it's 9pm and my friend has had 311 calories

tinasullens

I know this is a serious topic, but I just snickered out loud:

doe snot

I make thousands of typos so I'm not calling it out or anything, I just found it funny.
OK, back to serious-ness: What she's doing shows the beginning stages of anorexia....

I totally missed that the first time! LOL, gotta love typos...I make more than my fair share too!

Rugbychick16

Ya know...regardless of what this girl is doing with her calories....the bigger picture here, the one that I am seeing, is the total disrespect that YOU have for your "friend'
To call anyone a retard or a fool, especially one that you consider to be your friend is just wrong!

moving on.......

Woooooah... First of all, no one here knows what sort of bantering relationship she and her friend may have. My best friend and I playfully call each other names all the time.

My husband and I play like that all the time! We lay in bed and call each other names until the other person can't even think of another one!

Going back to the topic, I worked with a girl like that once, and, much like when people told me about over eating, she didn't believe she had a problem. I found some topics online about low calorie consumption, and I e-mailed them to her, with a note "Just a little something I thought you might like to read - luv ya". and let her do what she needed to do. :flowerforyou: Hope it works out!

(PS last year I found out I had a spot of skin cancer, and since then I tell everyone to wear sunscreen, and sometimes people laugh at me and tell me I'm over re-acting. Sometimes people just don't want to listen)

kwardklinck

Ya know...regardless of what this girl is doing with her calories....the bigger picture here, the one that I am seeing, is the total disrespect that YOU have for your "friend'
To call anyone a retard or a fool, especially one that you consider to be your friend is just wrong!

moving on.......

I'm sure she really does love her friend. She's talking out of frustration. She's probably been talking to her about it and the friend won't listen. I have that problem with certain family members and find I just have to hold my tongue to keep from screaming at them for the things they do in the name of "weight loss".

Yurippe

Ya know...regardless of what this girl is doing with her calories....the bigger picture here, the one that I am seeing, is the total disrespect that YOU have for your "friend'
To call anyone a retard or a fool, especially one that you consider to be your friend is just wrong!

moving on.......

Woooooah... First of all, no one here knows what sort of bantering relationship she and her friend may have. My best friend and I playfully call each other names all the time. And she's on this website, so you can ask her if you want. Second, maybe she's planning on showing this to her friend, and the information that we've all given here as a 'wakeup' call.

I can see where some people may think that she's completely badmouthing her friend.. but we don't KNOW that. Text is a horrible communication device. I say there's a pretty good chance her friend has seen what she's posted (because she wanted her to see) and that it was her attempt at humor.

This has been bugging me since yesterday. I was hoping this post would just disapear quickly. Since it's still circulating in recent posts I feel the need to say something.

Regardless of what sort of relationship they have this was posted on a public forum. Retard is considered a hate word by a lot of people. I've tried to remove it from my vocabulary. For anyone that doesn't see a problem with the word please check out the below link to see where I'm coming from:

http://soct.convio.net/site/PageServer?pagename=BantheRword

A very small portion of a letter posted on that site:

Our “Spread the Word to End the Word” campaign is aimed at changing the perception that the R-word is acceptable and the good news is that the world is beginning to slowly change. Classrooms are becoming more tolerant, communities more accepting and the work place more inclusive as people with intellectual disabilities are slowly being seen for what we’ve always known them to be – people of value who help us all to understand we are each gifted in unique
ways. But this change is too slow and each use of the R-word as a synonym for a stupid action, a schoolyard taunt, or the punch line of a joke, slows our progress immeasurably.

Great heroes like Special Olympics athlete Loretta Claiborne, are visiting school after school to explain that "retard" and "retarded" are words that caused them unbearable pain as children and continue to reflect deep misunderstanding today. Loretta has the courage to face her disability in public, to ask that others treat her with respect, and to ask for more sensitive and caring attitudes in the future. In response, many are joining her, Special Olympics, Best Buddies, and a coalition of organizations in asking children to pledge never to use the word again – not as a joke, not as a description of behavior, not as an epithet. In my own experience, when I ask people – be they first graders or media figures – to join in stopping the casual use of the word "retarded", they universally agree to do so. Most want to go further: they want to understand better how they can serve as agents of acceptance and dignity.

