Disgusted with myself....bad bad day!

Been a lot better this week after my all-weekend binge and tonight i have FAILED!! I was left alone in the house this eve and went on a bit of a rampage!!! I have MADE myself log what i have eaten to make me feel DISGUSTED with myself!!! I struggle when i am left alone!

Hopefully it wont dent this weeks good work!!

FAIL!!
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  • psuLemon
    psuLemon Posts: 38,426 MFP Moderator
    Your binges could be happening because your calories are rather low. With about 20 lbs to lose, you should be aiming for around 1/2 - 1 lb per week. Also, if you exercise, you can eat more.

    More importantly, it's 1 day... just move on.
  • imtrinat
    imtrinat Posts: 153 Member
    I think logging it all is the best thing you could have done. It really seems to have more of an impact when we have to look at the actual numbers. I struggle with being alone too. I'm not as much of a closet eater as I used to be but it's much more difficult to keep myself in check. Try not to beat yourself up and get discouraged. I think logging it is a good sign that you are on the right track. Just keep moving forward.
  • Aleta7
    Aleta7 Posts: 92
    I try to personalize the cravings to eat..as a little monster bugging me..I have arguments and lectures for it. But turning it down and making it moan are my happy times..that means I win the argument about eating..
  • North44
    North44 Posts: 359 Member
    Good for you for logging it. I really think that in the end accountability is the key. That's why it's so easy to gain weight back once you reach your goal- out the window goes the accountability and the bad habits creep back in.

    You've got this! You didn't fail, you logged. You've stayed accountable. It'll prevent you from doing this habitually.
  • Darcyclementine
    Darcyclementine Posts: 46 Member
    Oops :wink:
    Well, tomorrow is another day, you can't change what happened today.
  • Shake it off; move on. Food and food choices are not moral issues. Resolve to do better and then do it. There are foods I do not keep in my house because I would eat way too much of them. Avoidance is a strategy that works for me.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Everyone fails. EVERY ONE! the amazing part of it is, you have the exact same chance to make the choices you want tomorrow.

    Fact is, you probably didn't do as much "damage" as you think. Most people see red according to their weight loss caloric goal, and when they have a bad day they are usually not much higher than what their maintenance caloric level is.

    Learn and live better. You got this.
  • Jennisin1
    Jennisin1 Posts: 574 Member
    Eat more, more often........ you are bingeing cause you are hungry.... You should find a calorie limit that still allows you to lose weight but maybe at a slower pace, fill those calories with dense healthy food that leaves your tummy full and happy....
  • retiree2006
    retiree2006 Posts: 951 Member
    Not really a failure...just a side trip on one day, unless you let it continue. Forgive yourself and move along. Good luck!
  • _chiaroscuro
    _chiaroscuro Posts: 1,340 Member
    Monday: 637cal
    Tuesday: 797cal
    Wednesday: 1195cal
    Thursday: inevitable

    Don't do that Hon.
    You deserve better.

    Eat at a sensible, SENSIBLE caloric deficit...say...oh...your TDEE minus 20%, and exercise. You'll be so much happier and you'll lose weight with much better odds of keeping it off.
  • sarahisme18
    sarahisme18 Posts: 574 Member
    Your binges could be happening because your calories are rather low. With about 20 lbs to lose, you should be aiming for around 1/2 - 1 lb per week. Also, if you exercise, you can eat more.

    More importantly, it's 1 day... just move on.

    ^ I agree with this.


    I had huge problems with binging before I got my calories back up to normal levels. Now I eat 1800 calories even while cutting, and make sure to get at least 30% protein—and hardly ever lose control in a binge.


    Another great side-effect of eating more..... binges = not so much binges anymore, because they're not that many calories compared to your normal intake. Your metabolism works better because you have a normal intake on regular days, so binges don't = massive weight gain anymore, and you don't have to feel guilty, and they're not a huge dent in your calories. Win-win from ALL perspectives!


    Eat more, lift weights, be happy with thine self. :) Good luck!
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    Monday: 637cal
    Tuesday: 797cal
    Wednesday: 1195cal
    Thursday: inevitable

    Don't do that Hon.
    You deserve better.

    Eat at a sensible, SENSIBLE caloric deficit...say...oh...your TDEE minus 20%, and exercise. You'll be so much happier and you'll lose weight with much better odds of keeping it off.

