Husband won't support me

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  • ohmgetsfit
    ohmgetsfit Posts: 22 Member
    My H is both supportive and not-so-supportive.
    He is on my side, will eat healthy foods, go get me healthy snacks so i don't need to face the fridge etc....BUT he brings junk into the house because he's on his feet for 12 hours at work(walking) and it's MY problem that I don't have the will-power to not eat it..sigh.

    I am trying soooooooooo hard to lose this weight! Last night it got sabotaged by a d*mn PB snickers bar..he brought me the pkg so i could eat 1 of the 2...well 2 got eaten :(

    Feel free to add me! :)
  • Lupercalia
    Lupercalia Posts: 1,857 Member
    My husband behaved that way at first, but I'm a stubborn woman. I think he's mostly adjusted to it at this point, but still gets cranky at times and has a hard time understanding things from my perspective. I've decided that's ok, he doesn't have to understand or be my cheerleader, so long as he's not getting in my way or trying to sabotage me, it's fine. He's never been overweight, doesn't understand hormonal imbalances, doesn't understand why in the hell anyone would want to exercise on purpose, etc.
  • annbillingsley
    annbillingsley Posts: 60 Member
    I am sorry your husband won't support you. but I have to say, this makes me feel better as I am not supportive of my BF and he doesn't seem to be supportive of me. He is someone who has obsessions and they change quite frequently. The new obsession is losing weight (we have been together for less than 2 years and I have seen him through this phase several times. the only difference is is that *I* am dieting now too). He has lost almost 25 lbs since xmas, but I am noticing that he is getting a bit sick of dieting and he cheats by taking exercise calories from one day and putting them on days he eats over his calorie limit to make it look like he isn't over. And as he loses weight, he is realizing the calories he can eat are dwindling. A person can only have so many cups of broccoli before bed night after night before it becomes annoying. I have been on the diet roller coaster since I was a teen...been super morbidly obese my entire life. I feel for him because I am on the same roller coaster ride, but I just cannot be a part of the cycle again. And he seems not to be able to support me, either. When I need to vent, he insists on letting me know everything I did wrong and what HE would have done differently to avoid my situation, when all I needed was a listening ear. he cannot be supportive without criticizing and I cannot be supportive because I feel very competitive and to be honest...jealous...of his success while I am so obviously struggling. When I struggle and need a shoulder to lean on, I get criticized or i get his successes thrown in my face. So basically we are making a major lifestyle change but cannot even be a part of it with each other and he threw that in my face last night. I am glad to see we are not the only ones, because he blames me for all of this!

    I am sorry I rambled and made it about myself. I really hope you find the support you need here on the site! I have many wonderful supportive friends on here and it makes a difference, even if you can't share your proud moments with your significant other!
  • amnsetie
    amnsetie Posts: 666 Member
    My bestie didn't want to know either.
    Now I have lost 15 Kg things have changed there.

    btw watch your sodium intake. looks high and he may be noticing that and thinking wtf.
  • Rockstar_JILL
    Rockstar_JILL Posts: 514 Member
    Do it for yourself only....Prove him wrong! I get the most support here on this site. This is an awesome place to be to have people make you feel good about your successes and help you feel better when you make a mistake. Do it for you!!

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