to say "Sit back down and eat your lunch. Take three more bites. You have to eat your sandwich before you eat your treat. You ate your whole lunch---good job." That sort of thing.

    But guess what? It's not legal. Our lisencing department has forbidden that sort of talk. We don't want to set up a mind-set that food equals approval, or that food is a reward. So we may not speak that way to small children.

    We constantly educate the children about the food groups, about healthy and unhealthy food choices, about moderation, etc.

    And during meals we can say things like "You ate your whole lunch--you must have been hungry. How does your tummy feel? Are you sure you feel full? Make sure that you've eaten enough to give you energy until the next time we eat. If you'd like to taste your treat, please also make sure that you taste the other things in your lunchbox. I see that you're cleaning up your space--are you sure you've had enough to eat?" Like that. Not all at once, not nagging, lol. But one of those types of comments each time.

    And it's so much nicer, more peaceful. And obviously, so much more healthy. I love it.

    Hmmm quit a different tone than when we were growing up I was told either to eat or to stop eating.
  • megsmom2
    megsmom2 Posts: 2,362 Member
    Occasionally. Some people's problems are pretty easy to figure out....some aren't .
  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    Anytime I try to tell anyone anything someone jumps down my throat, or tells me I'm wrong. I've lost 65lb's this go around, and about 100lb's all together, but what do I know! Also being a nurse obviously doesn't mean anything either. Lol. Hate to say it, but I give up too. Plus, I feel like a broken record. That's why I posted most of what I have to say on my profile. People can take it or leave it. :)
  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    I teach preschool. Three year olds. We serve morning snack and afternoon snack, and the kids bring their own lunches.

    The instinct is to say "Sit back down and eat your lunch. Take three more bites. You have to eat your sandwich before you eat your treat. You ate your whole lunch---good job." That sort of thing.

    But guess what? It's not legal. Our lisencing department has forbidden that sort of talk. We don't want to set up a mind-set that food equals approval, or that food is a reward. So we may not speak that way to small children.

    We constantly educate the children about the food groups, about healthy and unhealthy food choices, about moderation, etc.

    And during meals we can say things like "You ate your whole lunch--you must have been hungry. How does your tummy feel? Are you sure you feel full? Make sure that you've eaten enough to give you energy until the next time we eat. If you'd like to taste your treat, please also make sure that you taste the other things in your lunchbox. I see that you're cleaning up your space--are you sure you've had enough to eat?" Like that. Not all at once, not nagging, lol. But one of those types of comments each time.

    And it's so much nicer, more peaceful. And obviously, so much more healthy. I love it.
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    This is a much better approach than when I was growing up! Unfortunately, my 13yo has always been skinny as a rail, and would just eat the snacks I sent him with, instead of his sandwich all the time. Unless it was pb&j. That was the only thing he liked when he was little. Atleast now that he's older, I can trust him to eat some real food at school!
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Its approximately 4000 of my 5500 posts.

    The other 1500 are "chillax, its water weight"
  • AnvilHead
    AnvilHead Posts: 18,343 Member
    How many times a day do you tell people (usually women, not always but usally) to eat?

    Seems thats a constant theme on these threads.
    I rarely bother anymore....but I usually do click on the "HAAALLLLP NOT LOOSING WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME???!!1!!!1!??" threads already knowing what they'll usually say. 1200 (or less) calories, tons of exercise, usually not eating back exercise calories.

    Then I chuckle at the helpful "You're probably gaining muscle" responses and go find another thread to read.
  • Tecia1970
    Tecia1970 Posts: 94 Member
    Anytime I try to tell anyone anything someone jumps down my throat, or tells me I'm wrong. I've lost 65lb's this go around, and about 100lb's all together, but what do I know! Also being a nurse obviously doesn't mean anything either. Lol. Hate to say it, but I give up too. Plus, I feel like a broken record. That's why I posted most of what I have to say on my profile. People can take it or leave it. :)
    Quite a few people here seem to like to jump down people's throats. I've asked questions before and had my face chewed off for it.
  • Shadowknight137
    Shadowknight137 Posts: 1,243 Member
    More often than I'd like.

    Several times daily.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    as many times as people say they are undereating,
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    I teach preschool. Three year olds. We serve morning snack and afternoon snack, and the kids bring their own lunches.

    The instinct is to say "Sit back down and eat your lunch. Take three more bites. You have to eat your sandwich before you eat your treat. You ate your whole lunch---good job." That sort of thing.

    But guess what? It's not legal. Our lisencing department has forbidden that sort of talk. We don't want to set up a mind-set that food equals approval, or that food is a reward. So we may not speak that way to small children.

    We constantly educate the children about the food groups, about healthy and unhealthy food choices, about moderation, etc.

    And during meals we can say things like "You ate your whole lunch--you must have been hungry. How does your tummy feel? Are you sure you feel full? Make sure that you've eaten enough to give you energy until the next time we eat. If you'd like to taste your treat, please also make sure that you taste the other things in your lunchbox. I see that you're cleaning up your space--are you sure you've had enough to eat?" Like that. Not all at once, not nagging, lol. But one of those types of comments each time.

    And it's so much nicer, more peaceful. And obviously, so much more healthy. I love it.

    hahahaha! We should give that advice on MFP :laugh:

    :wink:
  • sofielein
    sofielein Posts: 539 Member
    never. there are enough food police on this site.
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    Never. I am not arrogant enough to think I know what will work best for them. I only tell people what worked for me and suggest they find a healthy plan that they like but I never tell them to eat more because that might not be the advise that they actually need.
  • Yeller_Sensation
    Yeller_Sensation Posts: 373 Member
    On my previous MFP account? Once a week.

    On this account? Never. I learned to choose my battles away from the screen.
  • aelunyu
    aelunyu Posts: 486 Member
    I'm all for women eating....! I usually invite them out to eat with me though..
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    I say it a lot, but I'm starting to avoid those threads.
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  • tryclyn
    tryclyn Posts: 2,414 Member
    I post helpful links, mainly, for the benefit of the lurkers and the people that actually read the threads all the way through.
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    Never. Or at least I don't ever remember posting something that unhelpful. I give recommendations on what to eat or not to eat, but the general advice of "eat more" really tells people nothing.


    ABSOLUTELY! Eat more "WHAT?" If I add 400 more calories to the 1200 I'm eating and I eat cookies or potato chips or soda...WHAT Now?
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    I am done.
  • bathsheba_c
    bathsheba_c Posts: 1,873 Member
    I try not to tell people what to do, but I like to lead them to the answer for themselves. So, if someone is eating too little, I will ask them to consider that maybe they aren't eating enough and then list what the results of eating too little are.
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    I try to stay out of it these days. unless it actually looks like the OP is listening.
  • DreamSM85
    DreamSM85 Posts: 38 Member
    I try to encourage people in my life to eat more and more often. I also give them tips and tools on how to do that in a healthy way. I don't believe all calories are created equal if you're trying to live a healthy lifestyle. Often times people don't listen because they don't care or not ready to change things but I still suggest it to them. However, I never pressure or push my thoughts on others because I think that has a negative affect.

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