    And you will keep getting the same advice after every binge, until we get tired of your game and go back to our own lives.
  • fresh_start59
    fresh_start59 Posts: 590 Member
    On the few days you've logged, you've barely reached 1,000 calories. I hope those 600 and 700 numbers are just from you not completing your logging those days.

    If that's how you've been eating, no wonder you are binging. You are hungry and you need to eat!

    Stop. Take a deep breath. Then do a little research on MFP to see how others are losing weight in a healthy manner.

    Figure out your BMR (basal metabolic rate) and TDEE (total daily energy expenditure).
    Eat less than your TDEE (to lose weight)
    Eat more than your BMR (to stay healthy)
    Eat a little something every 3-4 hours (to reduce hunger and ultimately reduce binges)

    As for being disgusted with yourself, I can totally relate.
    We are out own worst enemy. There is nothing anyone else can say to us that is worse than we say to ourselves.
    But there needs to come a time when we learn to forgive ourselves, let the past be the past, and continue moving forward toward our goal.
  • imtrinat
    imtrinat Posts: 153 Member
    Monday: 637cal
    Tuesday: 797cal
    Wednesday: 1195cal
    Thursday: inevitable

    Don't do that Hon.
    You deserve better.

    Eat at a sensible, SENSIBLE caloric deficit...say...oh...your TDEE minus 20%, and exercise. You'll be so much happier and you'll lose weight with much better odds of keeping it off.

    Oh man. I wish I would have looked at your food diary before I responded. What ^^^ said. This is a fact.
  • Gabriall
    Gabriall Posts: 101 Member
    so long as the calorie to yummy ratio is good whats the problem? yesterday i hit 3500 calories mmmm dominos pizza and gourmate pizza bread OH YES. not worried :) bet i still lose weight this week too
  • i know i maybe should eat more but i thrive on fast results....i like to see the scales move immediately! it motives me, keeps me happy and *usually* keeps me focused however i find that i am thinking about naughty foods (mainly chocolate spread and flapjack from the bakery) everyday.

    My plan is to lose 1/2 a stone then introduce these foods i am craving in small quantities. like go and get a flapjack occasionally but eat half then save other half for another day.
  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    Monday: 637cal
    Tuesday: 797cal
    Wednesday: 1195cal
    Thursday: inevitable

    Don't do that Hon.
    You deserve better.

    Eat at a sensible, SENSIBLE caloric deficit...say...oh...your TDEE minus 20%, and exercise. You'll be so much happier and you'll lose weight with much better odds of keeping it off.

    ^ what they said. exactly.
  • curejenn
    curejenn Posts: 70 Member
    Oh my :( There are so many things in this post that make me sad.

    1. Do not log your food to be disgusted with yourself. Log because its helpful to see what you could have done differently. For instance, I used to frequently eat a small dinner and then eat lots of crap after dinner. I always thought I was doing OK because my dinner was portioned out and accounted for. Most all of the time, it would have been better to have two portions of dinner then a bunch of snacks afterwards. Dinner usually offered more in the way of nutrients and protein then said snacks. I also log because it helps me see a bigger picture ... was my sodium over? did I get enough healthy fats, etc. Don't do it just to beat yourself up over it.

    2. Eat more! 1200 calories a day is just ridiculous. I know a lot of people will disagree but I truly feel that you are setting yourself up for disaster with that low of an intake.

    3. Do you have your macros set to get an adequate amount of protein? Protein has helped me SO much. I aim for 100g a day and I am just amazed at the difference. I have gone from craving sugar so intense that my hands would shake if I didnt eat some type of cake or cookies after dinner to not really caring about sweets at all. I love peanut butter and chocolate now whereas I used to love candy. I was probably addicted to the HFCS.

    4. Move on! Tomorrow is a new day! Your calorie goal is set so low that in all honesty, you probably still ate in some amount of a deficit today or at least maintnance mode so you arent going to experience a set back!!!
  • acm2789
    acm2789 Posts: 29 Member
    Same kind of day, stress eating all day. ;/ I am not logging though, don't feel like getting comments from my trainer when I already know today sucked. It'll just push me to eat better tomorrow. Also, when I feel like crap later it'll remind me to never do it again. Just have to try to stay positive and keep moving forward.
  • Good for you for logging it. I really think that in the end accountability is the key. That's why it's so easy to gain weight back once you reach your goal- out the window goes the accountability and the bad habits creep back in.

