Negative people need not apply....

Jmbean84
Jmbean84 Posts: 261 Member
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I've come a long way in the last year. My body has changed in so many ways and continues to change on a daily basis. It took me months, almost a whole year to see those changes in myself. But today I realized just how much my mind has changed too. I realized how much the negative-minded people in my life effect me. There's a few people that cannot see good in anything anymore. They ***** and moan about everything from politics, religion, tv shows, social networking to complete strangers on tv or at the store. It's nonstop. And I can be in the greatest mood, until they start in. The moment I hear one negative remark from them, my whole mood and even my body changes. I know for the rest of the day, I'm going to be tensed up and crabby and just ready to get the day done so I can go to bed. I just want and need some very positive people in my life right now. I know you are out there! Let me hear those positive thoughts people!!!

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  • ChloeRoseLejeune
    ChloeRoseLejeune Posts: 488
    I can totally relate to your situation. I too have a lot of downers in my social circle.

    Basically what I did was I just started to ignore everything and only focus on myself and positivity. I know that sounds kind of selfish, but to be honest, the only way to be positive when you're constantly surrounded by negative people, is to just focus on your own happiness.

    Sometimes when I feel down or when someone ruins my mood, I pretty much just stop right away and only focus on positive things. I don't even let negative thoughts into my head because I know how destructive that can be.

    I hope that somehow helps you, stay strong! :)
  • Sassystac76
    Sassystac76 Posts: 44 Member
    Ladies, so happy that you find the strength to see you are worth and deserve more!

    I completely understand and can relate as well to your situations and understand how you feel. I think it takes a lot of guts to speak for yourself and what's best for 'you'!
    :happy: Positivity is created from ourselves and constructed from our surroundings :heart:
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    I need people telling me I can't do something...
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    no
  • FitBeto
    FitBeto Posts: 2,121 Member
    I need people telling me I can't do something...

    You can't urinate on the waitress after 1 glass of wine
  • Jmbean84
    Jmbean84 Posts: 261 Member
    I need people telling me I can't do something...

    You can't urinate on the waitress after 1 glass of wine

    Bahahahaha!
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
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    You're doing such a great job, keep up the hard work :)
  • mattagascar
    mattagascar Posts: 708 Member
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    Oh yes i can...
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
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    Oh yes i can...
    Ok, you are the only one, you can tell me what to do anytime.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    And here come the cool kids...at least my first post was on topic...y'all just hijacked this poor girls thread (pulls out paddle with holes drilled)
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
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    Oh yes i can...
    Ok, you are the only one, you can tell me what to do anytime.

    Can you two ---- already?
  • mattagascar
    mattagascar Posts: 708 Member
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    Oh yes i can...
    Ok, you are the only one, you can tell me what to do anytime.

    Ok grab Amanda and get in the van
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
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    Oh yes i can...
    Ok, you are the only one, you can tell me what to do anytime.

    Ok grab Amanda and get in the van
    Done and done!
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    And here come the cool kids...at least my first post was on topic...y'all just hijacked this poor girls thread (pulls out paddle with holes drilled)

    yes, please.
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    And here come the cool kids...at least my first post was on topic...y'all just hijacked this poor girls thread (pulls out paddle with holes drilled)

    You have a paddle? Hmmm, we made need to become friends at some point. :wink:
  • tuckerrj
    tuckerrj Posts: 1,453 Member
    Darlin' there are negative people EVERY'WHERE. I wish there was some way to shield you from all of it, but it's not possible. Find the strength within yourself to keep keepin' on through all of it. Okay? It will work out if you perservere.
  • irishblonde2011
    irishblonde2011 Posts: 618 Member
    Yes i get this. One family member has everything yet they are the unhappiest person I know. I have tried everything from going to doctors with them to having a heart to heart. When I distance myself they make up lies about their health to excuse their behaviour and try suck me back in. It is sooooo draining that I dread seeing them. I'm such a positive person day to day. No one can fix you but yourself.
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    "The moment I hear one negative remark from them, my whole mood and even my body changes."

    This sounds to me like you need to change your reaction as opposed to other's behaviors. Because you cannot make others change how they act, only how you react. Psychology 101.
  • mattagascar
    mattagascar Posts: 708 Member
    And here come the cool kids...at least my first post was on topic...y'all just hijacked this poor girls thread (pulls out paddle with holes drilled)

    Hand me that paddle bud...i got some work to do
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    2 guys with paddles!!! This is sooo my night!
  • scarrletti_girl
    scarrletti_girl Posts: 479 Member
    You and me are like exactly the same. But even though it bothers me and makes me angry to the point I wanna hit someone. It's just part of who I am, and I sorta embrace it all. I mean I wouldn't be me if I didn't get absolutely irate at stupid Jerks. Personality changes over time just gotta go with the flow. But over all I am a very nice person. :)
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    You've never seen my paddle here?
  • CheriLMT
    CheriLMT Posts: 220 Member
    Darlin' there are negative people EVERY'WHERE. I wish there was some way to shield you from all of it, but it's not possible. Find the strength within yourself to keep keepin' on through all of it. Okay? It will work out if you perservere.
    I have to say that even though that wasn't meant for me, I hijacked it cause I needed it right now....so thank you
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I've always noticed it, I just don't feed into it. I go out an I'm the only one that says, Pardon me, or I get the door for some old person, or I'll text everyone on my contact list to just say 'HI' and ppl want to know what the f*** im so happy about. Life man, Im high on life. As long as I know that I was the best me for the day, I lay my head on my pillow an sleep soundly.
  • Jmbean84
    Jmbean84 Posts: 261 Member
    Even though you paddle boys hijacked my post, I'm kind of excited to see where this might lead! ;)

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