The cat is out of the bag and it feels good!

Behavior_Modification

I weigh 308lbs right now and started my weight loss journey in February at 313lbs. I'm 5'8" and a size 24. (My highest weight was 330 (about 6 years ago) and I was a size 26 at that time)

The cat is out of the bag and it feels kind of liberating. I finally told my b/f my weight last night. We've been going out for over 3 years and I've never let on before. We are going to eventually get married, have children, and start a life together. I am a very honest and open person about almost everything (except for my weight of course), and I decided it was time to tell him the number. He had NO idea it was so high, much higher than he had ever fathomed. Much higher than anyone has ever guessed, in fact, the highest anyone has ever guessed was 275 (and I laugh). I am always hesitant to tell people my weight because I'm embarrassed and because it is so much higher than other people my same size. My girlfriend and I wear the exact same size (size 24) and are the same height and yet she weighs 50lbs less than me. Another friend is bigger than me (Size 26-28) and she weighs 30lbs less than me. Usually when people think of a 300lb woman, they have a certain image in their heads. And I understand this because I also have this image in my head. I don't think of myself as that big and most people think 300lbs is HUGE. I don't look as big as what that image usually is. (And please know that if you are reading this and are over 300 lbs I'm not trying to make you feel bad, that is not what this post is meant to be about and if it sounds that way please accept my apology).

Now that the dreaded number is no longer a skeleton in my closet it feels good not to be hiding it. I think it is something I need to get over also and this is a good first step. And I need to keep reminding myself that my success with becoming healthier has to do with so many more things other than just my actual weight number.

So if you are struggling with this same dilemma, my advice is to just go for it, it will feel better afterwards. I know that he loves me so much and knowing the truth about my weight wasn't going to change that. The fact that I'm taking steps to becoming more healthy is really all that matters.

cfischer81

You're a braver woman then I am! My husband (been together 8 years, married almost 6) doesn't know what I weigh. I'm sure he has a pretty good idea because he knows my goal weight and how much I want to lose (just do the math, right?) but I have never once said the # out loud to him! :blushing: Maybe it's time to get over that!

questionablemethods

Congratulations on the honesty. My actual number is much higher than most people suspect too--always has been. Just chalk it up to having a lot of muscle--and that is going to help you in the process! Also, it goes to show you how little the number on the scale actually matters. Your end goal might be drastically different than it is for someone else of your height, but they can both be healthy weights.

raspberrymerlot

Good for you! My husband knows my weight. It used to be an embarassing secret of mine, and it seemed kind of liberating to share.

katielouhoo

i'm 5'4" and started dieting last august 27 at 301. i am still not entirely comfortable telling people i know (in person) where i actually was on the scale when i started working at a healthier life. (however, it is now fun to say i've lost 100 lbs). but i agree getting honest (at least with yourself) is the place to start.

it has been soooo many years since i was at a reasonable weight that i cannot do more than guess how much further i have to go. i'm thinking about 50 more, but i will have to assess what looks & feels right for me.

sounds like with the way your body carries weight, you may find yourself doing the same thing. just working to find that comfortable number that makes you happy & healthy. good luck- katie

onahealthmission

Thank you so much for your story. Thanks to you I will share my story as well. I know it is not easy because I have lived with my weight issue in secrecy since I was 14. I am 38 now.


Okay, My name is Maria. I have been married for 17 years and my husband also has no idea of that dreaded #. I was also over 300 lbs. I have been on some kind of a diet all my life. I have never shared my weight with anyone exept my doctors. So as far as telling my husband and family I still have some hesitations but here it goes for the rest of the world. I currently weigh 273 lbs. At my height I am morbidly obese. I have been on this web site for about 8 months and this is the first time I have shared my story. I weigh in every Monday and I finally am dedicated to 1/2 an hour of slow paced walking every day on my treadmill. Ladies, any help that is out there I am finally ready to accept. As my login says....I am "On a health mission" not a diet. I believe that information is power and that with friends all things are easier.....:)