    You've got this! You didn't fail, you logged. You've stayed accountable. It'll prevent you from doing this habitually.
    i sooooooo want to reach my goal but sometimes i think i do better because i haven't reached it....it's like once i reach my goal i quit
  • curejenn
    curejenn Posts: 70 Member
    And also, while it may seem like you are getting fast results, if for every 2 lbs you lose you gain 1 back because of a couple of days of "binging" (and I use quotes because in all honesty you are probably hungry!! Which is different from binging), you may want to re evaluate your strategy!! And I dont mean that in a rude way! Its just that consistency will yield great resultS!!
  • ginijor
    ginijor Posts: 13 Member
    It happens to all of us. The key is to let it go, tomorrow is another day! Don't get so down on yourself or else you will be setting yourself up to fail. You can do this!
  • NanaWubbie
    NanaWubbie Posts: 248 Member
    It is what it is. You have confessed your sins, and by doing the logging and being honest with yourself you can now choose not to eat for the rest of the day. Now would be a great time for a good workout! Tomorrow is a new day. Forgive yourself and move on. We've all been there.
  • CharliesInCharge
    CharliesInCharge Posts: 278 Member
    one day wont kill ya
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Been a lot better this week after my all-weekend binge and tonight i have FAILED!! I was left alone in the house this eve and went on a bit of a rampage!!! I have MADE myself log what i have eaten to make me feel DISGUSTED with myself!!! I struggle when i am left alone!

    Hopefully it wont dent this weeks good work!!

    FAIL!!

    1) no one day or even one weekend will wreck you. just stop it from becoming a 7-day or 10-day binge.
    2) try to get over feelings like shame or disgust when you overeat. you are NOT perfect, so don't try to hold yourself to that ridiculous standard. shame and disgust have no place in an evaluation of whether or not you're meeting your dietary goals. disappointment? maybe. but not shame or disgust.
  • jzebracki
    jzebracki Posts: 112 Member
    We all struggle - and we all have bad days! The important thing is that you have more good days than bad days! Don't let it get you down. It is a plus that you are admitting it and that you logged everything! You are owning it, and you will conquer it!
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Monday: 637cal
    Tuesday: 797cal
    Wednesday: 1195cal
    Thursday: inevitable

    Don't do that Hon.
    You deserve better.

    Eat at a sensible, SENSIBLE caloric deficit...say...oh...your TDEE minus 20%, and exercise. You'll be so much happier and you'll lose weight with much better odds of keeping it off.

    This, 100%. If you go with that 1,200 calorie goal, realize that it includes roughly 800-1,000 calories per day deficit already from you maintenance level of calories. You don't need to shoot under that goal. If you exercise, MFP expects you to eat those calories back too. Minimally, you should net to 1,200 calories. Grossly under eating the way you did earlier in the week makes a binge like this virtually inevitable.
  • Milliemocha
    Milliemocha Posts: 26 Member
    Good for you for being honest! There is no point feeling guilty as hell about it - it's not healthy. If you're not eating enough you will be so hungry you will crave anything and then just end up eating anything and everything in sight.... Trust me, been there!!
    Just take each day as it comes and try to eat enough so that you're satisfied then you will be less likely to make bad choices . Good luck
  • LauraDotts
    LauraDotts Posts: 732 Member
    i know i maybe should eat more but i thrive on fast results....i like to see the scales move immediately! it motives me, keeps me happy and *usually* keeps me focused however i find that i am thinking about naughty foods (mainly chocolate spread and flapjack from the bakery) everyday.

    My plan is to lose 1/2 a stone then introduce these foods i am craving in small quantities. like go and get a flapjack occasionally but eat half then save other half for another day.
    You won't lose more by eating that much less. Your body can only eliminate a few pounds of fat a week. If you ate nothing for a week it wouldn't change the amount of fat your body can eliminate in that time. Eating too few calories will actually slow down weight loss. The healthier you eat the faster you will reach your goal.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    So.... for lunch i had....


    2 hot dog buns with 1/8th cup shredded cheddar and mustard. 5 baby carrots, 4 broccoli floretts, 1 tablespoon ranch. 2 chocolate chip cookies, 1 slice of pound cake, 1 cup banana pudding. 2 fried "Chedder Poppers", 5 fried mushrooms.


    *shrugs*

    Welp, that was a stupid choice. Good thing tomorrows a new day!

    It's only a fail if you don't learn from it or give up because of it. :)