Rugbychick16

Okay, this is getting way off topic here (again). She posted this because she has a questions. That is what these boards are for. Hence ``General diet and weight loss help``. So, if you have any comments or help with regards to her question, post it, because that is what she is looking for.

If your just reading this and getting all fired about about what kind of friend she is, or what words she used, click somewhere else and move away from this topic. It`s that simple.

She isn`t trying to offend anyone, she isn`t trying to hurt anyone, she is trying to get an answer. And this has gotten so far off the topic because people can`t leave well enough alone, that she is getting criticized for trying to help her friend. Is this really what these boards have come to - a place to critique and criticize someones every word.

Cos that`s pretty crappy. And it`s not why most of us are here.

(And let the comments towards this post start flying. In the meantime, I`m gonna go finish my food diary- cos that`s why I`m here.)

innerhottie

Ya know...regardless of what this girl is doing with her calories....the bigger picture here, the one that I am seeing, is the total disrespect that YOU have for your "friend'
To call anyone a retard or a fool, especially one that you consider to be your friend is just wrong!

moving on.......

Woooooah... First of all, no one here knows what sort of bantering relationship she and her friend may have. My best friend and I playfully call each other names all the time. And she's on this website, so you can ask her if you want. Second, maybe she's planning on showing this to her friend, and the information that we've all given here as a 'wakeup' call.

I can see where some people may think that she's completely badmouthing her friend.. but we don't KNOW that. Text is a horrible communication device. I say there's a pretty good chance her friend has seen what she's posted (because she wanted her to see) and that it was her attempt at humor.

This has been bugging me since yesterday. I was hoping this post would just disapear quickly. Since it's still circulating in recent posts I feel the need to say something.

Regardless of what sort of relationship they have this was posted on a public forum. Retard is considered a hate word by a lot of people. I've tried to remove it from my vocabulary. For anyone that doesn't see a problem with the word please check out the below link to see where I'm coming from:

http://soct.convio.net/site/PageServer?pagename=BantheRword

A very small portion of a letter posted on that site:

Our “Spread the Word to End the Word” campaign is aimed at changing the perception that the R-word is acceptable and the good news is that the world is beginning to slowly change. Classrooms are becoming more tolerant, communities more accepting and the work place more inclusive as people with intellectual disabilities are slowly being seen for what we’ve always known them to be – people of value who help us all to understand we are each gifted in unique
ways. But this change is too slow and each use of the R-word as a synonym for a stupid action, a schoolyard taunt, or the punch line of a joke, slows our progress immeasurably.

Great heroes like Special Olympics athlete Loretta Claiborne, are visiting school after school to explain that "retard" and "retarded" are words that caused them unbearable pain as children and continue to reflect deep misunderstanding today. Loretta has the courage to face her disability in public, to ask that others treat her with respect, and to ask for more sensitive and caring attitudes in the future. In response, many are joining her, Special Olympics, Best Buddies, and a coalition of organizations in asking children to pledge never to use the word again – not as a joke, not as a description of behavior, not as an epithet. In my own experience, when I ask people – be they first graders or media figures – to join in stopping the casual use of the word "retarded", they universally agree to do so. Most want to go further: they want to understand better how they can serve as agents of acceptance and dignity.

Thank you for posting that! As the sister of a mentally and physically retarded person I have grown weary of the use of the word. I had no idea about this website... I will absolutely check it out.

As far as the friend goes, if she has taken nutrition classes, she knows very well that what she is doing is dangerous. I would express my concern once and then let it go. She is an adult, right?

hollymires

bad news...that way of dieting NEVER works in the long run...not only does it harm your body...it harms your attitude. Eat your calories...exercise and live life!:noway: